How do I destroy my slut reputation?

Hey guys, so I did this to myself. After a really bad breakup I went crazy and slept with a bunch of guys. I was 18 at the time, like seven guys. So I’ve been dubbed a slut now. Not to sound arrogant but I’m one of the prettiest girls so I guess other girls are enjoying this. Anyways I literally haven’t had sex with anyone in seven months. Even when I was going crazy I’d never slept with anyone’s boyfriend or any ex’s friend or family member. I’ve been off the radar. This guy I rejected two months ago because his cousin is my ex. Messaged me today after I posted a picture and he said “you’re used 🤮🤢 disgusting”. It literally came out of nowhere and it made me cry. I told him off and asked him to name the guys I’ve slept with and he said he doesn’t have to know the facts but I’m just used. It hurt me badly and now I don’t know how I can ever overcome this. I’m even contemplating suicide. I’ve been through a lot including physical and sexual abuse as a kid. Tried to act like a tough teenager and I just ended up hurting myself. No one knows anything about me but everyone judges cause all the guys went to brag. Any advice?

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You guys are amazing! Bless you all. Honestly, it makes me feel so much better to know they’re still people out there that aren’t so judgmental.

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  • Don't let them get to you. What happened, happened and you can only move on. Guys and girls who make comments just have too much time and are petty. Not worth saving your reputation for them. Take this opportunity to get rid of all the toxic people in your life.

    Some people go to a different college in a diff state or neighbourhood. The past will always remain but the future will always be there for you. Don't hurt yourself anymore, you have learnt from your mistakes and forgave yourself. Don't let everyone get to you.

    I wish you only happiness in your future!

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  • Yo you can fuck whomever you want whenever you want and they can't do shit about it. They just want to be mad. Guys like the one that was being rude to you only do that because they're mad that they couldn't have you. When I finally lost my virginity, my ex went around telling people we slept together. I confronted him in front of all his friends and he admitted he was just pissed off I wouldn't sleep with him when we were together.

    You don't owe anyone an explanation. As long as you're clean and you're not cheating or anything like that you can do what you want. People need to chill out. They wanna watch porn and they want their partners to be good in bed, but they also act like every girl has to be pure and pristine. Fuck all of that. You have a good heart. That's what matters.

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  • Okay listen, 7 guys is nothing. You have the right to do whatever you want and sleeping around after a break up is normal! You are not a bad person, just a human being just like the rest of us. Your way of handling your emotions was being with guys, nothing more than that. My friend has slept with maaaaaaany guys and a girl I dated had slept with prob around 50-100 guys. Even my ex had slept with 7 guys before me. No biggie! Haters gonna hate. Just focus on what´s important.

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  • This is something that only time can take care of, or a move out of town. In time, if you continue to not fuck around, then the "slut" label will fade. It will fade for two reasons. The number of sex partners will slowly increase for many people, and their number will approximate, or surpass yours. Also, labels tend to fade in time, as you act in a different way, and not fuck around.

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  • What is done is done no suicide would make things right. Plus who would in their right mind send message like that to anybody, makes me feel sick. Guy who would really love you wouldn't care about the past, he was anyway selfish prick.

    Keep your head high.

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  • Just wait, as soon as the other people grow up they'll see that you're not a slut. But just a normal human. Everyone fucks, students fuck a lot with a lot of people, grown ups fuck a lot with the same person. You're not a slut, you just slept with a few guys in a short period of time.

    Let them be and live your life. (:

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  • " I’m even contemplating suicide"
    Nothing in the world should make u do this.
    I know u did some mistakes, but it can be forgiven.
    You should change your ways and start pursuing god. God will love you and accept you.

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  • Part of growing up is meeting new people. Making new friends. Having different friend circles. If you date, date new men then. They won't know about your past. The right person for you also won't judge. Everyone fucked up before in some way. Thankfully for you, not every person in humanity is going to know your past by default.

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  • Water under the bridge. You’re gonna hear people tell you that doesn’t make you a slut but it doesn’t matter cause that doesn’t stop some guys from being mean. The best thing I can say is that you jus t need to live by what you believe is right. Like all things this too shall pass. Get involved in other things take a break from guys for a bit. You’ll be fine.

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  • You're facing the consequences of your irrational behavior. Sleeping with a bunch of guys is self-destructive. Your sadness is mainly psychological not socially. You did it yourself, now you have to fix it yourself, take it as a lesson and accept what happened. I would start by cutting people out of my life, change number, school etc and start again. Suicide ain't the solution. There are enough people who care. Get yourself someone you could vent to though like mom or something.

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  • lol What would I be Here, dear?
    Actions speak Louder than words, And perhaps when you Get another Steady Eddy, Things will calm down Around Gossip Town. xx

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  • Deactivate your social media, change your phone number and restart. You can't change what you did and you can't change others' opinion. People are going to judge without knowing your story - that's the reality of modern society. Don't waste your time trying to explain yourself and restore your reputation - that can do more damage than good sometimes, especially to your mental health. As long as you know who you are and have support from the ones dearest to you, that's what matters. Take a break from relationships and negative media. Do something good for yourself, because you're worth it. I find volunteering very therapeutic, as it allows me to give back to the community and do something that makes a difference - give it a try! Mindfulness helps too - there are heaps of good mindfulness videos on YouTube. Professional counsellors may help with your mental health and are non-judgemental.

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