Like I don't want kids ever. Like no. Never. If you ask why just look at all those people who have to take care of their family before themselves. No thanks!
Most Helpful Guy
You're 20. No offense but I thought I'd never want to have sex when I was 8. Only 6 years later and I could hardly think about anything else. Sooner or later you'll feel your biological urges. I'm not saying you must have kids but ruling out something with 100% certainty is silly when you're only 20 years old. I'm 8 years older than you, getting close to my 30s and I can tell you one thing: you'll change a lot during the next 10 years. You probably don't believe me. That's fine. I also didn't believe my dad when he said "one day you'll want to kiss a girl". I thought he was talking bullshit. But my life experience has taught me that nothing should ever be completely ruled out. Even James Bond once said "Never say never" :-).
Besides, taking care of someone else and feeling like they're more important than you can be a very valuable experience. It's humbling. I don't think learning to be humble is a bad thing. And just because you have children doesn't mean you'll never have time for yourself. If you find a good boyfriend/husband who is willing to share the work with you, it won't be all that bad. My parents also went traveling together when I was a little kid or my dad would stay home when my mom was working late or going to the movies or dinners with her friends.6
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Most Helpful Girl
I know for a fact that I want a child in my life. But I often think about how selfish the act of having kids is. It is after all just the biological urge to propagate the species. All the good feelings that come with it, is just nature's way of ensuring we have an incentive to breed. It's natural selection at work. Nothing more.
On the other hand, the more humans we bring onto this planet, the more we are destroying it. Of the thousands of babies born every second, how many actually contribute significantly to human kind? Most of human kind (me included) are more like just leaches on earth. With every minute of our existence we pollute and ruin earth for the other species that call it home... We have way more humans than is sustainable, yet we keep producing more and more...
Meanwhile there are millions of kids out there that don't have parents or anyone to take care of them... why don't more people that want kids just adopt one of them?
So what I am saying is, while I want kids, I recognise it to be a selfish desire, and would rather adopt children to fulfil my wish...1