I actually have some problems with etiquette as a result. I know you like etiquette. But etiquette varies so wildly from culture to culture. I found myself confused growing up. So I started to see all the bowing and formalities and firm handshakes and "thank yous" and "pleases" as a barrier to getting to know the real beating heart of a person. So I like to navigate the backdoor -- the one that's absent etiquette and ventures towards sharing or asking things of an extremely personal nature (more sharing than asking -- since I realize far more people are uncomfortable with sharing than I am).
I'm not always sure if it's healthy. It worked out well enough in my youth being brash and open-hearted. With age, I feel like it's starting to become obnoxious. Well, I'm at the extremities. Extremities are rarely healthy as opposed to balance. But I'll share my whole embarrassing childhood with you -- or even someone far less nice who makes fun of me and seems completely hostile. I'll share who I am with them with the most open heart... because I'd rather be insulted even by enemies for who I really am than who they imagine me to be. I'm certainly worth insulting, but I want them to at least get their insults right. :-D And maybe -- slim chance -- I give that much fuel to even my enemies and they might open up to me too... and then we can be on the same boat -- all vulnerable and exposed, and maybe now we can talk like real human beings absent whatever formalities, or hostilities, that we might have otherwise had.
I agree, I used to be way more open, these days I'm more closed off with some things
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I'm sure to the people that know and love you, you already have
That bbb, I appreciate that
Love that song 💜🙂
Your question preoccupied me with "deep thoughts and fears" so I didn't think of feelings until now. I find it very helpful to share feelings. For me, it's almost a necessity.
Sad but true
You're so right there!
I used to, I'm more closed off these days
Venting to someone close always helps is all i gotta say
I don't hide, but do become more closed off with people that seem untrustworthy
Great advice beautiful I’ll try thank you
Your will have that one person some day
You will 🤗🤗
@JoyGirl you will... ik you will... I'LL MAKE SURE YOU WILL
@JoyGirl Q. Q
Hmmmm I wonder lololol
Yes it is. I feel bad when I keep things to myself that make me sad for a long time.
That's good you have people you can open up about anything to
Well i was open enough to tell miss brains about my little secret that i'm a muffin monster and she was so happy to bake me muffins and told me about her little naughty WEIRD secret about using the tree light as a whip! 😁Shhhhhh miss brains, people are hearing the secrets 🤫
@TonyMetal___86 🤣🤣🤣 it was just a pic lololol and not even one of me 🤣🤣
Yeah you bet CORNY miss brains 👀
@TonyMetal___86 I try 🙂
That's really good!
Good you have close friends to share with
❤️ Do you? You can talk to me.
Aww thanks 🤗
I understand that
Good you have someone to share them with 👍
How about you?
I used to be more open, these days I'm more closed
Are you alright?
I'm good, thanks 🙂
They are real tho
These things are relative...The impact on me, anyone I know and anyone I'm likely to meet is so low it doesn't really matter.
I used to, now stay more locked up inside
The Fears can definitely be used as fuel for ammo. I never quite understood how people push for people to open up to them and then use it against them.
Yeah people like that make me sick
Sometimes I don't even wanna know what goes on in my head lol
@Brainsbeforebeauty, i'm the only one who knows what goes in that jelly miss brains forehead 😁🧁
@TonyMetal___86 nah you only think you do... People only know/see what you slow then to, some things I keep to myself
mmm, i wanna know all your secrets miss brains muffins so i know if i'll get poisoned when i eat your forehead 😁
Lol tony you only wish you knew what goes on in my head
@Agape93 Yeah i know, you hate the housewife role and all the stone age topics that i talk about but still like me 😁
Lol I do indeed. House wife roles are just not my thing, but I don’t begrudge those who do want it and enjoy it
Too bad miss agape, that's how things works in my cave in the stone age era 😌
Lol I’m aware that’s how it is
BUT at the same time, the only place you can be comfortable in, warm and safe and would never worry about the bills and jobs IS IN MY CAVE 😁
Lol or in my home, where I keep up everything on my own without an issue
And sometimes the trust really want deserved
@Brainsbeforebeauty Well, I have trusted a few women. And it was deserved. They are wonderful people. Unfortunately, none of them have been romantic relationships. So they haven't gotten the FULL security clearance. They only made it up to Level 1.
@Jamie05rhs LOL! How do you decide if someone is worthy of "TRUST" like that? I haven't found many, and maybe, partly why I have never married.
@JackSmy You learn over time who you can trust and who you cannot. I'm not saying it's easy knowing the difference at first. But if they prove themselves in the little things, then you can trust them with bigger things.
@Jamie05rhs well said!!
Yea, but you are going to tell me. Mkay.*sips juice* 🧃(‘-‘ )
@JoyGirl oh no, here we go again lololol
MotherrrrrHe can’t hide everything from me. 😭😭😭
@JoyGirl but then you have to not either
Oh, dang.You right. 🤪
@JoyGirl listen to mother dear 🤣🤣
@JoyGirl is the hehe-hell no 🤔🤣
I will tell him, when the time comes. >-<
@JoyGirl... @Brainsbeforebeauty is right... if i spill all my beans i dont wanna talk to no one about, i get to have your beans too... Q - Q it's only fair
@LEADFOOTboi I'm usually right 🤣 lololol jk 🙂
@Brainsbeforebeauty only usually... i agree...
@cjgsu yessss... i do have some... and i reckon @JoyGirl has some as welll..
YeaaaaaaI have too many... lol
@JoyGirl we'll seeeeeeeeee... who has "too many"...
Oh, hun.You don’t have as much as I do... lol
@JoyGirl bruh we really gonna have an argument bout who got more secrets?😂This isn't a good argument, like arguing bout who's more sneaky. Do u really wanna be the winner? 🤔
@cjgsu You right... lmao 😭😂
@JoyGirl it's okay. Ily secret keepin ass.@LEADFOOTboi u aiight 🤪
@cjgsu lmao 💜💜💜
@cjgsu yeeeee, i'm aight...and @JoyGirl you prolly win and have more secrets than me... q w q <3
Glad you can share them
@Brainsbeforebeauty Yeah thanks 👍
Sometimes it can be, but not if talking to the wrong people
100% you have to now who you are talking to
People you can trust is"key" word there
I hear yah
I used to be more open, lately more closed off
Sorry to hear that
Right!! Totally get what you mean there
Well hopefully someday you will
That's very true
That's a good way to let things out
I love when my man opens up to me. If he didn’t it wouldn’t be the same.
@Yads_Is_Back exactly! These stereotypes about what's manly or not or what a woman sees as weak are tiring period, but especially coming from men that are using their bias to act like they know what ALL WOMEN want
Exactly. And they’re only hurting themselves more and more
You are both full of crap. When a man genuinely opens up about his doubts and fears women are utterly repulsed by this.
@Yads_Is_Back I agree!!
Some women, sure, but not all women. Some men are rapists but not all.
No you're full of crap... My husband opened up about his fear of dying, his guilt (where he had nothing to be guilty about) that our younger daughter never knew him as anything but sick (he was diagnosed when she was 2) and that our older daughter was so beautiful it brought tears to his eyes, and she must get it from me cuz he knew he wasn't beautiful (wrong, he was a beautiful person where it counts) I NEVER thought less if him, considered him weak... That made me respect him all the more... JUST CUZ YOU NEVER HAD THAT FROM A WOMAN, don't mean ME or @yads_is_back is full of crap... Cuz maybe YOU'RE the reason you've never had that from a woman... The way you disrespect women, are so biased about women, why would one ever have your back, when you obviously wouldn't have hers
Lol girl he’s just not man enough to be open and passionate! Chicken 🐓
He’s gotta act all tough then blame it on everybody else
@Yads_Is_Back right! But he jumps on a lot of my posts, people have a right to their negative thoughts, opinions... But damn some people really tired of dealing with it, hearing it... Take that negative bias to posts about that, there's enough of em already
He used to do that to me by making automatic assumptions (that were kind of stupid) and then when he realized he was wrong he has been kind ever since. Thanks for that, kraken
@Yads_Is_Back well that's good
Do you know how many women divorce men when the man is diagnosed with cancer? Or, if they stay with him they get ANGRY when he survives? Please don't lecture me about opening up to women because 99 out of 100 times it bites the man.
I know you do
Yeah. It's just hard 2 put somethings out there. You keep things 2 yourself it's hard 2 be judged by people if ya don't put it all out there, so it becomes habit even when you know the person you are talking to won't judge you
But life is far better when you have that one person you can tell anything to and know they won't, and will accept you for you no matter what