my mom thinks I should keep it. she says I'm abandoning it and it will have phychological problems when it gets older because it was adopted. I just don't think I can handle being a mom right now. The baby's father was a one night stand and he is an awful person who does drugs and hits his sisters all the time. I don't want him to have anything to do with my child. I want it to have a good home and a real family. but my mom wants me to keep it. she says she will babysit it whenever i need her to, but I still feel like having a baby right now would mess my life up, and the baby's too. what should i do?
Most Helpful Guy
I think you should put him/her up for adoption.
Babies and very young children are actually in high demand for adoption - a healthy baby will have no trouble finding parents who will take good care of it. It sounds like your mother just wants to have the child for herself. If you keep the child, they won't get a good father, and it will grow up under the stress of a mother who isn't fully prepared to take care of them. Children know when they have affected their parent's lives. That would be far more damaging than simply being adopted. I definitely think adoption is the smarter choice in your case. It's something more people should do, and especially so in your case given the situation with the father. Sooner is better.1
Most Helpful Girl
If you're not ready to have a child, then its best for the child to go to a loving family who wants one. There are so many couples out there who can't have children and would love a child like it was their own, probably even more because they want it so bad. And sure all those saying that you should keep it and it's a blessing... Well it sure is a blessing, but I'm sure someone who really wants a child, and has both the emotional and monetary means to deal with a baby will be a much better family and provider than a single girl whose not sure she wants to keep it and the possibility she could be fighting off an abusive drug addict father it's whole life. I say give it up to a family that really loves it.1