In the past whenever we would go out to eat, we took turns paying for meals. But within the last couple of months, my boyfriend has lost his job and can't afford to pay for meals out anymore.
The problem is, we are still eating out the same amount. But I'm paying for everything now and I honestly can't afford it. I am spending on average 150-175 a week on meals out. That's a lot of money at the end of the month.
I've mentioned that we should eat in more and cook more but he isn't interested. He still wants to go out even though he knows the costs are too much for me.
Its to the point where I am saying no to hanging out with him to save costs.
what can I do? Help please
Most Helpful Guy
If he can't understand this in a frank conversation - how would you like to be married to this guy? Imagine being broke all your life.
Either he gets a clue or you move on. It's not fair to you and if he can't even see your needs/concerns he's going to be a bad long term bet.1
Most Helpful Girl
You need to be up front with him about it - that's a LOT of money that you're spending on meals. It really sucks that he lost his job, and it's possible he doesn't want to confront his problems or act like anything's changed, but even so, you deserve some respect. Explain that as much as you love eating out, it's draining your bank account and you'd rather save up for the future. If he still. doesn't acknowledge that it's your money and you're the only one in control of how it's spent, be firm with him and say something like, "I know it sucks, babe, but right now neither of us can afford to eat out. Let's try cooking at home together most nights of the week - we'll make it fun."
If he just doesn't want to cook, suggest ordering in meals that would last you until the next day. It'll be expensive and it's not fair that you should have to cover it, but unfortunately if he's not willing to eat home-cooked food you'll either have to keep paying for him or find a way to get him to understand that you're serious about needing to save your money.1