My boyfriend is 17 years old and I'm 14. We live in North Carolina. We both have been thinking about getting married for a long time, and really want to make that next step. We have been together for a long time. I consider him my husband even if we are not legally married. I'm not looking for advice and why I shouldn't get married, I've been through a lot in my life and he's been through it with me. I am definetly mature enough for this. I know we will have to get our parents consent. Can we get married at 14 and 17 in North Carolina?
Underage Marriage in NC?
What Guys Said 15
Even if you feel you will stay together forever, you still need to wait until you're at least out of highschool.
When i was 14 i was in love with someone too and I KNEW we were going to be together forever and that we were going to get married and have a family, but it didn't work out. And that happens to a lot of 14 year olds in relationships, so i really suggest you wait until you're older.4
My first thought would be how will this under aged guy support you? Where will you two be living? At family or friends I presume being he prolly isn't working anywhere , and if he is does his income provide stability for you both. Take an old mans advice and slow down a bit. If your love for each other is what you say it is , it will withstand the test of time. Both of you should finish your education first of all that within its self will aid in stableizing your relationship and give you both a better chance at financial independence and stability1
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You are almost certainly not mature enough for this. You both need to finish high school at least before even thinking about marriage. I'm assuming you are sexually active. I hope you are on birth control. If you are not then you are definitely not mature enough for marria2
Hey, just because the ancient Egyptians got married at 14 doesn't mean you have to!3
Marriage is better than adultery. Go for it if your law allows it.1
Yeah you'll regret that in a few years. And I don't think you can.2
Why not wait until 18.0
Such an obvious troll loloololol0
thinking about getting married for a long time...
I mean from Born0
lmfao u are so lame0
What Girls Said 13
You've been thinking about it for a long time? You're only 14, doesn't seem like a long time. Tell how long have you two been together.
I know you said that you guys don't want to hear people telling you why you shouldn't get married but hey you shouldn't get married. That is way too young. You feel like you're already married but do you know what it takes to be married, it's not just love, there's legal stuff and money that you need to support your family. Heck I'm 19 and I would be crazy to think about stuff like that3
You've been thinking about it for "a long time" ? You're fourteen. You're too young to get married. It doesn't matter how mature you think you are, you are still a child.4
I don't know if you can but DONT Trust me just DONT!0
you are mentally, physically, and emotionally nowhere near ready for marriage. you're 14! you're a kid! be a kid!0
You kids are also going through hormonal stages. If you feel that confident wait another four years.0
You can get married at the age of 14 with legal parental consent in the state of North Carolina. However, getting married at your age is a bad idea. Keep your childhood while you can. Think of him as your future husband, current boyfriend. Not present husband. I know you both may think you are mature enough to make this decision, but ten years from now, you'll look back and say "I had no idea". Mark my words.
but I know you'll disregard those words, so look at it this way. Where will you live? How will you support yourselves while in school? If your answer has anything to do with friends or relatives, you're not ready for marriage. Period. Marriage is for independent, self supporting adults.1
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How have you been thing about it for a long time if you're only 14?4
This is the 21st century. People as young as you don't get married in America. Sure, you may think you're mature enough, but I guarantee you that there's still a heck of a lot more to come. I've been through a heck of a lot myself as a young kid til now. I even wanted to use marriage to a 30 something yr old divorce with a 7 yr old daughter as an escape from my crazy life. I was 19 and dumb at the time. Even though I genuinely wanted to be a mother, I knew inside myself that I truly wasn't ready. Plus, my mom would have killed me. Anyway, the divorce' and I went our separate ways. And I was relieved.
I'm not trying to tell you what to do. I'm just advising you to not use this as an one way ticket to what you believe is a happily ever after. It doesn't work like that. If you and your boyfriend truly love each other, you'll wait it out until you both are much older, already truly experienced, and even more mature than u think y'all are now. Trust me.4