So I've been friends with this guy for several months now, and we click really well. We hang out for hours and hours, and I was interested in him. He seemed interested in me too. Then one day I message him that we should hang out and have a dinner. He said that he will check his schedule and let me know. I was like wtf coz it sounded like he didn't want to hang out with me. Then soon after, he messages me back, and tells me that he wants to have dinner with me. So I told him I can't becoz I made other plans with my friends even though I didn't. I just wanted to see if he's really interested in me and want to pursue me. Then he's like ok, and then doesn't message me back for 7 months now. WTF. I don't message him either coz i don't want to make it sound like I'm available all the time. I find out later that he got a new girlfriend now. I mean wtf is wrong with this guy? how childish is that? if you don't wanna hang out with me just say it up front.
Most Helpful Guy
twisted logic at its finest...🤔!!!
Ok, so you were interested in a guy &I he just SEEMED interested in you.
You message the guy to hang out and he says he'll get back to you an let you know!
You then assume he's playing a game and trying to not hang out with you. Even though he does what he said he would do and got back to you saying "hey let's have dinner"!
You get your chance at the guy YOU'RE interested in, and you then blow him off with a bogus lie saying you have prior plans. You knew the risk of this, and should have prepared for the consequences.
He says cool!! And was probably able to piece together that you were now playing games and decided to take his friendship/relationship elsewhere.
Again, you let your pride get in the way of what you want, (Because again we're just assuming this guy was interested in you), and don't make contact for 7 months. in which he moved on and got a gf!!
Now I'm sorry you feel frustrated but look at how this player out. You lose here. Blame can be found on both ends. So I'm not saying it's entirely your fault. But, if you liked the guy, you should have went after the guy. None of this chase me stuff. I'll play games to test his interest level. Because mate, with playing games, you may win, but you can lose. It works both ways.1
Most Helpful Girl
Sounds like a guy wrote this but I'll answer it anyway.
You blew him off and he left you alone. It's your own fault for playing games.5