How can I be a better version of myself?

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The last year has been tough on me, I lost my dad in February and that affected me in a bad way, I wanna move on but I always find myself texting him in his number like he's still alive, and lately I'm not feeling good about myself but I want to change and feel good again

Answer 1

Mark83

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I'm sorry for your loss. It's tough but there's nothing you can do about it except trying to move on. Everyone expresses grief in their own way and that's fine. I would suggest you write down those messages for your dad on paper instead of texting his number, keep them in a diary. That way you can still get the thoughts out of your head but it won't create a false sense of reality.

Other than that, try to distract yourself. Spend time with your friends and family, talk to them. Remember the things you enjoyed doing before and focus on them.

Leila23

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Do u think writing it down is better than sending a text? I mean for me it's the same thing, he won't be able to read the texts or the letters
Mark83

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If it's the same to you maybe it won't matter. But to me, sending a text would make me feel like he was still alive and I'd be lying to myself. If you keep it in a diary (or an unsent letter you keep in a drawer) then you know that you are doing this for yourself.
Leila23

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Yes, I think you're right about that, maybe writing it down instead will make me feel better, so I'm gonna do that, thank for your advise
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Mark83

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You're welcome, let me know if it helped. Good luck!

Answer 2

Leila23

Do u think writing it down is better than sending a text? I mean for me it's the same thing, he won't be able to read the texts or the letters

Answer 3

Mark83

If it's the same to you maybe it won't matter. But to me, sending a text would make me feel like he was still alive and I'd be lying to myself. If you keep it in a diary (or an unsent letter you keep in a drawer) then you know that you are doing this for yourself.

Answer 4

Leila23

Yes, I think you're right about that, maybe writing it down instead will make me feel better, so I'm gonna do that, thank for your advise

Answer 5

Mark83

You're welcome, let me know if it helped. Good luck!

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chriscdi | 2.3K opinions shared on Other topic.

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sorry for your loss, sounds to me like a small part of you is still in denial, your father is no longer on earth but it doesn't mean he doesn't exist, after all the soul never dies, you will reunite again, so dont think of it as he is gone, more of a see you later, we all die so you'll meet again, we know very little to nothing about the afterlife, he might be able to hear and see you for all we know, i know your father wouldn't want you to feel sad for him, he would want you to be happy, he will always be with you, dont forget it

Leila23

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Our relationship before he died wasn't a good one, so after he passed away I kinda regret all the time I didn't spend with him and that makes me feel like if only I could go back with time and change everything
chriscdi

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well maybe if you think of it this way it might be better, he is no longer in this world of sufferment, pain, hatred thats sick and twisted he is in a place where only happiness exists so whatever negative feelings he had down here on earth he can no longer feel, if he had some kind of void or emptyness, it is now filled, he is happy and at peace so do yourself and your father a favor and try and find your peace cause we both know as a father that he was, im positive he will want you to find that peace and everything you didn't get to tell him, you will be able too when you reunite, as of now just live and enjoy your life because its a gift from god, your father isn't going anywhere because now he is in good hands.
Leila23

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Thank u for your reply, I'll try and move on
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chriscdi

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💯💯

Answer 7

Leila23

Our relationship before he died wasn't a good one, so after he passed away I kinda regret all the time I didn't spend with him and that makes me feel like if only I could go back with time and change everything

Answer 8

chriscdi

well maybe if you think of it this way it might be better, he is no longer in this world of sufferment, pain, hatred thats sick and twisted he is in a place where only happiness exists so whatever negative feelings he had down here on earth he can no longer feel, if he had some kind of void or emptyness, it is now filled, he is happy and at peace so do yourself and your father a favor and try and find your peace cause we both know as a father that he was, im positive he will want you to find that peace and everything you didn't get to tell him, you will be able too when you reunite, as of now just live and enjoy your life because its a gift from god, your father isn't going anywhere because now he is in good hands.

Answer 9

Leila23

Thank u for your reply, I'll try and move on

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chriscdi

💯💯

Answer 11

FeralChihuahua

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Don’t be rushed to change and get over it. No one can simply just move on from something like that. Everyone has a way of coping with loosing a loved one.

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SunnySri | 260 opinions shared on Other topic.

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You don't need to be a better version of yourself mam in this situation, you are just grieving which is normal. I know how it feels to lose a parent so I understand what you are feeling right now, I used to talk to my mother's photo. You are trying to stay connected to him in some way or another.
The best thing to do here is to stay positive and believe that your father is in a better place and try to be around people like family and friends, you should not be alone right now.

Answer 13

Anonymous

Yeah, make yourself busy with things

Leila23

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I don't have much to do tjo, I don't have friends so all I do during the day is lay down on my bed and watch sm on my phone

Answer 14

Leila23

I don't have much to do tjo, I don't have friends so all I do during the day is lay down on my bed and watch sm on my phone

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Madladd

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Do you want a hug!

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