So I just got a promotion at work and am being head-hunted by another company. I should feel really happy and excited because things are going well in life but I feel kind of empty inside. Is this normal?
I've been thinking a lot about whether or not people are truly happy in life. I think a lot of people settle in life and never reach their true potential. But are they happy? How do I get to a place where I feel content no matter what? Is that what I should aim for?
Most Helpful Guy
Nothing wrong with having financial goals and you should obviously be proud of your achievements. But what you are doing is obviously not feeding your "soul" and that is why you feel so empty.
I think very few people are truly happy, especially in western society. We are basically taught that happiness comes from money, status and things like that. When people in western society talk about "successful" people they usually refer to someone who's made a good financial career.
People adopt this by placing goals like earning X amount of money, reach a certain promotional level, get that sports car and so on. It's obviously a nice feeling when we reach that goal but that feeling fades.
I believe that true happiness only can come when we have a goal that never actually can be reached or "completed". It's instead an ongoing process instead of a specific point where once you reach that point you feel "now what?"
I think there is a few cornerstones to happiness. One of those is expansion and creativity. We need to grow, expand and explore. It's when we lose our sense of marvel about the world that the happiness also fades. When curiosity dies, so do we.. at least emotionally.
Another cornerstone is contribution and bringing happiness to other people. Feeling the joy, honor and pride in knowing that you have been a part of the happiness and success of another person. Their happiness become yours. Being selfless is a liberating feeling.
The void inside can never be filled by money or status. Those people who only values such things or feel like they have finally "become" someone have probably completely lost themselves. They identify with the external instead of the internal. You have completely lost yourself if you do that.
Sorry for my long rambling. Maybe some of this made some sense.2
Most Helpful Girl
Rarely I know for a fact I've been through a major depression and maybe that's why and its weird some days it is ball curling tear in my face but a lot of the days I'm just numb and just there not really feeling anything. With happiness I think it's something you don't have to think about. It's an emotion so rare and amazing that you know when you're truly happy. This is from an article about suicide but it stuck with me for a long time.
-But I've learned that if you're truly happy, you don't need to convince yourself that you are. You can't employ logic or relative calculus to make yourself happy. You're either happy or you're not.1