That is what we are called to do. Un-forgiveness, springs sickness and disease, both mentally, psychologically, spiritually and physically. Holding bitterness caused me to have an increase in my asthma and other respiratory problems besides demonic. If you can't forgive, how can you love? I would not want to be around a person who is not forgiving. Because that means if you cross them, they will treat you as to how they treat their enemies. Showing forgiveness shows not only you love that person like yourself, but it gives you the freedom to be at peace as they need peace. Because guess what? At the end of it all, they will have no choice but to forgive themselves as they move on in life.
It is better for your own mental health to forgive and not hold grudges. Now the time you need depends of course on what the other person did and how much they hurt you.In general I don't hold grudges. If what they did shattered our relationship in my eyes I am just being more careful around them and try to hold a neutral stance. But eventually I do forgive them and just downgrade our relationship.
If you were an ideal being living in an ideal world, that "not forgiving only hurts yourself" stuff works. But I think it's unrealistic to expect flawed beings living in an imperfect world to forgive all the time. Some things are not forgivable. Im sure the most saintly person could think of an offence committed against them so great and egregious that they couldn't forgive it.If you're able to approach the ideal, more often than not, that's the best thst can be hoped for. But to expect a super-human ability to forgive always seems unrealistic
That could be beneficial depending on how the person does it. I think everyone should "unilaterally forgive." That way you aren't relying on the other person to want forgiveness. That's a waste of time! When you do it unilaterally, you're doing it for your own peace of mind. Also, you don't only have to "unconditionally forgive" someone. You can also "conditionally forgive" and "dismissively forgive." Certain situations call for different types of forgiveness.www.authenticmanhood.com/two-types-of-forgiveness/goodmenproject.com/.../
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Forgiveness, yes, for something bad, and they acknowledge, and apologize, and try to change, and never do the same thing again. They try to make it right, for whatever it was. A mistake, can be forgiven. When it becomes a pattern, like drinking, and abusing a wife, or child, several times, there really can't be forgiveness, because the other didn't see the wrong, and make a change, and stop doing it!So many ask for forgiveness, and get it, time and time again, not changing. At some point, you realize they are playing you, as a "Fool" with the 'forgiveness' they ask for, and you have to decide when is enough!
Yes, even if you don't think they deserve forgiveness. After you Become the type of person who has it in them to forgive someone who doesn't deserve it, so now you are a force for healing. I think you already know this because you took into account "for your own peace of mind" its about you more than its about the person you are forgiving. It's the good kind of selfishness, one of the only good kinds so its important to develop.
Yes, you should forgive everyone, because holding a grudge won't help your life. I'm not saying you should let people walk over you, I'm saying you should forgive and move on. But if you have to forgive someone continuously, remove the person from your life because they're obviously not good for you.
Lol, no. If there no reason to hate/hold a grudge, we wouldn't even have that feeling as an option. But we do for a reason. You should just use it when actually necessary, though.
Yes but only because if someone harps on the situation it can lead to anxiety which can eventually lead to death from a heart attack so it is best to not obsess and to forgive but also people should not be stupid and never trust that person again.
You're a fucking moron. Now feel free to forgive me.
@BeHappy1985 Yea I don't forgive random internet comments
“Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you.” Eph 4:32 A Christian who is unwilling to forgive others will find his fellowship with God hindered and can reap bitterness.Note that this does NOT say "forgive and forget" since we can never really forget.
You can't force forgiveness and it is not good to forget, even if you do forgive
That's true. I'm not talking about forgetting though, more so if you're willing to forgive, should you? Or in some cases, should one always hold a grudge?
No. U can also not forgive people and get over it. If u keep being a people pleaser then your life will slowly only revolve around doing that instead of living your own life.
Forgive always... you will be affected more of you don’t!
You can forgive without forgetting and allowing people back in your life - but you are also allowed to not forgive.
Yes. Forgiveness is for self not the other person. ♥️♥️♥️
Its healthy for yourself to forgive so that you don't dwell on the crap they did to you.
Nah. I don't need to forgive anyone to attain peace of mind. I just rather forget.
Depends on what they did. Not everything can be forgiven.
I always forgive but I'll never forget. Once you do me dirty I won't be mad at you but I won't fuck with you any.
Forgiveness yes. But there is a saying "the more you forgive someone the less respect you have for them"
Nah sometimes you should hate someone so much that you'd be happy to burn them to their roots
Of course not. Some people don't deserve forgiveness.
Let things go and don't let them scar you. But don't forget either.
I’ll forgive but never forget and no second chances with me.
Forgiveness yes because it is important heal and not carry bad energy or angry around. However I never forget
No, sometimes someone could do something so bad to you, and break you so much that you just give up on them and everything else
Right, then if you forgive that person you lift youself up to a higher purpous restoring your hope for that person, yourself and everything els.
I am religious so for me it is yes. Forgiveness is an obligation for me because I know God forgave me even though I did not deserve it.
You can forgive them but if it’s a continous pattern then you have every right to cut them off
Forgive the Sinner, Forget the Sin Within. xxoo
Someone wise told me this don't mean you have to associate with them though. xxoo
Not THEIR sake, YOUR sake. Don't forgive them, forgive yourself and move on.
Yes, but I will only not forgive anyone who curses God or Jesus Christ. Never.
Are you a Virgin?
@Twenty2: No. Why the hell you asking me this?
Shouldn't you be one considering you're a Christian?
@Twenty2: I wasn't always a Christian. I became a Christian in college.
Why did you become a Christian? Why?
@Twenty2: Because I believed in the gospel of Jesus Christ.
So you would have never forgiven your past self then. What hope would there be for your old non christian self if no one was willing to forgive someone like this?
@RawIronhide: I have never verbally blasphemed God. God forbid I will ever do such a thing. God doesn't forgive blasphemy towards him neither do I.
Whatever floats your boat
@Twenty2 are you asking him about his faith because you question if he is genuine. Or because you find no value in religion?
Because I am curious as to why people believe. Why people let themselves think that there is something above them watching all the time! I am not a believer and never will be. I am a Hindu and only reason I am a Hindu is because Hindu means the person who lives on the land that lies between Himalayas and the Indian Ocean. And the Hindu texts are scientific, if you want I can prove it. I don't know much about them as I have recently started reading about religion but still I personally never cared for any God. And to think about submitting the will to God or being a believer, I just can not do that.
Ok I understand, i don't call myself a christian openly because it can easily turn into virtue signaling. But you don't have to be a christian to read the bible, i have and I've realised there are many concepts that outline the human condition and psycological phenomenon that is rarly explained elswhere. Please consider revisiting some of the genesis stories and think of them from a psycological perspective. There is much that they can teach people.
I believe there are some moral lessons in the religious stories.
Than please don't wright them all off as stupid, archaic and useless. Please consider revisiting them, and understanding them better. There is no limit to what you choose to learn, you don't have to choose one over another.
I don't call the lessons stupid. I only call the people stupid who act without logic in the name of religion and create violence. I was recently reading "The Missionary Position: Mother Teresa in Theory and PracticeBook by Christopher Hitchens" and it literally made me angry as fuck. There's something really bad going on in the name of religion.
Well that's something we agree on. I'm not familiar with that literature but I'm sure you can learn more the closer you get to the source. But it is great that you are reading different interpretations keep going.
Forgiveness takes too long, revenge is quicker.
No. Some things don't deserve forgiveness.
Always! ❤ It makes one grow stronger.
It it'll help you sure but you don't have to.
I have been a forgiving person
Never forgive, never forget
Forgive but don't forget.
Yes cause anger just age you.
It is healthy for yourself if you forgive.
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