I'm 19 years old and i left everything behind to marry the guy that i love so much. My mom said i will regret leaving school and college when i get older but i think she's wrong. I mean i'm my mom did this in the first place.
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Most Helpful Guy
There is a consensus here for the results that tells you it's a bad idea for you to marry at your current age. There are statistics that shows consistently that almost all marriages that happen before the age of 25 are more than likely to fail and end in divorces. But if it's really what you want to do, no one can tell you otherwise and stop you. Know what you're getting into. Marriage and married life is a big life changing decision. And to make matters worse really think carefully and see how things are actually working out within the first 5-6 years or so after you've been married before deciding to just go ahead and make babies. Because if the marriage does fail, and things go bad, your children would be the ones that end up paying the ultimate price for it. It would really mess up their lives. Also, without a college degree or education you really need some other kind of backup plan to bring income to help support your family. There are other kinds of job and training for trades that you can look into. Do not solely and absolutely rely on your future husband to provide for your family at all times in this economic climate, because if for any reason he loses his job unexpectedly or can't work and can't provide for you and you're kids, then that's going to be a huge problem. If you're already working then you should be fine. There will be lots of adult responsibilities you both will have to share from chores, bills, rent, taxes, etc. Don't expect it to be simple easy fairy tale happily ever after kind of results because that's a complete lie and a made up fantasy.1
Most Helpful Girl
No. You have the right to get married. But once you do settle down do make time to go back to school. Because the work force is not a joke, and unless you have experience and qualifications for better jobs, you won't hardly get anywhere. Just be smart with your choices. You can always go back to school. Don't ever let somebody tell you you will regret it. My late mother married my dad at 19-20. She is thankful that she had me, because she had three miscarriage's and I'm the only daughter out of my two parents. Yes there were things my mom did regret. But my mom was also happy because she had me, when she didn't really had no one else. So who knows. But only you and your future husband can work out. And prove her wrong. Don't make her mistakes. Because I believe your mother is no longer with your father, and she made some really terrible mistakes with him and is still bitter about her choices. But just because she made them, doesn't mean you have to. Just be aware of the consequences of the choices she made and learn those lessons well. So that when you finally have children, you can nurture them and train them well to be responsible loving caring adults. And congratulations with your engagement and upcoming marriage.1