Im insecure in a lot of ways, but one area where i dont consider myself inscure is when it comes to my looks. Sure , i second guess them every now nad then, but on a general basis i dont think there is anything wrong with the wway i look.
I like to make an effort to look nice, and do my hair and stuff and it makes me feel way better about myself and im in a general better mood. But getting up on time is my weak point so i abrely have any time during the week to atcually make an effort.
So many days i just put on random stuff and i feel like i look like shit, so i end up feeling like shit. And whenever a guy checks me out, even if he's hot, i'll get anoyed because i feel like he's look at me because i look like crap. And i dont want people to do so. And on top of that i probalry give them the death stare, not because i dislike them, but because im generally in a bad mood and i get self awre when people look at me. I feel like shit often, and i think a lot of people cath on about that.. And you can't forget eyeconact in general.. unelss im talking to the person, i have problems holding eye conatct withj gusy i find attractive.. i freak out on the inside
And when i meet a guy, and we start talking, i have problems showing interest, the guy has to show me that he's interested ( by asking me out on the 2-3 first dates) because i guess a aprt of me need to know if im setting myself up to get disapointed or not. I dont do a lot of these thing conciously, but i can't help it either.
im sick of feeling like shoit and acting like this towards guys... any advice on how to fix this?
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Yep. Put some more effort into being less of a douche. Let me guess, not only do you need to be asked out on the first 2-3 dates, you also think that whoever asks the other out on a date should pay. Am I right? I think subconsciously you feel like you're a prize to be won, and men should compete with each other any pay you for your time.
Why don't you stop fretting over the clothes you choose to wear and start fretting about cultivating some actual human capital. You appearance only serves one function, and as soon as a guy notices you, that function is done. The rest is what you are on the inside.0
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