I mean yes, a lot of DUMB girls go for the guys who treat them like crap and disrespect them but those are usually the girls who have no respect for themselves either.
But the girls who do have respect for themselves and aren't actually bitches.. Do like guys who respect them and have manners and are affectionate and sweet.
So what's up with this?
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Common belief says that there are two types of guys: Bad Boys and Nice Guys, but there is a third type: Good Guys.
Many, perhaps most girls want Good Guys (though many girls admit to wanting Bad Boys), but the reality is that few Good Guys exist, which is one of the reasons most people only talk about Bad Boys and Nice Guys.
What's the difference?
Bad Boys have, or at least appear to have confidence, because they are extremely selfish and, because of their selfishness, don't care what anyone else thinks of them. They also don't care who they hurt. But women, especially young, emotionally immature, and/or emotionally damaged women are often strongly attracted to these men - mostly for their confidence, and sometimes because of the danger and mystery that comes with them.
Nice Guys lack confidence, and usually know it, so they try to make up for it by being REALLY nice. They've heard girls say that they LIKE nice guys and hate jerks, so they figure "if I'm REALLY nice, she'll like me." But these guys are far TOO "nice" in that they are spineless, never make a decision (thinking if they let HER make the decisions, she'll be happy - but girls don't WANT to make the decisions!), and let themselves get treated like doormats. Many are also whiney and complain but rarely DO anything about their problems. Women don't find this attractive.
The rare Good Guy is a guy who has confidence, but is also "nice" - but without a BS agenda. He still stands up for himself, takes no crap, isn't afraid to tell people (even girls) "no", has no trouble making decisions, but he DOES take other people's desires and feelings into account. Some Nice Guys might see him as a jerk, but mostly they see him as an "exception" - that Good Guy that they can't argue with, because they GET why a girl would be attracted to him. They just have no idea how to be like him themselves.
For the Nice Guys: learn to be Good Guys. Quit whining, and start taking action. Improve yourself, improve your value, improve your self-esteem and confidence, and start making decisions. Get comfortable saying "no" to people when "no" is the right answer. Don't be a jerk for no reason, but be ABLE to be a jerk on rare occasions when you have to be. Be "nice" and polite, but don't try to win people over with niceness (use CONFIDENCE instead), and you'll become the Good Guy that gets girls, and that EVERYONE understands WHY he gets girls.10
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