How should I deal with my friend’s boyfriend cheating on her with my other friend?

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My friend, we’ll call her H, has been with this guy for about 2 years now. H is friends with all of the same people that I am (we’re in a friend group together is a good way to put it). Her boyfriend is also in this friend group, mainly because he’s with her. A few days ago, my other friend (we’ll call her B), told me that H’s boyfriend was hanging out with all of our mutual friend (call her C), and ended up cheating on H with C. Apparently C called B crying and told her not to tell anyone what happened, and C does NOT plan on telling H that she got with her boyfriend. Even though they have been friends for years. B is my best friend and she told me about this despite promising C that she wouldn’t tell anyone. B has told me not to tell anyone. If I tell H what her boyfriend did with C, it will ruin my friendship with B. It will also ruin the friendship between B and C, since B promised not to tell anyone. However, if I was in H’s shoes, I would want someone to tell me. Hopefully this makes sense. Basically my friend’s boyfriend cheated on her with one of her friends. And now no one is going to tell her. I feel guilty about not saying anything, but I also made a promise and don’t want to get myself involved in the drama. What should I do?

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teamvic | 179 opinions shared on Other topic.

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Hmmm a tricky situation, if you tell whoever got cheated on. They'll know that the girl who told your bestfeiend told someone else so not only would she be hated you would to. But at the same time the girl that got cheated on, you say you're friends with too and you would want someone to tell you. Soo basically its a lose lose,

Honestly if it were me, If it were my close friend I would tell the person who got cheated on. But if it was someone who I wasn't close with I would just mind my own business

Maybe your best bet is to tell the person if you want... hmmm honestly that friendship is fucked that whole group is fucked, if you tell her then it'll be a domino effect like they'll find out you told. She'll find out they didn't want anyone to tell her even though y'all are supposed to be friends. But if you dont tell her then we'll thats fucked up. I sayyyyyyyyYyYYyYyYyYYYYYYYyyYyYyYyYyY. Dont tell her. For now unless you feel you should then do it

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Nevergoingtousethis

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This was exactly my thought process lmfao
teamvic

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It seems you're gonna have to choose between your friends. Because whichever side you chose you're betraying the other side. As I said. That friendship group is done if you tell. But if you don't it'll kinda be like y'all dont really care about that friend who got cheated on
Nevergoingtousethis

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Facts. And also, if her boyfriend tells her and all the girls keep it under wraps even though we knew, there’s the end of my friendship with her. And the end of her friendship with all the girls who knew as well. And if no one tells her at all, I honestly don’t think I’ll be able to hang out with her anyway without feeling guilty, and everyone else probably feels the same I assume.
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teamvic

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I say either leave the entire friend group, and mind you're own business. Or tell the girl and... have the ones who told you not to. Dislike you.. good luck😂😅

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Nevergoingtousethis

This was exactly my thought process lmfao

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teamvic

It seems you're gonna have to choose between your friends. Because whichever side you chose you're betraying the other side. As I said. That friendship group is done if you tell. But if you don't it'll kinda be like y'all dont really care about that friend who got cheated on

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Nevergoingtousethis

Facts. And also, if her boyfriend tells her and all the girls keep it under wraps even though we knew, there’s the end of my friendship with her. And the end of her friendship with all the girls who knew as well. And if no one tells her at all, I honestly don’t think I’ll be able to hang out with her anyway without feeling guilty, and everyone else probably feels the same I assume.

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teamvic

I say either leave the entire friend group, and mind you're own business. Or tell the girl and... have the ones who told you not to. Dislike you.. good luck😂😅

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TOTEMPLASTER | 80 opinions shared on Other topic.

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Run and hide: she's going to find out sooner rather than later.

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Nevergoingtousethis

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I didn’t do anything, I just know about it. None of our friends plan on telling her, and I honestly don’t know if her boyfriend will tell her or not. I just feel bad knowing and not saying anything. I would be pissed if something like that happened to me and my so called friends kept it secret. Yk?

Answer 7

Nevergoingtousethis

I didn’t do anything, I just know about it. None of our friends plan on telling her, and I honestly don’t know if her boyfriend will tell her or not. I just feel bad knowing and not saying anything. I would be pissed if something like that happened to me and my so called friends kept it secret. Yk?

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MannMitAntworten | 1K opinions shared on Other topic.

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Always best to stay out of it. You’ll just end up in the middle of a shit storm where you will end up blamed by one or both.

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