Pretty much every girl I've ever been friends with and have had crushes on haven't really cared about me. I just realized that literally no girl has ever texted me first to ask me what's up or how I am unless I haven't talked to them in literally months (because I realize they're a shitty person/friend). I have plenty of good guy friends but girls I know are just acquaintances. I seem to give a lot more than I get from them, and have started putting little to no effort into my relationships with girls because they seem to be borderline parasitic and just take take take. Whether it's my emotional support, academic support, or whatever, they take it and they never give that back in return if I ask for something. It just seems a lot easier for me to do my own thing than have girls waste my time. Maybe I'll meet someone who will actually like me and want to spend time with me but I'm done putting in effort for people who don't care. I do have a huge crush on this one girl right now and have had it for a while because she seems sweet and thought I was attractive at one point (could tell by her body language, hair play, and what not) but I realized she never texts me first and thus doesn't give two craps about me either, so I think I'm gonna put that to bed. I wish I could find a reason to text her, but knowing that she doesn't care and literally has never texted me first unless she needed something from me, there doesn't seem to be much of a point to try.
Most Helpful Girl
To be honest, there are a ton of people who are just careless... And eventually your bound to find that one person who will care for you more then anyone. For exemple, I had many crushes but they easily wore off cause apparently it wasn't a real crush. Now though, I have this one crush that I can't stop thinking about day and night and it still hasn't wore off... That just goes to prove that you'll eventually fall for the right one cause deep down you know their good for you... Hope this makes sense and cheers you up0
Most Helpful Guy
I'm the same way as you describe in your post. It's crazy that there's more guys that have had the same experience with girls as I have.
I always been shy and serious, snd because of tough life experiences it resulted with people say that I somehow come off uptight and distant due to my seriousness in which I developed due to this notion that I somehow felt ignored and that I have "a sour face". had that personality all through high school and my twenties and now thirties. I always have struggled to be talkative with girls, I always have struggled with interaction with women due to that shyness and in an attempt to interact with a girl that I find attractive I have always found myself tounge tied with nothing to say to her, wanting to interact and talk to her so bad but coming up short with words and empty handed. Or in most cases not talking to them. It's sucks but I'm kinda moving out of that now. I'm taking to girls now more than I ever had, I met girls that were not good for me that I wonder how could I find the "one" among all this women who overlook me for others and missed out chances thanks to insecurity and not much confidence in myself. I'm there still fighting. Hits and misses. Successful interactions and times I wish I would have approached but just couldn't do it. Sucks but life goes.1
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