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I do think it's f'ed up. I would never dare to check my gf's phone, or email. Even when she asks me to pass her something from her handbag , I will hand her the bag rather than go through its contents.
If to continue to strive to find a problem, you will, (innocent or not) and most likely find an excuse rather than a reason. What makes you so suspicious in the first place?
Isn't that the truth! lol I think the ladies of our society have taught us guys well, maybe too well, to not go in their purse. I never do it, and feel like I'm commuting a grave sin if I reach into a lady's purse.
I would never cheat,never have conversations my partner would disapprove of,so I would have nothing to hide.BUT,I am extremely private,it's a pet peeve for someone to go through my stuff,phone,computer,room,drawers etc.It is disrespectful.
No,you and your boyfriend have trust issues if you honestly think it's f'ed up
The personal boundaries people draw are up to them. The fact that he does not want her to be looking through his "phone" which these days contains a substantial amount of personal information, is not unsurprising. How deep is the relationship? How long have them been going together? How much of themselves have they each committed to the relationship and what level of trust exists? You say your phone is searchable by your boyfriend, what about your purse? Most women I have known are fairly sensitive about someone going through the contents of their purse, which for a guy these days would be a fairly similar invasion.
What would a girl hide in her purse?? seriously! the worst thing you would find in a purse is a tampon! If you have nothing to hide you shouldn't get nerves or upset when your partner looks at your phone.
I don't give a sh*t who goes through my purse. There is nothing in there I'd have to hide from anyone let alone my significant other. All your going to find is make up, pens, paper, some trash, old reciepts, hair ties, and other random crap I threw in there to take along. lol..
Me and my boyfriend leave our phones around. He never used to when he was upto something so I'd wait then check and every time I was proved right, he had texts pics and vids of different lasses. I say if their acting strange you have every right to check so you don't end up getting messed around ( oh by the way I'd prepare yourself for worst because it guts you when you find something, it used to make me physically sick with nerves & any trust is lost)
Depends on how honest you want to me. If you abuse the privilege and drunk dial friends of his, he would have a legitimate reasoning for wanting you to stay away from his phone. Or if you were texting his friends on your phone, it might get awkward. Or maybe he is hiding an opinion that he knows you will be offended to hear from him. Although, infidelity is a highly probable explanation somehow or sexting is taking place.
There is a big lack of trust in their relationship. There are two possible reasons I can think that he may not want her in his phone. He is either not being loyal and is using his right to privacy as a way to cover his activity, or he is hiding its content in order to save them from fights over speculation and misunderstanding. Does she have a reason to be suspicious? Has he betrayed her trust in the past? Is she one of those girls that are just over protective and jealous? If she feels the need to go through the phone often, there is something that is making her feel uneasy about their relationship. If she is one who overreacts to messages and calls that are of no threat every time she does go into his phone, then I can see why he wouldn't want her to go through it. However, banning her from looking through it will only make the situation worse.
my sisters havin a baby in two weeks. she just found a message on her husband's phone sayin - sleep well, I love you- and a dirty picture of some other chick. there are some real f***heads out there, and if the person doesn't want you to see their phone, like my sister's unfortunately just found out, they could well be hiding something.
me and my guy don't 'check' each others phones but we are allowed to look in them if he or I wants. he knows my password and I know his
we even text people for each other if the other one is busy
i think that its bout trust tho I would tell him to stop if he would look in it every time we hung out
if he did it lot I would feel like he dosnt trust me
I don't see the need for anyone to go though my phone. I've had private conversations with my friends that aren't bad about other guys but something to do with them. People don't need to know who you talk to every min of the day! I have nothing to hide but no one gets to see my phone besides my best friend but he knows everything and I know to delete messages I don't want people to see. No letting someone see your phone means nothing because there's always a delete button
I personally don't care if my girlfriend goes through my phone, since she's pretty cool and I have nothing in there to hide. If she felt like she regularly NEEDED to go through my phone, then I would definitely have a problem.
Phone checking is a childish immature thing, which is done by most people who are insecure.
I don't think so. I don't have anything to hide, I'm not cheating, I'm not talking to other guys but I will not stand it if my boyfriend browsed through my texts and call logs. I don't do that to him and I expect him to respect me enough not to go through my things.
It's not her phone, it's his. Even if he has nothing to hide, it is nerve wracking for some people to have others going through their phone. I personally hate it. I don't care how much I loved a guy, my phone is MINE. Not his. If he wants his privacy, it doesn't mean he is cheating or has something to hide. It just means he wants his privacy. I don't see anything wrong with that...
Nope, that's just a privacy thing. I don't like my boyfriend going through my purse or phone, and it's not like I'm hiding anything. I respect his privacy the same way because I trust him.
I'd let my girlfriend go through anything she wanted..
lol well I always go threw my boyfriend phones not like checking if he's cheating or anything just he's pictures but I never let him see my phone haha I have nothing to hide I just don't like it when he goes threw my stuff
I don't ever get on my boyfriends phone or unless I need to call someone and I don't have mine. I don't go through his texts or who called him. He doesn't do that to me either. But it is his phone or her phone and she wants some privacy.
My boyfriend and I don't do that.
There is no need. We trust each other.
However he sometimes tells me who he is calling and texting (I don't ask and I really don't even care) he just does just so. :)
other couples do this yes, but there are trust issues... If I know someone goes through my phone I will delete what I don't want people to see
if you have to go thru ur girlfriend's/boyfriend's phone the nobviously there is no trust in the relationship
Very Nice Answer. My ex Girlfriend and I don't do that because we trust each other, oh she doesn't really trust me...LOL