When a woman will typically never help the guy with the chores of fixing a car, fixing the sink, water heater and chores like that?
- It's unfair for a woman to expect a guy to do half of the chores when he does the 'guy' choresVote A
- It's fair for a woman to expect a guy to do half of the cleaning chores and all of the 'guy' chores.Vote B
Most Helpful Girl
In that scenario, yeah the chore division is lopsided, bthere are other household chore arrangements. In our house, if you live here you do your fair share and contribute financially. My husband generally hires people to fix the sink, electrical, heaters, etc because he doesn't know anything beyond the basics, and we pay for it together. My brother fixes the car for us because he's a mechanic.
Everything else is divided up by what were good at doing, for example: He does the laundry, I'll clean the floors and vacuum. He mows the lawn and I'll do the garden. Whoever cooks the meal doesn't have to clean up afterwards because the other person will do it, etc. Both of us are currently renovating and finishing the third floor/attic of the house.
When tasks are divided like that, then it's absolutely fair to expect the other person to pull their weight to maintain the house.2
Most Helpful Guy
I typically pay someone to do "man" chores because it isn't worth my time and I can't be bothered.
But taking five minutes to fold a few shirts which she took the time to wash and iron doesn't seem like asking much.
And even if I DO actually do the "man" chores on rare occasion, she cooks more frequently than me -- and that's time consuming.
I think you should be appreciative that a woman might be willing to spend so much time on menial tasks. They may not be difficult, but the time investment might be substantial (and it's why I typically pay someone to do those things).4