My father was a total jerk and abusive to my mother years ago (now he's toned it down with age but sometimes is annoying) and I still think there are some great guys out there. I haven't lost all hope.
By logic, since the first man in my life failed me and abused my mother, I should be thinking all men are like that but I'm not. So if I haven't lost hope why are some of those guys already giving up?
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Maybe I can clear things up. Yes, some people have a bad experience and then become bitter towards in entire gender which is not healthy, at least in my opinion.
However, as I have talked about before there is a bias in favor of women in both social situations and the legal system to the point that if a girl falsely accuses a man of rape or harassment people will tend to believe her even if she has no evidence. This as resulted in way too many guys getting put in prison, losing their jobs or getting kicked out of college for something that never happened.
Then there is family court. Men almost always get screwed over in the event of a divorce. They lose half of their net worth, a portion of the income every month (alimony) and if kids are involved the women almost always get custody and the guy gets stuck paying for child support and in 30% of these cases he is paying for child support for a child he THINKS is he but in reality it is not.
More and more guys are starting to see that the benefits that used to come from relationships are no longer there and they riskers are too high. So they opt out.0