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I'd say both. It's just that we tend to remember the bad ones and forget the good parts... and it is sad how one bad moment can take away so many good ones.Now of course there are two main categories of bad experiences, the ones that taught us things, like if you put your finger in a candle flame you learn that fire burns so you learn to avoid it, and there are the things that simply hurt. Like a humiliating encounter for example.Rather than resenting the bad things that happened we should learn to focus on the good ones, cherish them, enjoy them and make the best out of them!Next time your mind wanders of to those bad days, try to spot a spark of joy and focus on it. My school days were a living hell for me, and sometimes my mind wanders off to think how different things could have been if... yeah, that's a bad road to go down... but instead of focusing on the bad moments, I try to think of that one good friend I had back then who shed some light in my life and I feel grateful she was there. So next time you're down that road, find a light to bring along, it will shy away the shadows... 😉
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I think the root of our being is beyond dualistic ideas but on another level I think it’s both because if you look at suffering, there’s the suffering that’s got us down then there’s the suffering we overcame. But then pleasure can also be a kind of suffering, for example if you can’t enjoy it. Anyway I think in the end the suffering we overcame is more important because there’s a fundamental drive to overcome suffering which points to and derives from the root of our being.
Yes, it’s the totality of the experiences we’ve had and the biology passed down to us from our family. By “experience” I mean, things we’ve incorporated into our learning of the world and everything within and outside of it. These experiences can be anything from reading books, talking with friends, listening to a popular public speaker, getting into a car accident, experiencing a breakup, pondering about the universe, etc. It’s an almost infinite list that all can have some affect on how we view the world and the story we tell ourselves about why we’re here, what our morals are, what my occupation is going to be, what my ideal girlfriend/boyfriend will be, my favorite sports, my hobbies, etc. Again, an infinite list.
Man, this is why I never want anyone to ask me to describe myself. All of these factors... we're constantly changing and evolving.
This is 100% true. You can potentially change drastically on how you look at life based on a book you read or someone you listen to. The stories we tell ourselves about everything is caused from how our brains perceive the environment. How you can be affected by a prominent speaker and not another person relates to the experiences and biological differences between you two. I feel like this understanding of the world makes me more at peace, stress free, relaxed, and free to pursue whatever I need or want to pursue. There are people who believe in a literal hell existing after they die. I can’t imagine the quality of life for people of this belief, seems very constricting and less open. Our cortisol levels, identity, and lifespan can all be affected by the beliefs we have about everything.
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I personally feel like I understand the world in general terms enough to effectively communicate with people and my environment. It’s really a profound thing. I hope more people get what I’m saying, such as yourself. It can really change everything and make you more at peace with everything and content in a way. I have examples if you’d like to hear them out sometime, I’ll PM you.
Sure, PM me. Being more at peace is the process I'm aiming for.
The hurts we have suffered,. The obstacles we have overcome. The times we have surrendered. The knowledge and wisdom we have learned. The emotions we have felt. The needs we have met. The joy we have shared. The wonders we have beheld.
We are the essence of all of our experiences, all that has shaped us, all from which we have deliberately tried to learn, and all from which we have learned despite our desire to not be affected by the experience.
Very true, my friend.
I would say both but I would place a bit more emphasis on what sort of suffering you have managed to successfully overcome in terms of shaping you in a more unique way, because there are countless people who suffer. The percentage of people who have successfully overcome their suffering is probably going to much smaller. It's like those people have managed to swim against the tides instead of being among those that got swept away by the tides.
[...] The percentage of people who have successfully overcome their suffering is probably going to [be] much smaller. [...]
It might be one in the same. Life here (in the world) is trauma, since it isn't all love... thus suffering, but we overcome that. we are the sum total of both. The question is what is in control of us. It's choice + work to change to overcome that which does not benefit us any more.
It’s both. To add on to other opinions. It’s the acceptance of the self, being able to forgive your self and the others, then you can see deeper into who you are, what you learned and take that to become better.We are human and we all go through life changes/challenges/sufferings. It’s how we overcome those obstacles. Many suffer from not able to pull themselves out. Our past shape who we are, also our strengths help us continue.
How are they not interrelated? Things you suffer, endure, and live through supposedly develop 'character', but who knows?Some say, 'each day above ground is a blessing,'
Have you overcome every suffering you've endured? I haven't. Or maybe it's an ongoing process.
@SydneySentinel Facing some serious medical issue, just now, and with that, life-threatening, it brings a new perspective, that I have not yet considered. Not yet 'overcome' but I am channeling the tenacity and resilience of Honey Badger, and expect to come through it, intact and maybe a better person.
I probably give more credence to the things I've suffered then what I've overcome, my natural resting state is self deprecation so that fits in better I guess, probably sounds darker than it should but effectively what I mean is around friends I'm more likely to take the piss out of myself then big myself up. That's the result of having older brothers and spending most of my youth playing sport and being in changing rooms where arrogance/overconfidence soon gets beaten out of you lol
Not just the things we have suffered and overcome but also things we have experienced and enjoyed. We shouldn't just focus on the difficulties and negative things in life -- those beautiful moments in life also mean as much to shape us into becoming who we are.
both we can become better from hurt or worse it depends on how we focus what Has happened I mean don't let bad words make you down people who do this want feel good for hurting you rose above it use it to not hurt but yo be the best nice person you can
Like all things throughout the universe, you are the sum of what you are now and what happens to you.
Both. We learn a great deal by both, and are changed by both.
We are who we are based on our experiences and they shape and mold us
Sure it is everything you've gone through has shaped you into the person you are
The things we have overcome.
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