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There is this parable, about being in a boat, and it is an Optimist, Pessimist and Realist.
The wind blows from the wrong direction, and the Pessimist complains, and curses the wind: "We will never get there, now!!"
The Optimist, trying to lighten the mood, just offers his opinion: "Maybe with Wind will change direction, soon?"
The Realist, understanding, says nothing, and just adjusts the sail, to catch the wind, and get them home!!
How does your perspective fit in, with that parable? Which one, are you, really?
It's hard to be the Realist, and say things are messed up! But part of being THAT REALIST, is the second part of the statement!!
"Yeah, things seem bad, and messed up, but I AM ADJUSTING THE SAIL!"
Are you the one that 'adjusts the sail' and 'offers a solution'? Or do you just complain, like a pessimist? THAT is the difference!!
I'm a realistic optimist.
I like to assume the best in people and the world. But reality is there are fucked up people out there too and the world is a harsh place. There's just a small but decent dash of beauty in both. I find if I expect the absolute worst of any given situation, I'm never really that surprised when it inevitably goes to shit and I always have at least the basis of a solution already formed up whereas I'm pleasantly surprised every time things end up turning out alright.
Pray for the best prepare for the worst.
Most Helpful Girls
Well, if realism and pessimism are interchangeable (as you say your pessimism is disguised as realism) then really it's no disguise at all. Being 'realistic' often comes across as a negative, glass half empty outlook which could also be called pessimistic. So, no, I don't think it's a front at all and you're likely being too critical of yourself. Perhaps you might be a little depressed? Or is it that you see the consequences and weigh your decisions from a worst case scenario? Whatever the case, you recognize this penchant for pessimism you've got and that's half way to improving any situation; recognizing that you're in it.