Recently my stress and anxiety has been kicking my ass. My grades are falling and the only interaction I really have with family is lectures. My anxiety centers on my relationship and I'm afraid of my girlfriend leaving me for her guy friend. They flirt ALL THE TIME and she ignores me when he's around. We are going on a trip out of country for my school and he is coming too. I am so scared and sad that she might end up ignoring me for two whole weeks.
I have anxiety attacks daily, nightmares every night, and people just get mad at me when I talk to them about it.
I feel like suicide has been an option for a long time, but I really just want to run away rather than kill myself.
Could someone please talk me out/through this? I don't want to be yelled at or lectured, I just want some help.
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You should have a counselor at your high school who is able to deal with situations like this.
I am sorry that you're feeling that way though, but I can promise you that there is a light at the end of the tunnel. I also think you should find solutions to better help your anxiety.
For one, if your girlfriend leaves you for another guy, she's a frigging sleaze unless if she fell out of love with you. So you deserve someone better and you won't allow her to come crawling back after all the good you've done to her.
People may feel that you talk about it too much around them or it makes them uncomfortable. They don't seem to be very empathetic and actually selfish unless if they're going through problems of their own. I think you need to realize this.
Running away is only a temporary solution that will bring fresh stressors and problems. Where are you running to? What are you going to eat? With what money? Where are you going to sleep? What happens when your parents call the police and they find you? It may be another yelling and lecture that you don't want. What about your already failing grades? They're going to fall further.
Pertaining to your parents, I would be honest with them about how you're feeling. I don't know how they would react since I don't know them, but I would think most would realize that yellling/screaming at their kid isn't the solution. It's actually detrimental to self-esteem and their personal relationship.
For grades, there should be the option for tutoring--either before or after-school. That is something that I would do. If I had homework that I didn't want to finish the night before at home, I would go to school, skip breakfast, and focus on schoolwork.
It sounds like you have tons of issues that are pressing you down all at once though and instead of trying to multitask all of them, I would pick the simplest problem... and tackle it head on first.
After you receive a "victory", your confidence will boost and then you tackle the next largest problem until you face the biggest one. Due to your small successes before, you should be confident enough to handle it.
I hope this helped.2