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I used to be obese don't come at me 👄
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Working at an embassy in Haiti. There was a big girl. Hard worker, good attitude, always alone.
The DEA had a house party.
She was alone... I asked her to dance. I'm 5'11", I was 190 at the time. She was 5'10", about 260. Gorgeous face, soft bright eyes, sweetest gentle smile. The Marine guards were running the bar. Those fuckers made STRONG drinks😏. I was really buzzed and very happy. I danced with her a good part of the night. I thought she was beautiful. I told her something along the lines of "I'm married so this is not a line and I have no agenda other than I just wanted you to know... you are an absolutely beautiful woman."
You ever see a big girl float? She was in heaven. I didn't try anything, I just considered it a privilege to dance with her and see her smile with such radiance.
Granted, I was drunk. I don't know if I would have said it otherwise but...
The next day I was nervous. I went to her office and asked her if I'd done anything out of line at the party... she said "are you kidding me? That's the sweetest thing I've heard for a long time."
She gave me a hug and a kiss on the cheek.
Not all drunk guys are jackasses.😉3|40|0Is this still revelant?i used to be superman. i was extremely fit. olympic level. all you fucking losers can call bullshit but when i'm pressing 315 and doing 40+ pullups and ding 200 pushups and running less than a 6 minute mile and then i break my back doing army shit... then i gain 60 lbs and am depressed and grumpy and struggling to find a way forward...
everyone has their demons and nightmares and burdens. if you're not willing to help those beside you carry those burdens but you'd rather talk shit behind your keyboard then you're a fucking parasite that doesn't deserve to breathe.
if you wanna talk shit about weight... FFFFFUUUUUCCCCCKKKK YYYYOOOUUU!!!
you've never bled for anyone. you've never risked your life for anyone!
SHUT YOUR FUCKING MOUTH!
I've bled more for this this country than you have in your self-centered shit talking body.
there are medical conditions that you don't know about.
how fucking arrogant are you to talk shit about someone that you don't even know? you don't know what they've suffered! you don't know the ridicule they face every day!
if you don't have anything nice to say shut your fucking self-righteous stupid lazy mouth.
i was so fit, while i was a sex addict when i was younger, i did gross shit that would make you vomit because i was dealing with shit like being molested when i was 4 and 8 and accosted by gay teachers and the school did nothing to protect me so i worked out and ran and joined the military and was put through the ringer until my body broke... and then i turned into a fat slob.
and then fucking low life losers started to judge me...
real simple... if you don't have anything nice to say shut your caustic cruel hurtful hateful selfish mouth. you're not helping.
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i know girls who were raped young and gained weight as a subconscious defense mechanism. and YOU are going to judge them? YOU don't know their past. YOU don't know their pain. fine, they might say something about metabolism. If you don't know the whole story then shut our fucking mouth!
YOU probably have shit to deal with too. I hope you find help. Don't try to make yourself feel better by hurting others as you sit behind your computer.
you sicken me... fuck, the egotistical shit that flows in here is so sad.
you should be ashamed of yourself for trying to shame anyone.
don't forget... none of this is anonymous.@exitseven dude, this was not directed at you... i just lost it when i saw some of these low minded comments and i started clacking.
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- To me it's the same as telling a heroine adict they look good with holes in their arm.
Not an attack on obese people but a defense for them. As I used to be fat and was on my way to be obese and people in my family especially uncles, aunts, and grandparents were complimenting me and encouraging me to eat more and it kept getting worse.
Those compliments hold no value when you have a thousand health issue by 25 so eventually I came to a realization that being fat is not a choice it's a problem that should be dealt with.
Now I don't mind belly fat as a body shape but when it comes to being so obese you can't breathe there is a legitimate concern1|20|0Is this still revelant?
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- - "I'm FAT but I eat healthy."
No, you don't, otherwise you wouldn't be fat 😂
- "I'm FAT but I'm not a glutton."
Yes, you are... GOOGLE "gluttony" and you can see fat people gorging on food and lacking self-control.
Yeah, so many excuses. Metabolism? Really, stop making excuses... If you want to improve, you need to stop being in denial. Fat is not healthy.
Anyways, fat people will always be unattractive in society because that's how it is. Look at dating apps, they get the least number of likes or swipes. Even fat people prefer skinny people. Would a fat girl want to be with a fat guy? Would a fat guy want to be with a fat girl? NO1|21|1Is this still revelant?i agree and being a big guy myself i can say its pretty accurate , admittedly im loosing the weight
but im still big , but i have seen the rare occurrence where the smaller person was married or dating the bigger person because they saw them for something more. and i have had a few girls in my time that were with me but it had nothing to do with size it was how i held myself.
so if the person can show there sure them selves they have s better shot with the person they like
but not everyone does that which is sad but it goes back to what you said. so it is rare for anyone to do that.@cheapshotbob Yeah, personality is what we should look for but most of the time is not the case.
I don't know about that mate. I am very lean and am currently looking to find someone through the online dating site Plenty of Fish (POF). I've probably messaged dozens of girls that are fat, and they didn't give me the time of day. I can only conclude that they must be spoiled for choice just like all the other girls. It is likely that most men that the messaging the bigger girls are probably just looking to smash and dash, but still they are getting loads of attention.
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@AzzaBlue That’s the problem. Validating them is accepting that fat is normal. Fat shaming would make these fat women less entitled and actually focused on other qualities to compensate.
how would you skinny shame a girl? i mean sme the girls are so thin you could use there rib cages for xylophones , i mean where is it all gonna? granted fats nt a good thing but i have seen women so skinny i seriously thought they had cancer or were bulimic is there a way to shame a skinny shame a person going that root with out getting the medical field involved? just curious.
@cheapshotbob Yes, those types of people need to understand that’s not healthy because it can be life and death scenario.
However, fat people lack self-control and are consumed by gluttony whereas skinny people exude a lot of self-control, that’s why fat people are looked down upon. But, yes skinny shaming is not bad if their bones are sticking out.@modelun242 i know girls who were raped young and gained weight as a subconscious defense mechanism. and YOU are going to judge them? YOU don't know their past. YOU don't know their pain. fine, they might say something about metabolism. If you don't know the whole story then shut our fucking mouth!
YOU probably have shit to deal with too. I hope you find help. Don't try to make yourself feel better by hurting others as you sit behind your computer.
you sicken me... fuck, the egotistical shit that flows in here is so sad.
you should be ashamed of yourself for trying to shame anyone.@Andres77 You sound like a fucking girl... Umm, I didn't even consider rape because it's not the MAJORITY of cases. Excuse me? You're the one who's also behind a fucking computer screen!! Don't be a hypocrite. And I can say whatever I want. The fact that you got soo offended means that you're probably fat or have some feeder fat pig fetish.
@modelun242 So you're offended that I'm telling you that you shouldn't be mean to anyone? Especially if you don't know what they're going through?
And yes you can say whatever you want and you're showing your arrogant stupidity with every word.
And if you actually read my post you'd see that yes, vi am fat, because I broke my back in the military and I'm having a hard time keeping it under control and staying off narcotics and dealing with depression.
For someone that hasn't accomplished shit you're pretty fucking arrogant and selfish and mean.@Andres77 Excuse me? I don't take my "youth metabolism" for granted. I actually have a strict diet and healthy lifestyle unlike most people my age. I cook all of my food and exercise regularly. So, don't fucking tell me that being fat comes out of nowhere. It's the result of laziness and having a poor mentality! People who are fat because of childhood issues need to seek therapy and I DO SYMAPTHIZE. However, that's NOT AN EXCUSE TO BE FAT. Being fat will make their depression WORSE.
I'm sorry that you went through that in the military...
- At their WEIGHT? This is about as appropriate as telling someone they look beautiful and sexy AT THEIR HEIGHT, AT THEIR SKIN COLOR, AT THEIR HAIR TEXTURE, THE WAY THEY SMELL.
These are all very personal commentary and would never do, except in the most personal of relationships: i. e. a significant other. And even then, I'd be very careful, and only mention something like that if I knew the person for years and knew their personality.
Even THEN, you're treading on thin ice and could offend or hurt someone's feelings.1|00|0Is this still revelant?
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1242- I think it's a tough place to be... On one hand, you want to be considered for their health, on the other hand you want to be considerate of their mental health and self confidence... Either you tell them they are too fat making them depressed or simply allow them to be at a heavier weight seeing their health suffer and simply acknowledging they will die sooner. To me, I don't know what that balance is, but there needs to be one and should be one to encourage them as a person and encourage them to take healthier steps as a person... But I'm not exactly sure how that would look in practice, especially when some obese people simply want to stay that way0|10|0
- I was obese most of my life, the most I weighed was 372 lbs now I'm down to 270 lbs
the thing is I got to lose 80 lbs to reach my goal, I need to let go of the carbs, stay away from sweets, and get more veggies, garden salads, some fresh fruits that are not too sugary when I was obese I had these girls tell me I was attracted and I felt insecure cause I was fat these girls love my eyes the pic in my profile is my Senior pic I weighed
about 160-172 on that pic I was age 16 after I went on a crash diet for about a year0|10|0No being Obese is not sexy or gorgeous I was Gordo for few times in my lifetime it sucks
- being obese is never sexy - doesn't matter if you have smooth skin, green eyes and perky lips- when you see that 400lb beast of a women chow down on 7000 calories a day - the self entitlement and not being able to deal with their stressers in a healthy way is just not attractive.1|10|0
- I would never have put my self in a situation where that would ever happen. There is no way I would ever be interested in a person that I could not honestly tell what I really thought about them. Thus, the girls I am with will always have my best thoughts in mind.0|10|0
- Why wouldn't someone who is obese considered attractive or beautiful? First beauty is in the eye of the beholder, second what would you consider obese? Myself iam about 30-40 lbs overweight, no one would consider me obese from my look because I guess my weight is evenly distributed besides a few love handles. I have known people who found love/attraction with people that are obese.1|10|0
- dont care that you have some extra weight on you. but for the love of god take care of your self. if your so fat that you fall off both sides of the bed. im sorry but you have a problem that only exist in todays world and its not easy to fix but you can do it.0|10|0
- Being obese or fat doesn’t automatically mean ugly. And being slim or skinny doesn’t automatically mean attractive.3|40|1
- Only if they did. I worked with this woman that was a tall drink of water 5'11" and she was always dieting. One day i asked her why she diets she's not fat. And she informed me her BMI is in the obese range. Don't get me wrong she'd put on weight but it would all store in her hips and chest so she just got curvier and hotter.
Some women just got it like that.0|10|0 - No, but I would compliment anyone who made progress towards looking good out of their weight.
Encourage progress, don't encourage the negative condition.2|10|0 
Anonymous1 moI don't and will never encourage body positivity because that's unhealthy.4|50|1- When I was heavy I would have said, "You mean if I were skinny I wouldn't be?"2|30|0
- No I can admit that some women can carry more weight then others before losing attractiveness but the truth is that all of them would be more attractive without the extra weight.0|10|0
- They’re some cute big women I’ve met and I know everyone feels like your enabling them some how by telling them they look beautiful, but I disagree. If you look good I’m ganna tell you you look good and if you don’t, then no comment.1|10|0
- Well, some of them used to make fun of my skinny self in elementary school? I guess.
I can say that sarcastically tho 💀 don't wanna offend them or something if they're trying hard to stay healthy.0|10|0 - If I thought they looked good. Definitely. Why not. They will appreciate the comment once in a while. I know u appreciate those comments1|20|0
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- i would if they were , not gonna i like some women who look beautiful that have some meat on them and they flaunt it like they got it.0|10|0
- No, I am not a liar. Fat people know that they are fat and anyone telling them otherwise is kissing ass, painfully PC, or just fabulists.0|10|0
- Depends how they are as a person and how they are dressed. I know a few larger people who when dressed in certain clothes... bam!0|11|0
- If they’re beautiful why wouldn’t I compliment them on it?1|10|0
- No I probably wouldn’t say anything I was taught if I wasn’t gonna say anything nice don’t say anything at all.2|20|0
- Did that often... but sexy fat chicks tend to be to close with their beliefs at mainstream, which teach that a fat chick can't be sexy... which is pretty far from reality to be fair...0|10|0
- Anonymous26 dHell no, I had this extremely overweight roommate and I felt like throwing up when she was eating, she made such disgusting sounds and ate in such a bad way. Even if she was 1% pretty I would forget about it when we were sitting on the table.0|10|0
- No. If she's not telling a short man that he's tall, why should we tell a fat woman that she's fit?0|10|0
- I see no reason to do so.
For me: 'sexy' and overweight exclude each other.1|10|0 - No..
I won't lie but if they look good according to me than I will compliment them.0|10|0 - Yes. Obesity is an issue in America but positivity is the way to combat it. Not shame. And people are different sizes for various reasons, health is subjective. We're all beautiful.0|10|0
- No, because I'd be lying. I'm not giving anyone a fall sense of hope.0|10|0
- I don't tell other people what I think of their looks without being asked, unless I want to genuinely compliment them for some reason.0|10|0
- No, I would not call them beautiful however I also wouldn't be rude while talking about their weight.1|11|0
- No matter what they do they are hideous... except for lose weight. So id never compliment their looks.0|10|0
- I've said yes; but only if they actually were beautiful and sexy.0|10|0
- No. That's a lie, and most of those who say that are lying, they just want to sound nice.0|10|0
- Some do look attractive but if you point to random person on the street probably not.0|10|0
- I like fat chicks sssooo yeah.. I would (within reason).0|12|0
- No becaue I don't consider obesity to be sexy.3|30|1
- I have nothing against them at work school, etc, but my romantic interest is for very thin women.0|10|0
- Depends on if they were beautiful or not.0|11|0
- No, because I find it to be unattractive.0|10|1
- Only if they are. And usually they aren't.0|10|0
- Obesity never looks good and I won't lie about it.0|10|0
Anonymous1 moNo, because I don't find it attractive.0|10|0
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