Say you got in shape or lost a bunch of weight to spite your ex or to be hotter than someone else to make them feel shitty? If so what was your experience?
Most Helpful Guy
Hmmm, I would be lying to you if I said my ex wasn't at least ONE of the factors for me getting into get shape.
It ultimately came down to 3 things:
1 - Getting in shape for myself
2 - To prove to all my naysayers wrong
3 - To show my ex up
I can't deny that it doesn't feel good when someone sees you and you're WAY different than what they remember, you see it in their face, especially if you put in the hard work and they see you several years later.
There's a saying "Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the other person to die."
That's not entirely true. Some people are able to harness anger productively, steer it in the right direction, use it to attain new heights and reach peaks they never thought possible. What most people ultimately don't realize is that because very few things burn hotter than anger, it makes for some DAMN good fuel.3
Most Helpful Girl
It's a myth. Even if you get in shape after a break-up, the ex never falls to their knees and screams "Oh my god how could I let that go!". And if they wanted you back just for having a hotter body, how vain are they, and they didn't really like your personality, did they, because they dumped you? So how does that make them feel bad? It's better to focus on doing things for you, not being petty and trying to get back at them. It won't really help you move on.0