My mom had her first kid at age 15 with one man
She had another kid at age 20 with another man
In her mid 20s, she met my dad, they got married and had me and my younger brother in their early to mid 30s.
My dad, however, always resented the fact that my mom had kids with other men and my half siblings never really saw eye to eye with my dad and vice versa (since they are adults now and out of the house, they get along great). My dad used to tell me the following as a kid:
-Go to school and get a college education
-Take care of yourself and focus on your career and financial situation
-Meet a woman who has NO KIDS and make sure she is right for you
-Spend a lot of time together and make sure you are right for one another
-After all those conditions are met, settle down and have kids.
This has been drilled into my head since childhood and I have lived by it. However, it is hard to find a woman in today's society because every woman I meet seems to haev 1-3 kids already with 1-3 baby daddies... all single moms.
This is why I ask this question - What is the ideal age you would want a child?
- Late Teens (17-19)
- Early 20s (20-24)
- Mid 20s (25-29)
This is why people split up soon after the child is born... because y'all don't take the time to really get to know each other.
Most Helpful Girl
Where's the option for never? I never want kids. I want a long term relationship with a guy who also doesn't want kids, but does like cats :3
Most Helpful Guy
I'm 27 now and I have been with my girlfriend for over 5 years. I think a good time for us to have our first child will be between 29-33. In Switzerland, most couples have their first child in their early 30s. Teenage pregnancies are almost non-existent. One reason for the relatively late pregnancy rate is that secondary education (especially university) takes longer than in other countries. For example I will probably be done with my Master's degree around the age of 30. I would like to be done with my master or at least almost done with it by the time our first child is born. Financially, I'm not so worried because our government helps young parents financially and there's also things like subsidized daycare and if you're still a university student, daycare for your children is free.