To the almost or already 40 club?

[WindAtMyBack]

The decade birthdays never bothered me. I don't remember most of them. Although I do remember 40 because of the situation and location.

Reviewing your life and feeling like you haven't accomplished what you wanted, or feeling like you haven't done anything with your life is normal. This leads to a mid-life crisis if it gets bad enough.

I went through something similar in my mid 30s that was pretty mild. It happened again in my 50s when it hit me a lot harder. It was a combination of where I was in life, and the physical and mental affects of aging. Some aging issues hit me much younger than expected. It resulted in me basically asking my self "Well, I'm not the person I've been for the last 50 years, so who am I now?". Basically the person I was and everything about me that I identified as "me" was gone, replaced by someone new. I didn't particularly care for the new person, but there was no turning the clock back - it continues to click.

Yep, aging ain't for wimps. But life prepares you for it. Just forget about the age and the things that go with it. Don't set the bar too high, and enjoy what you have. There are still plenty of things to enjoy in life. It's in the head.

Besides, you are still young. You haven't even hit your peak years yet. Since I remember my 40th, I feel like I was just a kid then. Maybe not a kid, but certainly youthful.

[btbc92]

I say that goes for anybody. A child that's about to turn 10. A preteen about to be 14. A teenager about to be 18 and become a legal adult. A person to become 21. Me soon to be 30 in almost 2 years. So everybody at some point feels The Strain and the pressures of society. The things that people think you should have by a certain time really all depends if he even want it. For an example. Plenty of people expected me to get married. And while I was open to the idea that's not really what I wanted. I got shingun criticized for it. But I tell other people for those that do want that you better think about this very early while you're still young. Because I do get older it does get harder. There's a lot of things that I missed out in my twenties and teenagehood and my childhood that got stolen from me. But at the end of the day God is in control and he knows what's best for your life, and at the same time whatever that's been taken, unless he himself had to do it himself, he can always restore it.

As I tell people you got to be wanting to serve your life for God. That includes everything that you do. But there's a lot of people don't believe in God they are left to figure these things out by themselves and it doesn't always work out the way they want it to. So even if you do become 40 you do not have to go through the same pressures that Society assumes that you need to go through. Because not everybody that's in their forties go through the same thing.

[Anonymous]

Aside from some biological things that may be more difficult as you roll up there in age, it's only too late when you're dead. Start a business, travel (when are are allowed again), get a dog, workout, eat right, develop strong friendships, find more ways to excel at your job, save, paint, live. If you're consumed by thoughts of regrets, start right now, at this very moment with ticking some of them off the list...and NOT because everyone else is doing them...but because you want to accomplish or do them because it's your life. If you have to work for or do something to get them, your heart won't be in it unless you actually want it. K. I wish in life we all got the fairy tale, but sometimes we don't, and that's okay, but really take stock in your value as a person and what you bring to life and see how you can increase that value through your character, charitable works, or doing something that will help impact others in a positive way. Personal fulfillment doesn't just have to come from love.

[Kev600]

It's all about perspective and opportunities.
Look after yourself. Don't drink excessively and don't smoke. Eat healthy. Move! Exercise is key!

My 41st year (after turning 40), was maybe the best year of my life, so far!
Following a break up and job redundancy, I decided to go travelling in Asia.. 8 months later, I came home, and things just kept coming to me.

Now.. I'm 46 soon and going through a hard break up, with covid killing so many opportunities.. Yeah it's really easy to get down about my ageing, not being married, not owning my own place.
I've also spent time beating myself up over this.. It's not healthy.

But these are things that society claims you should achieve in order to be successful.

Success is a mindset, not a trophy.

Keep learning new stuff! There are lots of cheap or free online courses..

Identify and heal your insecurities and fears. No shame in that, and it's never ever too late, and in fact, it's a lifelong process..

Find a source of peace. God, Buddha, Astrology, etc.
Whatever works for you!
Meditate and use daily positive affirmations. Listen to audio. Write your own. Read them. Think them.

Work on being the best version of yourself you can be.. Physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

Think power & abundance.
Not weakness & scarcity/lack.

You've got this buddy!! 💪🏼👍🏻

[Shubhamgupta]

Don't get stressed this feeling is normal , don't over think this thing, see the second side of the coin like your are free to go anywhere without any restrictions, free to enjoy , party , anytime and without any worries to anyone, india. There is a saying that "Marriage is laddo , who eats will suffer who don't eat will suffer" see to your married friends and see there married lifes you will find yourself more lucky and according to me there is always the perfect time has been decided for the every thing which is happening in your life like " when the right time came you will be realised that is the perfect time and the perfect partner for your life

[bobalife]

I’m not 40, but I just turned 30 last year and everyone seem to get this same anxiety when the double digits get bigger. I did a little and then got over it when my birthday hits. I think aging is actually beautiful, you’re building your life closer to what you want, or becoming who you want to be tomorrow. But all in honesty, l believe the best way of thinking is just trying to live your best life like the way you want no matter how old you are and so you won’t look back with any regrets 😊 I hope you cheer up, won’t put pressure on yourself, find what you’re looking for, and just do what makes you happy!

[Curmudgeon]

Oh, totally. And WARNING: it gets worse when you turn 50, when the graying hairs, the need to diet and fight developing a "pot belly", and other signs of aging are all too real. Lots of 40 year olds can still get away with acting like they did at 20 something. But at 50 that ship is completely over the horizon.

[JackSmy]

Been there, done that, and got through it! Got to 50, and got diagnosed with Cancer, and lived that, Chemo, and got through it!! Send me a Private Message, and maybe I can help you with how to LAUGH!! :) :)

[jhnny1331]

Dude it's a new chapter of your life embrace it you're still young there's nothing you can't do that you wanted to do that there's a 40 that you had to do in your 30 so whatever it is you want to do go do it you're young enough know how old enough to know better

[Paul09]

Yes sir. I over think life now. Aging alone is scary. And this covid makes it worse. I keep asking myself what I can do better and how. That's why this year I'm focusing on me, and my well being. Working out again. Doing yoga attempting to do more meditation. Learn even more. And learning to be more happy about myself and being alone. Faq life for some of us, that a lot may not understand.

[Truthatanycost]

I'm older than 40, and unmarried. I am not freaking out, and enjoy each day. Perhaps you are worrying about what others think too much.

[Finchie40]

Welcome to the 40’s man , all I can say is if you haven’t experienced a lot by now you are pretty much doomed , If you haven’t had kids by now don’t even think about it, You can still
Get married but marry someone that just wants to settle and spoil each other , but having kids at your age you will be missing out on spending the rest of your years having fun , your at an age now to just spoil yourself and have fun travel etc time flies and it will be over before you know it

[Static_In_The_Attic]

I’m right behind you brother & just remember we are like wine we get better with age & some of us may be over the hill but at least we are under the mountain.

[douride2]

No it never happened,. Turning 40 was just another day. At least that is how I remember it happening.

[Juxtapose]

I'm getting there ahaha. Best not to judge yourself by some achievements that will ultimately turn tho dust in the future, enjoy your limited-time alive.

[art84]

I am gonna be 37 years old and not married. Close to 40 years old in 3 years which seems far. Age is just a number.

[FlyGirl95]

Yes 40 is a crazy number. It’s your halfway point. It is the greatest time of self reflection and it is a time to make changes in that direction if you need too. It is your life. Make it happen!

[josephinelcajon]

LOL just wait till you turn 50 and you start getting the life insurance offers and AARP.

[OddBeMe]

Just know medical science is progressing so much you’re probably not half way through your life.

[lovedejj_xo]

Wow meanwhile I’m freaking out about how close I am to 30 this year being 25.

[OfDeath]

Cause you know you're about half way through your life now and the good half is first.

[warrenstone]

You should be overwhelmed with joy about never being married. Have you seen the divorce rate lately. Do you know what they do to men in divorce court?

[bulletbob555]

Relax Jimmy its going to be ok. Every decade gives you a different perspective. In my 40's I think I quit thinking about others approval and started trying to just enjoy it.

[Bee-Hatch]

Looking back it's pretty irrelevant.

[yofuknutz]

Red pill 💊/mgtow bro!

[Shuttlebus78]

Looks like you hit the wall a few years ago.

[thrombis]

Just remember getting old isn't for sissies.