It seems like dating is a losing game for men these days. I always hear women saying the same thing:
-I want an educated man (college eduated)
-I want a man who has a career
-I want a man who has goals and goes after what he wants
-I want a man who dresses well, takes care of himself and treats me well
I hear that often, and I see a lot of men who can step up to the plate and can meet those demands with ease. However, it seems like in society today, women don't go after those men. I am only 25... but here is what I see quite often:
-I see women who are are 20-24 with 1-3 kids already
-They are all obviously single moms
-Some of them have new borns, but they are single -_-
-A lot of them are going to school, have jobs and their own place
-HOWEVER... when I ask them about the their baby's dad... they usually tell me the following: he had cheated, he had anger issues, he was abusive (mentally), he never really wanted a kid, he changed during the relationship... but mostly the cheating thing.
It takes 2 to tango... but why do women seem to want to have kids with these dirtbags? Do you really think a man in his early 20s wants kids?
Having a child is basically a choice today, especially with all the anti-birth products available... so why have kids so young? Why not wait until marriage? Why not wait until later in life?
Most Helpful Girl
Because accidents happen, and contraceptives don't always work. I'm living proof of my parents failed condom and birth control, and there are guys who do cheat even if they're around for a few years. My parents were together for 10 years after I was born and they even got married and had my brother 4 years after me, but my dad ended up cheating on her with several different women one of whom he later married, and all of this led to my mom being a single mom. It's not like she chose to get pregnant young, but people can be a victim of a series of unfortunate circumstances.0
Most Helpful Guy
It's not an age old question. It used to be uncommon.
The biggest change is that it didn't used to be an option. Women who had kids out of wedlock 80 years ago gave them up for adoption. Now they can keep them, thanks to the web of social services that support them.
Women are not having children earlier than they used to. They're having fewer children, and having them later.
The teen birth rate in the U. S. wasn't that different 100 years ago. But 100 years ago, most of those teens were married.
So the babies aren't new, the lack of fathers, and the mother keeping the baby in that scenario, is the change.2