Most Helpful Guy
Meeting new people.
I should specifiy however that I'm not saying that I hate getting to know new people. In fact, I have very few friends and I wish I had a couple more. I also generally see myself as a pretty social person. I love having long talks, especially about stuff that creates good, long discussions like politics, religion, philosophy, science, literature, movies etc.. My big problem is that I all the things I love talking about or that I love doing are things that you would say/do to people who you are already very close friends with. I'm very much a close-friend person, rather than a buddy-person (I would rather have 3-5 very intimate friendships than 20-30 buddies). I am very bad at small talk and I absolutely hate doing it. All this "so what's your name? Where do you live? Oh, that's so cool! Yes, I have been there before! So, what do you work? Oh really! That sounds so interesting!" kind of crap just goes on my nerves. I am very bad liar and people who do small talk usually lie. I mean, if you meet a guy at work for example and you ask him where he's from, you don't actually give a shit. He could be from New York or L. A. - so what? But then you have to pretend that you find the place cool wherever he happens to come from. Meeting new people and doing this annoying small talk is just so much about keeping up the appearances, doing a lot of pretense-smiling, chit-chatting about trivial nonsense and acting as though you were a very interesting person. I really hate all that kind of stuff. Additionally, I happen to have very good "Menschenkenntnis" as we call it in German (the ability to quickly and easily spot what kind of person somebody is, what he/she likes, what their character is like etc.). This can be very helpful sometimes but it can also make things more difficult because sometimes I don't give new people a real chance. My intuition would just immediately tell me "nope, I can tell you right now you two will not go well together, you're too different". And once my intuition gives me these feelings, it's extremely hard to act against it.1