Why there are so few men like these? Why do people make everything about looks?

These girls are acid attack victims with their husbands.
Note that these men married these wimen after acid attack and did not know them before- when they were normal.
So these men fell in love with these women when they had face and body like this.

Why there are so few men like these? I am tired of people who make everything about looks.

Why there are so few men like these? Why do people make everything about looks?
Why there are so few men like these? Why do people make everything about looks?

Of course I know that 90% GaG guys would have something mean and women hating to say on this lol.

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  • I would say there are relatively few people like that, not just men.

    As to why that is, it's because evolution has selected people to be drawn to physical appearance. It is a sign of health. Men and women alike are drawn to physically attractive people because we have evolved to be that way.

    If anyone wishes looks didn't matter, it is I. But they do matter, for better or for worse, because evolution seems to have selected for that. Those who mated with people who displayed outward signs of health problems tended to have offspring that struggled and died off, but those who mated with people who appeared outwardly to be healthy had offspring that struggled less and didn't die off.

    The thing is, the men who rejected the women pictured AREN'T NECESSARILY BAD MEN. Just like women who reject physically unattractive men aren't necessarily bad women. Moreover, I couldn't make the determination if these guys pictured here are good men based solely on the fact that they are with women with disfigurements. I know very little about these men, other than they seem to have successfully fought millions of years of evolution (well, hundreds of millions, when you consider the evolution of sex and eyes).

    This is why I often advocate for people to become their most attractive selves, physically, emotionally, and mentally.

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    • But they were normal before acid attack... so they health thing doesn't hold up much, right?

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    • Likewise, suppose you gave someone a tablespoon full of something bitter. You told them that the bitterness is *NOT* caused by any toxin. Would it change how they perceive the taste? No, again because it's at a very basic level. Instinctual.

      I remember getting an erection when I was at a pier and saw two girls in bikinis. I didn't even know what sex was, much less anything about heredity and genetic conditions. And yet I was captivated (as were many other men). I think I was about 4 years old! I wasn't thinking, "Golly. The symmetry of her face and her hip to waist ratio clearly indicate she is a healthy female of breeding age with many positive genetic traits to ensure a strong and healthy lineage." I didn't even know what breeding age was. Not even Richard Dawkins would think anything like that. It was all at a very primal and instinctive level.

    • My heart goes out to people who have been rejected for their appearance. No sarcasm, by the way. Their pain is legit. I'm the first to admit it's unfair. My friend since high school has FAS, and he's just a little younger than me and never even kissed a girl. His tears are real and I take them seriously.

      However, the girls who rejected him are not bad people on the basis of rejecting him. They're just human.

      That being said, I think it's wonderful the ladies pictured have found love. I wish them much happiness in the arms of their men, and vice versa.

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  • If I'm not wrong then the woman in the first pic is Laxmi! Can we talk about how adorable their baby is? Her husband is clearly a pure hearted man and he totally deserved all the happiness you can see in that one photo. That baby aww, mashaallah mashaallah!!! 😍😍😍

    Your answer: Because these men have common sense and they are kind. They know that their wives are not at all responsible for what happened to them and they know that it does not ruin their true selves and it should not ruin their lives.

    One major thing that causes these women to get acid attacked is for rejecting a proposal and then these bitter men decide if she did not agree on becoming his wife then she doesn't deserve to be anyone else's wife. Reading the comments of guys here I'm literally in tears that just a few seconds of acid throwing can change how men see them for their entire lives. Horrible.

    The men in the picture are true heroes who are defeating the attackers. They are literally giving these women the kind of lives that they thought they could never get anymore. They are showing these women that they are still totally worthy of getting love. They also show that you don't need a physically attractive wife to be happily married. ❤

    Just a small reminder. A man is definitely not obligated to take their responsibility and it's not good for anyone to forcibly do something. But men can help them by taking part in campaigns raising awareness about acid attack. Any shallow man that's giving the biological excuse for being the disgusting shit that they are, are not human beings.

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    • Yes! That's Laxmi... Her husband is a great man 😇The love story of other girl is cute too. Her name is Lalita Ben Bansi. She met her husband due to one wrong number

      And that's what my thoughts are... I agree with you.

      Maybe that's why we're soul sistas 😇😍

    • Husband due to wrong number? Omg I can't even imagine that because the wrong numbers that I got from dudes have always been shit and their perverted asses desperately needed to know who I am and what my name is. 😑😑😑

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  • For most men, sexual attraction is driven by physical appearance and, for many of us, it is impossible to look beyond the scars. We are simply unable to make ourselves be attracted to women such as these. That does not mean that we have any animosity towards them.

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    • Then you should be understanding it better why acid attack should be stopped. Do you really think these women deserved being treated like that for what has been done to them?

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    • @CubsterShura How can you stop people from being so horribly cruel to each other?

    • I think education about it and campaigning will decrease the damage.

  • I think it's very sweet and highly applaudable that these men have looked over their wife's injuries.

    BUT
    Most people care at least a little bit about looks. That includes women. Have you had a boyfriend? I'm sure you felt attracted to him in a physical way.
    I certainly care about looks and I won''t deny that. It's not the most important thing but it's ONE thing I care about. You can call me shallow but that's just the way I am, the way nature has made. My brain encourages me to seek a physically attractive mate, since this is a good guarantee for healthy children.

    I don't think these women are bad. In fact, I have a huge amount of respect for them. I just wouldn't date them.

    And if it makes you feel better: my pickiness doesn't stop with acid victims. I also wouldn't date Paris Hilton because of her looks and she's not an acid victim. There are many run-off-the-mill celebrities that I don't find pretty and probably wouldn't date for that reason.
    On the other hand, there are many average girls I see on the bus or at uni who I find very cute and whom I would date.
    So... yeah.

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  • They must be rich due to claims so they married them for the money. I can’t seem them being attracted to them unless they some weird fetish for scars or disfigurement.

    Most guys would choose to date healthy attractive looking woman or at least healthy average woman. The only guys with no self respect and confidence would settle for unattractive or unhealthy things woman. It just the way it is and most guys saying they would are either lying even to themselves or desperate.

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    • Just because you are too shallow doesn't mean others are too.

      They don't have money. They're middle class at best.

    • It maybe shallow but it’s the truth and most guys being honest and not being white knights would agree. I feel bad for them of course who wouldn’t and I highly doubt you would date a disfigured hideous guy just because they are ‘nice’ and deserve it.

      We guys have to feel physically attracted to fall for someone and if they not attractive we could hardly care about their personality. I know woman care less about appearances but even they will have certain expectations to be triggered.

    • I would date guy like that if we clicked

  • There's nothing mean to say about love; this is making a happy story out of what was a really sad and tragic crime visited upon girls who didn't deserve it. There's nothing wrong with their love, if the base for your post is true and not being misrepresented or something.
    That doesn't mean that there's anything wrong with taking looks and physical attraction seriously.

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  • Because they saw past the injury and found a part of the women that they liked beyond the disfigurement. Or maybe they are from India and it was an arranged marriage by their parents and money was paid in exchange. You never know.

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  • I wouldn't mind marrying one if she was nice girl. Looks don't matter much to me. Cause later in life the looks are ultimately gonna wear off, but the person's nature doesn't change (unless they have some kind of mental illness or traumatic experience)

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  • Because society is full of acid attacks victims. Right?
    The only thing your pictures prove is how easy dating can be for a woman. Even the ugliest woman on the planet can find a man. She doesn't even have to try. So don't complain about how hard life is for women. You have no problems. All you have to do is show up.

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  • Those guys you put up have some sort of weird nasty fetish. they're definitely not normal. Don't fool yourself.

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    • Just because they are not shallow af doesn't mean that they're abnormal

    • Wanting a partner to be healthy and take care of themselves is not shallow. Sorry.

  • looks still matter, but here it is about love and loyalty. you dont just leave the woman you love just cuz she got disabled or something. its marriage for life

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  • 'Looks' is about attraction. Love can't start 'till attraction does, and then there has to be a conversation.

    You're putting up examples of victims of violence and men that would accept that, and then think everyone should do the same? pfft.

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  • now thats what I call a true love great! respect😎but that does not mean that good looking couples can't be real lovers would you agree?

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  • It's rare because it's rare. Most people - men and women - need some amount of attraction for a relationship to work, and though personality obviously makes or breaks it, both sexes need something in the looks department before it even gets there. That's not a man thing - that's a human thing

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  • Do you really believe that marrying an acid attacked girl means love other than this there is no love in males wow🤔
    You know love can happen to anyone at anyplace in any situation. It never can get measured.
    And you know what the males are so loving and caring but most of the girls like the guy who will play with their hearts. And those players were lovers some day but cause of not getting the girl whom they loved a lot and the girl reject them.
    Then one thing that strikes in guys mind is love is nothing.
    Same goes with girls but I guess most of the girls who face rejection never tried to hurt anyone but yes few boys get influenced cause of rejection.
    I don't I said right or wrong but I said I felt with my personal experience.
    And last I will share if someone is loving you and you will love them back without any condition or I say without any doubt believe me those who says dog gives unconditional love will never be heard cause dog only loves you back when you love them. If you will beat them they will never love you back.
    I guess it's a lot for now😊

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  • Come on SC. You know most people care about looks. Men and Women. Anyone who says otherwise is lying. It's all due to stupid society.

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    • I don't care about looks so long as he's healthy and really intelligent/smart

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    • @Chris_Humble I'd say same about you for name calling others and whatnot.

      I've argued with likes of you using logic but it's futile so I'm not gonna waste my time there.

  • Romance exists because of our sex drives. Naturally partners that display traits favorable towards reproduction are going to be favored.

    We are not creatures that can ever 100% ignore appearance. A bad appearance *will* be a detriment in one's quest for the fiction of "true love."

    Unconditional love is unconditionally bullshit.

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  • Because I would also want someone who's nice to look at, among other things.

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  • I believe because the society is drowned in the competition of objectification and seeing each other as tools.

    Believe it or not; i am not that way.

    Personally; personality is the most important factor to me. Because the value of life and the meaning of our universe is through our personality. The impacts we make in the world and the legacy we create is through our mind and the context of our character. Everything we do and we create is our mentality. The way we observe the world. Our perspective and our belief. Inside us is literally everything.

    No one cares if Martin Luther King JR was handsome or not. What people remember when his name comes on, it's the legacy he have left through the mentality he have had. His legacy is a result of his character not his body. This is life. Life is our character and personality not our body and body parts.

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  • It’s because inner beauty shines past surface appearances. Men are surrounded by girls with makeup on all the time, and that makes the female expectation on her appearance rise. Beauty is sought after in America, so those who aren’t beautiful enough are usually looked over.

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  • Sadly not many people look past looks both men and women do it. Some people believe that they are beautiful but are really ugly and rotten inside

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  • Not everything around us revolves around pure sciences.
    Explore psychology and human behavior to understand the complexities of human brain.
    It's easy to judge and question while one is wet behind the "years"

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  • For the same reason you see so few girls dating short, fat, bald guys.

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  • Because when guys decided to approach a girl that's all we have to based whether we like you or not.

    Also you just called all guys vain and only interested in looks, you don't have the moral high ground against the misogynists here..

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  • India has arranged marriage and dowrys. Not saying it isn't love but I'm not saying that there aren't a lot of men like this either. Remember India has some serious skin color issues and it's not like they aren't racist toward blacks here. So people in glass houses...

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  • I don't think it's wrong to have preferences, that doesn't mean I see them as lesser or anything

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  • Because these men don't care about what society thinks about them or what their status is in the eyes of the public.

    They just care about their own heart.

    They are the real gentlemen unlike us who just care about social popularity.

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  • I mean that's very sweet but I wouldn't be as interested in someone who suffered severe damage from an acid attack.

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  • For me it has to be a package deal, I simply like things that aren't complicated. I like things to be "normal" and "peaceful". I don't need a girl that looks like a pornstar with EE cup boobs, I just want to be comfortable and enjoy life.

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  • Those guys are most likely poor, rich guys have hot women wives. Sad but true 🤷‍♂️

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    • They're not poor definitely.

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    • @PinkChampagne when did I ever say anything about a guy rejecting a girl cuz she’s poor? If that happened humans would be extinct. I’m saying the less money a man has the more he has to compromise on a woman’s looks and weight, that’s all.

    • Which I also think it's not true

  • Ya know in the same likeness, why are women Soo shalow and picky... Why does a man need to make Soo much money and or have a funny personality or a huge penis. (Because it's what we are naturally attracted to my dear)

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  • Because for a lot of people, to be physically/sexually satisfied, they need to be with a partner they find physically appealing, otherwise they won't enjoy sex/physical contact.

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  • It’s sad how shallow the world truly is and it all comes back to basic instinct of wanting to reproduce with someone with the best qualities for survival, which has just involved into the best physical qualities because we don’t need to fight to survive anymore.

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  • Because most human beings need to be attracted to someone to have a fulfilling, sexual and intimate relationship. It's totally normal and acceptable.

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  • Thats true love overlooking all the physical appearences and just focus focusing on the inner beauty that you fell in love in the first place
    These men are kind and they know if today is her tomorrow is him life is full of unexpected thing so they choose to love

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  • Because these guys have kind hearts. Not everyone is kind.

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    • The only 'point' you tried to make was taking something I wrote in a different topic as a reason to undermine what I wrote on this topic, even though it is not related to each other whatsoever.
      What a childish thing to do.

      I begin to understand that a lot of people with - probably - personal issues are on GaG. It's good that I see this early on.

    • @Chris_Humble I'm glad you are seeing this early on.

  • Because a lot of guys are stuck in the must look good in order to love and its sad.

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    • your mentality is sad

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    • And that's why I said a lot of guys. I never said all sooo

    • its like me saying that a lot of girls have the "need good money to love" attitude
      its wrong
      its generalising

  • I am not going around looking for accident victims to marry, but who says in the future I wouldn't fall in love with someone who isn't necessarily considered beautiful or perfect.

    The truth still stands that people who aren't attractive, not people with birth defects, not accident victims, but ordinary people can be assholes when they date people more attractive than they are. I have also met handicapped people who are jerks.

    I just avoid them and not engage in quarrels with them, because a part of me still feel sympathy for them, but being in a wheelchair doesn't make him a saint. He literally bullied me and laughed about it.

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  • Why do you even care? Are you a victim?
    “Why are there so few men like this?” Are you implying that there’s more than a few people that have been under acid attack? There’s 7 billion people in this world so “a few” is a lot of people. Stop trying to make something a problem that’s not even a problem to begin with. Even after those men proved you wrong you’re still complaining about it.

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    • People like your looks at first and then maybe they’ll like your personality that’s how it usually works. They like your looks but they fall for your personality. Would I date someone that looks like that? If they were my type why not? But I’m not gonna go around looking for acid attacked victims to date them because I feel bad for them. And seriously stop being so sexist, women care about looks just as much as men do. Where are the pics of women getting married to acid attacked victims? Oh that doesn’t matter let me and all he other feminazi complain about everything that men don’t do even tho we women do worse.

  • Because looks matter but men are too stubborn to admit it as they feel guilty.

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    • Looks do matter. I don't feel guilty.

    • lol, it's mostly only girls who say that looks don't matter. any man of character will admit to looks do matter.

    • I have never felt guilty guys need to have standards to live a full life as a real man not some paper man being around in the wind. The only ‘men’ on here agreeing are the forever alones or chronic white knights hoping to get in the female gaggers good books. Also quite a few are too young to know any better.

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