Do You Share Your Deepest Thoughts And Fears With Others? Or Keep Them To Yourself?

[caring__1]

There's a big difference between wanting to share my deepest thoughts and fears and actually sharing my deepest thoughts and fears. Ideally, I'd love to feel that free, knowing I could be totally open and honest without anticipating negative repercussions.

Unfortunately, people today feel entitled to criticize anything that differs from what they want to see or hear. We have no control over what thoughts and feelings pop into our head, but we do have control over actions we take as a result of those thoughts and feelings. I always find it interesting how women complain that men don't express their feelings, yet these same women hold back nothing when they hear something they don't want to hear. Having a preference is not a judgment about others who might be different or their preferences.

Wouldn't it be nice if people prioritized making sure everyone feels safe at all times? We'll never get what we want if we never prioritize making sure people will be comfortable when they give what we say we want.

[DrunkAss]

I might have some sort of psychological issue in that I tend to share them with everyone around me. Some of it might be due to the intoxication but I tend to do it even when I'm sober, just to a lesser but pronounced degree.

Well, I am biracial and bounced across cultures a lot. I suppose I started, through my experience, to see whatever cultural formalities as barriers to getting to know someone. But I don't want to intrude upon other people by being nosy and asking them very personal questions to try to break the ice.

So my attempt to break the ice is to share everything I should normally find and others might even be embarrassed to find me sharing with them as soon as possible with the hopes that I'll invite them to do the same. It sometimes works... sometimes misfires terribly. But works enough times and has earned me enough friends and even a wife that I continue to do it.

I try to lead my life being as open of a book as possible... and try not to be too boring of a book. :-D The problem I find is that, when I want to share my deepest thoughts, vulnerabilities, with a person, I sometimes find it difficult to pinpoint them. But I'll share whatever pops into mind as soon as it pops into mind. I have no filter.

[Cynicaldreamer]

I keep them to myself. Why? You just can't trust people nowadays, even the ones that supposedly care for or love you.

They'll judge you, use it against you, or tell others your business. No, people are too messy nowadays. It's hard finding people you can open up to...

[AliceTheNguyener]

Deepest huh? Well I'm very open with my girlfriend so yeah, and some with my parents and my friend circle when the topic comes up. As for others I don't share my deepest thoughts and fears, but I am generally more open about not-so-deep stuff.

[Jjpayne]

I think could share them with anyone. I fear that the day I die I will no longer exist, that I will simply disappear. I hope that there is an after life but the older I get the more I think about it.

I fear the unknown, the dark, the things unseen. The quiet moment behind you that you can't see who is behind you.

I fear that one time , while I'm driving that somehow I swive into the other lane.. because the lanes feel so close together I fear making a mistake

I want to leave something on this earth before I go, leave something significant to be remembered by

There are a couple things for you

[M1k3y]

I keep it to myself. The world is a dark enough place as it is. I can handle myself and can just keep concentration on the little light at the end of abdark tunnel.
If your hope is fadinng and you need a hand, then don't struggle alone...



When you're down and troubled
And you need a helping hand
And nothing, nothing is going right
Close your eyes and think of me
And soon I will be there
To brighten up even your darkest nights

You just call out my name
And you know wherever I am
I'll come running to see you again
Winter, spring, summer, or fall
All you got to do is call
And I'll be there, yes I will

You've got a friend

[Lliam]

I'm to preoccupied to ask myself what are my deepest thoughts and fears. I can't think of a constructive reason to do so. Thinking about fear would make me a fearful person and could even manifest what I dwell upon.
If something could present a danger, I deal with it or prepare for the possible eventuality. Like having a fire extinguisher just in case you ever need it.
Worrying, though, feels like weakness.

My wife and I talk about things that come up. I enjoy talking to her and benefiting from her wisdom.

[ecfresh]

I share them with those people I trust. I grew up holding them inside and thinking the cool kids thought differently so I would be labeled an outcast by expressing myself. Had to learn that every person is unique and our internal thoughts and feelings are what inspire art and beauty in our world.

[Don-__-Don]

I keep them to myself, I never will trust another human being with my sensitive secrets. All it takes is one bad argument and it'll be used as ammunition against you.

Not to mention how people like to gossip and that person could end up sharing the secret that way.

[Massageman]

I share of them with my wife. I share a few with my best friend. I still keep a lot of them pent up inside, but I'm rooking on that.
It's a shame that people have to feel SO. guarded, and can't be vulnerable.

True "intimacy" (not the sex kind, gang) is seldom achieved to any great degree in most relationships of any kind.

[minibigproblem]

This is a bad habit of mine, but yes. I share a lot for so little. Sometimes they say deep things back, and that’s when I know I’ve met someone that is real and isn’t just trying to put a front. I also put a front, but it’s nice to talk deeply to others even if they aren’t really listening. Damn that shit sad 😂😂

[PBandJ_Nerd]

It's easier to keep them to yourself. Most times we do not want to know and see the negative reactions people give us, so we try to handle it ourselves for as long as we can. Or we're so worried that we might hurt someone emotionally that we just don't say anything.

[Ozanne]

I keep a lot of things to myself. I don't need to burden people with things going on with me that aren't exactly ruining my life while others go through things that are worse. I can handle "thoughts and fears" on my own.

[Hangry22]

Nope. I don't do it intentionally. I just don't have the courage to spit it out. Even with my closest friend, i don't feel comfortable enough to show what goes on in my mind

[MecheD]

I like to be open and honest so I share a lot with others. For the simplest reason of me being myself and being straight forward. I just find it too hard to try to remain hidden as a person.

[Andres77]

There's only one or two people on the planet that know some of my deepest secrets, and not the same ones either, and not all of them.

There's your:
Public lifePrivate lifeand yourSecret life

[ChiTown33]

I've probably shared more the past couple years. Than i have my entire life. But generally i just keep them to myself. You give people the keys to do damage qhen you let them in your heart and head. And if one thing the past 40 years has taught me no one outside my family cares enough about me to merit sharing anything with.

[JoyGirl]

If I had one person I was super close to, and I know they will not leave me, I would share all my secrets.
Since I don’t, I keep them to myself. 🤪

[humanearth]

Share my deepest thoughts and secrets to some of my closest on line friends.

Then they spill the beans to wife. Without meaning to.

I wonder who they are

[menina]

I share them with my sister or with my close friends. It depends on the thought itself and how comfortable I am with the person I'm sharing it.

[Youryeodongsaeng]

Both. I'll rant what's bothering me on here and in reality, I'll keep it to myself.

[Yads_Is_Back]

Certain people. My man and my dad know everything there is to know about me.

[Capricornunicorn]

I luckily found that one person I can bare my soul to. I've told them some deep shit that I don't think I could ever tell another person.

[Vewrie]

I don’t share it in general but with my closest friends.

[SunnySri]

I prefer keeping them to myself mam, my fears and troubles are mine to handle I don't like disturbing or burdening others with it.

[InferiorElegy]

I share them online with random strangers none of whom would ever want to get to know me or will ever see my face but I have no one in my real life to share such things with not that I ever would.

[JackSmy]

NEVER on here! Seldom, with any others, unless we are intimate companions, and even then, some I NEVER share. Nobody that I trust, enough, and why should I share those? It makes you vulnerable. . .

[DanaeAdam5]

I try to keep them to myself but at one point they get way to much so I share them with someone.

[Shark_61695]

Only with people on the internet... they aren't real :)

[OmNomaly]

Deep thoughts, yes.
Sharing my fears with others. No, not anymore.

[Agape93]

Only with those I’m closest too. No one else will ever know what goes on in my head.

[triff]

I have a mind which is a like a long thin corridor full of closed doors Some open some stay shut for my perusal only

[Jamie05rhs]

I keep them to myself. I haven't found anyone worth sharing them with yet. That would take a lot of trust.

[LEADFOOTboi]

sometimes i talk, sometimes i dont... depends on what subject... there are some things i will tell NO ONE...

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

Yeah, I really share my deepest thoughts with friends online, I don't really share them with my Cousin

[Mark987]

I've learned through break-ups and losing a family member, talking is so therapeutic

[Avicenna]

I share them with people I trust. They can give me perspective.

[Myk13]

I’ll share like 97% or so. That last 3% I keep to myself. There’s some fucked up shit in there.

[chHaynes]

I would say because it's private that's not something you post on social media but you can look at your girlfriend and tell her that's about it

[JakeS00]

Keep them to myself. Because privacy is power. Usually my intellectual thoughts I announce to others.

[Bananaman177]

I can't even get people to understand my SURFACE-LEVEL thoughts and fears.

How can I tell people about supernatural things if I tell them about ordinary things and they believe me not?

[Newhead]

Keep it to yourself, bad people will use your weaknesses against you, it's better to be safe than sorry.

[HawkPerception]

I think of myself as an open book. The negative of this quality is that other than physical intimacy and attention, I don't have much more to share with my partner than I've already shared or willing to share about myself with others.

[douride2]

I keep my deepest thoughts & fears mostly to myself.

[FishyNinja]

Nope, one time i shared my fears with someone and they used that against me. After that incident, i don't trust anyone.

[PersoncslledPierson]

Sharing deepest thoughts has landed people in prison, especially a few seriel killers I watched in tv... you can never trust a bitch to keep a secret... never tell anyone anything... only share what’s safe

[Citizenkirk]

Anything I keep close too the heart, is kept close too the sleeve, because it's worth sharing with others.

[blondfrog]

It depends I do but there are other things I haven't told a single soul.

[TonyMetal___86]

Only with someone who is very close to me and whom i can trust 😌

[Aiko_E_Lara]

I don't wanna be a burden to anyone so I keep it to myself and I manage to solve them

[Agem123]

I keep those thoughts to myself cause either they don't understand me or don't care.

[IlluminatiExposed0]

I don't even share my deepest thoughts and fears with myself!

[matchrestore]

I have a few close friends I can share things with and they share things with me.

[the_sinner]

I keep them to myself.
I haven’t come across someone with whom I could share them.

[Anonymous]

knowledge is power and in the wrong hands it's a dangerous weapon to use against someone

[Jmmmfi4]

I would if anyone cared enough to listen. So I jeep a journal.

[KrakenAttackin]

Absolutely not. No one wants to hear a man talk about his deepest thoughts and fears.

[OceanMelon]

Keep it to myself, people can use your fears against you.

[Minahh]

I use to overshare things but then I only end up being frustrated because other people are rambling about my most personal stuff.

[cjgsu]

Mostly keep them 2 myself

[Gedaria]

A lot of my life I will share but there are some bits are just between me and myself..

[MyBigMystery]

No because I don't think anything can be done about the fashists plan now

[Maspolomas]

I don’t want people going omg he needs help or an institution

[locutus9999]

My las experience sharing cost me my relationship, so i am not sure if I will ever share again.