A few close friends I haven't seen for a while have told me about their current boyfriends, saying they know they're the one and have talked about marriage in the near future. My friend in grad school is in a relationship and she and her boyfriend have talked about marriage, names for kids, etc. Another girl in my class just got engaged over spring break.
I'm 24 and I've never even had a boyfriend despite several guys who have said I'm great girlfriend or wife material or would make a good mom. I'm just feeling lonely and down about being single and wondering if/when marriage or a relationship will ever happen for me and I don't know how to get over it when all this love is going on around me.
Most Helpful Guy
Loneliness? —Embrace it! These friends tend to build themselves up by projecting all this excitement and happiness but in reality it is only perception. Most of these high excitement high happiness engagements, weddings, lives of success are a façade and end miserably—seen it many-many times. If you take emotion out of it and look at these friend’s objectively a little analysis and a layer deep it will not be that ideal. It might turn out that you are actually the fortunate one. Loneliness builds character and it will make you identify and appreciate when the right one comes your way or is in front of you.1
Most Helpful Girl
I'm going through this myself! Most of my friends are on their 3rd or 4th kid. Some have been married a while and others are just getting married now.
I know a lot of people younger than me who are married already too. It makes me sad sometimes because I have been told I'm a nice person, great girlfriend and would make a great wife. But no one has snatched me up yet. I've talked to lots of people about this and no one has any idea of why I am having such a hard time.
My last boyfriend cheated on me and after that relationship fell through, I started to get really depressed. I felt like there must be something wrong with me if I can't seem to find love.
To deal with the loneliness I usually try to do things I enjoy. I keep busy, I visit friends, if I'm having a hard time, I find someone to talk to. You're not alone in this feeling. A lot of people have been there and are there right now.
You will find love. It will just take time, unfortunately. I'm 26 and single. I've been online for a while and have been trying really hard, but have had no luck, so I'm taking a break.
Dating is rough, so don't make it your sole focus in life. Focus on other things in your life. The right person will be attracted to what you bring to the table and you won't have to put forth an exuberant amount of effort in order to find love.0
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