I'm 13, and I'm going into 8th grade. I'm very responsible, have good grades, all that stuff. I'm on summer vacation right now and my friend invited a bunch of people to go to the mall. My mom said I couldn't go unless a parent stayed (not going with us to every store, but at least in the food court or something). I understand this, but I just feel like it's a little overprotective. My friends parents are dropping them, but I can't go because everyone's parents are at work. And it's not like my mom needs to drive me because where I live, you walk out of my front door and can literally see the mall, it's a 2 min walk. Also, this mall is pretty safe and in a good area. Is my mom being overprotective? Can I convince her to let me go, or should I just not say anything?
Most Helpful Guy
13 is good age to start with in my opinion, as long as you have some money to eat or buy some trinket stuff like charm bracelets.
Nothing is worse in a mall than a bunch of broke teens loitering around killing time. That is how adolescents get in trouble; trying to "invent things to do" when they don't have the money to patronize the businesses.
What is so funny is that I have a brother that is 16, and my mom for the longest time was worried about him "getting into trouble". I campaigned for my brother to my mom, saying that as long as they have money to eat and drink at the food court, he and his friends will be just fine.
Most teenagers just want to go somewhere without direct supervision and to socialize with their friends and with peers.0
Most Helpful Girl
Hmmm. I went at 13 for the first time. I don't see the issue as long as you have a cellphone and you are with a group of trustworthy people. My mum is very protective and makes me text her like every 20 minutes when I go out but she still lets me go out at least (but I rarely do because I hate going out lol). I'd say talk it over with her, maybe get her into contact with some of the mums of your chums who are going too. When discussing it with her make some sort of plan like, "I'll text you when we leave the food court and go to *insert store name here*, then I'll text you again in about an hour". But if you try to talk to her about it and she clearly isn't going to let you go, don't hound her about it.