Honestly, I'm a train wreck. No matter what I do, I never feel like I'm good enough. Not only am I short, but I used to be very overweight. I thought that once I lost the weight I would feel better about myself, but here I am... 75 lbs lighter and finally normal weight, but I still feel like shit. :(
I just don't know what to do anymore. I've tried practically everything but I just can't find any confidence. I'm extremely lonely, and there is nothing I want more than the comforting touch of a girlfriend, but I just don't know how to get one, and I don't think I'm good enough anyways.
I was told that women like confident guys, but I just don't know how to become confident. Does anyone have any tips or anything they can offer to someone with low self esteem?
Most Helpful Girl
Firstly, congratulations on the weight loss! That's amazing, well done! Be proud of yourself for that :)
Losing the weight didn't change anything because you haven't healed your heart. Those external things can help, but they're not everything.
Your height doesn't matter at all :) as an example, a friend of mine is shorter than me (I'm about 5'5) and he has a lovely girlfriend. Prior to that, he dated many women. He's a great person and that always shines through, even for shallow people.
I've used affirmations many times over the years, and saying them regularly really does help. If you're willing to try something a little different, you can read the affirmations out infront of a mirror... you might find this weird and / or challenging, but looking into your own eyes is a great way to do it... how often do we truly look at ourselves?1
Most Helpful Guy
I would probly say that the only way of doing that is being yourself and doing what you love doing. As much as you want a girlfriend dont focus on it, put it aside because you will find one eventually. Do your thing whatever makes you happy. Dont do it for others. Be positive dont be shy around people be outgoing have your own personality thats what confidence is all about being proud of who you are and standing up for it. Bro im skinny but fuck it my personality attracts women and right now all i have is female friends and i dont have a girlfriend because none of my frmale friends are the ones i want to date ( actually there's 2 i want to date but they're taken) and ny friends are hot they get numbers on a daily basis but none of them im interested in. So its all about the positive energy you give towards women and other people. How do you do that? When you meet a girl dont talk bad about yourself. Tell them the besstt things about you and your goals and what you're working on for the future and how you see yourself in a few years and of course add a few jokes into it and you will see that women will find you attractive and will want to talk to you because your fun to talk to and because your a great person whos also working on himself to feel better about himself and he's not doing that because he wants to be normal. Just be happy and NEVER EVER talk bad about yourself to anyone because people will feel bad for you and will push you away cause your the person that everyone needs to help to make him feel better! Good luck man!!0