Is it a deal breaker to be 25 and still live with your parents? (Page 2)
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Considering that women in Michigan see it as a deal breaker, I wouldn't give a woman any consideration if she lived with her parents. Also unless you pay all your own bills, including rent or a house payment, I don't view the person as entirely "independent".
Well I'm not a guy but i think it depends on the society you live in. In America living with your parents at age 25 is looked down upon while in other countries people don't move out till marriage. Personally I don't see a problem and I think you shouldn't care what others think as long as you and your parents are cool with it.
Agreed. In Bulgaria we often have 2 generations under one roof. It's not a big deal like it is in America.
Not for a girl, no. Now if you're a guy, and you're still a dependent, it could be a red flag.
For example, I moved out when I was 17, bought a house when I was 19, and was making bank. New car, a boat, living large. Of course that was more than forty years ago. :)
now if you work for 10 yearsin a city like San Francisco you still mightnot be able to own a house.
@iFarted - I dunno, my youngest got a masters in Comp-sci in 4 years and got picked up by a tech-giant in silly-con valley making bank. He COULD buy a house, but waiting to see if he really wants that kind of commitment. Starter homes are a million bucks! Instead they rent - their first place was $4500/mo. But the two of them make a couple of hundred grand and they were still broke, so they moved to another apartment and saved about $1200/mo. Enough to pay his student loan. It's tough, but surely do-able. His wife, whom he met at school, also got a masters in their 4 years. They're pretty smart kids and work hard to get what they want.
I'm 25 aswell and I know, it wouldn't be a deal breaker for me.
Even if I'm living alone for almost 3 years now.
You're independent, you have a degree. Perfect!
You don't have your own place yet, so it gives the guy many possibilities. Which is good.
If you have OR find someone, you can build something up together.
In the mean time, you can spare some money as you live with your mom.
You're doing "fine" girl, don't worry ;)
It's fine. I don't blame someone for not wanting to buy a house, then have to turn around and sell it to move in together with an SO eventually anyways.
Plus you can save money to make a better down payment once you find the right person so you two will have lesser payments and have it easier financially.
Good question! Waiting for some answers bc I am in the same situation. Generally I think if it's a guy then it's lame but not a deal breaker. For me, if I'm not serious with someone to live with I'm saving money this way and not lonely. I would like to live alone but it's costly. My boyfriend says I should get my own place. When I tell people I live with my mom they like roll their eyes like I'm immature or something. I don't know.
I think the fact you think it's lame shows that you're insecure about your situation. If that's not the case and I'm wrong, okay. But I don't think there's anything wrong with it.
You're a woman, so its no big deal if you never move out.
best answer.
@diegoD lololol
No. Many guys may be snobby towards it but they aren't worth it. Plenty of guys do it too. Things are expensive out there and there's no reason to force independence before being financially ready. That only brings more stress to the family, not less.
Well if you not planning to stay forever it's fine but if you are girlllll how the hell are you suppose to have sex if your parents are in the next room? might as well find people to be roommates with and move out.
I’m not really dating so it’s not a hindrance for me. I just met a guy and I was wondering like if my current living situation was a deal breaker for some. He didn’t seem to care, he was understanding when I explained the reasoning behind it.
Okay but it still weird espeically if you planning to date him and want to be alone with him to have parents literally right there ;)
He lives on his own so we’ll be hanging out at his place lol!
Lol well that's good but still strive to get out of your parents when you can. Or just move in with friends or with him if you two stay together for a long time.
What do you mean how are you going to have sex? Just close the door, your parents know that as an adult you are a sexual individual.
its not a problem, i did it till age 33 and now i can afford one of the most expensive houses in the country, which i have now ;)
Not necessarily when I started to work around 16 years old I worked on the road doing construction so why would I have a place to live I'm going to be gone 3 months to 6 months at the time means I have to have someone to look after a place while I'm gone and cost me money
In the time we live in, you'll see that more and more. People won't be able to leave their parents home as soon as they could before.
I'd say no, it's not a problem, but you can't ask your boyfriend to live with your mom too. You'll have to choose at some point.
Who care? You can live wherever you want and feel comfortable. If you're comfortable and happy then that's all that matters. Living alone isn't always good or something magic to give you happiness or make people change their minds about you.
Mostly yes. However, if your mom is living in your place rather than the other way around, or if it's a caretaker type of relationship where you moved back with a parent to help them due to poor health or whatever, I could make exceptions.
Depends. You said you live with your mom? So only your mom then? There’s probably a reason behind that.
But if someone’s just living there because it’s cheap or whatever, while they have a regular job, that’s weird.
No. Inconvenient maybe, especially if overnkght stays are froend upon. But i have my own place so always invite SO to mine.
I don't think it would be for many guys. It's interesting how there's a double standard at play though with this situation. I wouldn't date a guy in a similar situation.
Interesting! Out of curiosity, why would that be a deal killer for you?
@winterfox10 I'm trying to get rid of this bias currently, but I would want a man that is independent (he lives on his own, has a steady job and a car). I understand why some men are living with their parents (free rent, for example) but the fact that he's still at home, dependent upon his parents is a bit of a turn-off. :/
Seeing as you have like good intentions and good career made out for you, I don't see it as anything bad. But say if you had no career in check, and were there not because you wanted to save money, but because you couldn't leave. That would be an issue in my opinion
It would have been a deal breaker 20 years ago, but because of the economy, it's just so common now, that it's considered normal, and even wise, to live with your parents.
nope, i'm almost 25. people who say it's a deal breaker would be a deal breaker for me cause they make me feel stupid.