How do I destroy my slut reputation?

Hey guys, so I did this to myself. After a really bad breakup I went crazy and slept with a bunch of guys. I was 18 at the time, like seven guys. So I’ve been dubbed a slut now. Not to sound arrogant but I’m one of the prettiest girls so I guess other girls are enjoying this. Anyways I literally haven’t had sex with anyone in seven months. Even when I was going crazy I’d never slept with anyone’s boyfriend or any ex’s friend or family member. I’ve been off the radar. This guy I rejected two months ago because his cousin is my ex. Messaged me today after I posted a picture and he said “you’re used 🤮🤢 disgusting”. It literally came out of nowhere and it made me cry. I told him off and asked him to name the guys I’ve slept with and he said he doesn’t have to know the facts but I’m just used. It hurt me badly and now I don’t know how I can ever overcome this. I’m even contemplating suicide. I’ve been through a lot including physical and sexual abuse as a kid. Tried to act like a tough teenager and I just ended up hurting myself. No one knows anything about me but everyone judges cause all the guys went to brag. Any advice?
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You guys are amazing! Bless you all. Honestly, it makes me feel so much better to know they’re still people out there that aren’t so judgmental.

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  • Don't let them get to you. What happened, happened and you can only move on. Guys and girls who make comments just have too much time and are petty. Not worth saving your reputation for them. Take this opportunity to get rid of all the toxic people in your life.

    Some people go to a different college in a diff state or neighbourhood. The past will always remain but the future will always be there for you. Don't hurt yourself anymore, you have learnt from your mistakes and forgave yourself. Don't let everyone get to you.

    I wish you only happiness in your future!

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  • Yo you can fuck whomever you want whenever you want and they can't do shit about it. They just want to be mad. Guys like the one that was being rude to you only do that because they're mad that they couldn't have you. When I finally lost my virginity, my ex went around telling people we slept together. I confronted him in front of all his friends and he admitted he was just pissed off I wouldn't sleep with him when we were together.

    You don't owe anyone an explanation. As long as you're clean and you're not cheating or anything like that you can do what you want. People need to chill out. They wanna watch porn and they want their partners to be good in bed, but they also act like every girl has to be pure and pristine. Fuck all of that. You have a good heart. That's what matters.

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  • Okay listen, 7 guys is nothing. You have the right to do whatever you want and sleeping around after a break up is normal! You are not a bad person, just a human being just like the rest of us. Your way of handling your emotions was being with guys, nothing more than that. My friend has slept with maaaaaaany guys and a girl I dated had slept with prob around 50-100 guys. Even my ex had slept with 7 guys before me. No biggie! Haters gonna hate. Just focus on what´s important.

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  • This is something that only time can take care of, or a move out of town. In time, if you continue to not fuck around, then the "slut" label will fade. It will fade for two reasons. The number of sex partners will slowly increase for many people, and their number will approximate, or surpass yours. Also, labels tend to fade in time, as you act in a different way, and not fuck around.

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  • What is done is done no suicide would make things right. Plus who would in their right mind send message like that to anybody, makes me feel sick. Guy who would really love you wouldn't care about the past, he was anyway selfish prick.

    Keep your head high.

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  • Just wait, as soon as the other people grow up they'll see that you're not a slut. But just a normal human. Everyone fucks, students fuck a lot with a lot of people, grown ups fuck a lot with the same person. You're not a slut, you just slept with a few guys in a short period of time.

    Let them be and live your life. (:

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  • " I’m even contemplating suicide"
    Nothing in the world should make u do this.
    I know u did some mistakes, but it can be forgiven.
    You should change your ways and start pursuing god. God will love you and accept you.

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  • We all have regrets in life. All we can do is learn from them and keep moving forward. Don't lose a minute of sleep over childish remarks. I'm sure he'd have no problem saying he'd had the same number of partners. If a guy can't take it, they don't deserve you in the first place

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  • Dont let the prudes get you down. Sleep where and with whomever you like. They aren't god and they can't hurt you unless you let them #slutpride

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  • Just break contact with every one for a while except those u think that they really respect you, and make new friends and behav Normal... It will take time but slowly everything will change, time is cure of everything..

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  • I’m glad you recognize that your behavior was unhealthy physically and mentally damaging as well. You have to first admit to yourself that what you have done is NOT good, and NO man will say this to you because they want more women to have sex with. What could be my motivations for telling you your behavior is bad besides being concern for your well being? None. I don’t know you, I don’t want to sleep with you, I’m just saying how sleeping around and engaging in these types of behavior is not good. It is especially bad for very young women such as yourself when you have conducted this behavior (18). Some men are idiots and will say how what you’ve done is not wrong and etc. etc. but it is clear that this was not something that you’re proud of and something that did not benefit you in any way. Especially the ways that truly matter. DONT do this again, have respect for yourself!

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  • Dodnt try to be Arrogant just cuz u got pushed aroud... being physical stuff is not the deal.. Just take ur time and chill. this feeling will pass eventually

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  • My advise. Own it. They have power over you because they know you don’t like it. Women are the most cruel to their own. They don’t want to be objectified and they don’t want to be seen as anything to guys, yet are so hypocritical when it comes to their own sex. That’s just said what has happened to you. And I’m sorry that you were abused as a child! But trust me, the ones saying all those those terrible things don’t have clean closets either. They just haven’t been exposed! But don’t worry about it, you were going through something and now your past it. So yeah my advise is, if you own and embrace the hate, it will be easier to shrug off because it won’t bother you.. and you know what haters hate the most? The fact that’s they can’t get under your skin. So the next time they say something to you, tell them, “... yes I was and at least my guys LOVED it? How many guys did you leave disappointed?”

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  • First of all. The slit shaming is just bitches being jealous.
    Has little reguard of anything more.
    So what you slept around. You were single. Even if the guys were in relationships they made a conscience decision to follow through.
    Your not at fault for that.
    Reguarding suicide. I would hope you won't do that. You are going to be someone's dream girl and he might possibly be your dream guy. Why take that away from yourself? A life of happyness lost because a handful of jealous females and a guy who has no buisness in your buisness to begin with?
    Keep your chin up sweetheart. Life normally gets hard before it gets better. Just keep in mind someone is looking for a woman like you.

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  • That same guy jerks off to porn stars getting pounded into oblivion. From his perspective, after what he heard he probably thought it would be easy to bang and dump you, then when reality didn't match up to his ego he took it out on you.

    You can't escape your reputation as long as you hang around the same people, unless you join some sort of cult and repent of course (Nun?). Even if you are hanging around the same people and you meet some guy you want to spend the rest of your life with some jealous troll could bring it up again, it's best just owning it tbh, if you can't do that then move far away.

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  • Should just accept the past as the past and not let it affect your future. Don't even think about suicide.

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  • You should change the people you associate with and ignore block the others fuck them everyone has sex and everyone makes mistakes it is a part of life. You're a human not a slut. Everyone of them hoes. That call you that all have something they don't want others to know and they're ashamed of. It makes them feel better about themselves to beat on another. You will get through this and overcome it in a year it'll just be a memory alright. And never consider suicide never. If you need someone to talk to or vent to just add and message me I talk people through things a lot. Stay strong 👌

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  • Time to get out of your hick town and enjoy a better life. It dissent matter how many people you slept with

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  • Your past is not your future let them talk dont feed into their hate that only gives them something to reply to. About the suicide contemplation... I'll try to make this as clear as I can.
    You've already changed you don't want to be the person you were; so do not sacrifice the potential of the person you are already setting out to become because and excuse the language " some punk ass kids made you feel some type of way" you said your pretty and if guys are still hitting you up that says something just dont feed into negative attention I hope this helps

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  • You can't, it lives with you forever regardless you've changed or not

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  • You can't change the past. Don't let them bother you.

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  • Your past will always hunt you but it's evident you change. Ignore them and move on.

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  • Part of growing up is meeting new people. Making new friends. Having different friend circles. If you date, date new men then. They won't know about your past. The right person for you also won't judge. Everyone fucked up before in some way. Thankfully for you, not every person in humanity is going to know your past by default.

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  • Water under the bridge. You’re gonna hear people tell you that doesn’t make you a slut but it doesn’t matter cause that doesn’t stop some guys from being mean. The best thing I can say is that you jus t need to live by what you believe is right. Like all things this too shall pass. Get involved in other things take a break from guys for a bit. You’ll be fine.

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  • You're facing the consequences of your irrational behavior. Sleeping with a bunch of guys is self-destructive. Your sadness is mainly psychological not socially. You did it yourself, now you have to fix it yourself, take it as a lesson and accept what happened. I would start by cutting people out of my life, change number, school etc and start again. Suicide ain't the solution. There are enough people who care. Get yourself someone you could vent to though like mom or something.

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  • lol What would I be Here, dear?
    Actions speak Louder than words, And perhaps when you Get another Steady Eddy, Things will calm down Around Gossip Town. xx

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  • Deactivate your social media, change your phone number and restart. You can't change what you did and you can't change others' opinion. People are going to judge without knowing your story - that's the reality of modern society. Don't waste your time trying to explain yourself and restore your reputation - that can do more damage than good sometimes, especially to your mental health. As long as you know who you are and have support from the ones dearest to you, that's what matters. Take a break from relationships and negative media. Do something good for yourself, because you're worth it. I find volunteering very therapeutic, as it allows me to give back to the community and do something that makes a difference - give it a try! Mindfulness helps too - there are heaps of good mindfulness videos on YouTube. Professional counsellors may help with your mental health and are non-judgemental.

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  • By not wasting your time hanging out with slut-shamers anymore.

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  • there will be a man who'll accept you , just gotta find the right one and stay strong!

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  • Just try to brush it off.

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  • Therapy or counselling

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  • Ignore
    I know it's easy for me to say it but seriously ignore. And be the baddest fucking bitch anyone will ever come across lol. I mean your pretty now imagine if your successful. Beauty with brains is sexy. Those fuckers out there won't dare to say a word against you.

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    • And please don't do something as silly as this again.

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