I feel like I'm too aggressive in life. What to do? Someone please tame me.
Most Helpful Guy
Hmm... to a certain extent, a lot of it is personality. It is difficult to change personality. The other issue is that if you do give up being what you consider "aggressive," you may end up giving up parts of your personality that make you 'you,' basically the pieces that you like. For instance, you may end up stop being completely honest or straightforward because you'll be in the habit of worrying what people think.
In general, what I would suggest is...
---- When you know you are angry, don't take it out on other people. Find an outlet. For me that is music. For you, that may be listening to music, or going on GAG, or watching youtube videos of cats, or whatever. You need to try and simmer down before you explode before others.
---- Think before what you say a little more. HOWEVER, do it sparingly. You DON'T want to end up being worried about being honest because of worrying about someone's feelings. Basically, what I'm trying to say is that you should try and filter straight up insults before you say them. If you think of insults, keep them in your head. Insults just create unnecessary aggression between people.
---- Try not to escalate situations. Often times aggressive behavior starts when one party gets angry, the other party matches the anger and shows more aggression, and before you know it each side continually gets angrier and angrier. If you stay calm though, it just makes the other person look like a fool when they are yelling by themselves. This just requires a bit of self awareness and containing rage to insults or slander.
I saw it was also mentioned by someone that you should stop listening to rock music and start listening to romantic music. False.
I listen to all sorts of rock music all day and I don't get angry a ton. It all depends on how much you let the lyrical contents of the music shape your life. The music you listen to is pretty chill anyway xD2
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Most Helpful Girl
Try looking at things from other people's perspective before reacting. Not every situation warrants the same reaction. I don't know how you are IRL but on here you are pretty aggressive. And while sometimes it's justified, other times it's not. I don't think you should turn it completely off because then you wouldn't be you. Maybe just realize that you don't need to chew EVERYONE'S head off lol.2