
How do you feel about B*D. S. M or any other kinks?


- I’ve been in to it for about 20 years.
it’s a lifestyle more than what you get in porn or movies.
there used to an online forum called Informed Consent, it was a great place for BDSM people, however they now concentrate more on political and social acceptance of those that do BDSM and the words themselves.
Those 4 letters are also a huge dumping ground of kinks and every one assumes, it’s tying someone up and spanking them etc.
whereas the reality is far deeper and the bonds between a D/s are often far deeper then with a vanilla couple,
the other think is most people have a fantasy, fetish or kink.
one of the things I believe in is not to kink / fetish shame.
The social scene is also great, and often a good laugh chatting in pub with like minded people at munches etc,Is this still revelant?100% percent agree! For me bdsm can also be very romantic with the right person, and it's also more of a lifestyle for me. I wish more people were educated on it that way us kinksters wouldn't get so much hate for it but at the end of the day I'm doing what makes me happy. Period. :)
@Melamore yes fully agree not only romantic but the level of trust is far greater than a vanilla couple will likely have.
That and the emotional connection.
It’s incredibly badly represented, you have some guy saying yeah I’m in to BDSM, I give it to her hard and spank her ass
It’s like yeah okay whatever,Haha 😂 yes. You build a trust like no other with bdsm, and I'm happy that I'm open minded and educated enough on it so that I actually enjoy it.
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@Melamore also to me there is an important distinction between lifestyle and bedroom Dom’s.
It’s also not a case of being greedy and using all the letters 😂@Melamore reading down some of the replies, they don’t really understand it.
Porn and 50 Shades has a lot to answer for lol
- Depends. I don't mind bondage, I do mind the S&M part though. I'm into dominating but more about the teasing rather then the more violent parts i. e. tie her up and edge her rather then tie her up and whip her.Is this still revelant?
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- I've done it a lot of times already. I don't love but I don't dislike it either.Is this still revelant?
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026- I find bondage and dom/sub roleplay stuff really hot.
I don't understand the appeal of the whole humiliation or inflicting/experiencing pain thing tho, and it really turns me off.
I may be willing to play around with it for the right girl, but for the most part it's a you do you kinda thing.ReactLike
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- I actually really loathe people who are into BDSM. In my experience, they tend to be rude, arrogant, unintelligent normies. The kind of couples you would meet at a biker bar or Trump rally. The women are usually fat and arrogant, the men are usually big, dim-witted brutes.React
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- Let's just say that vanilla is not my favorite flavor :)React
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- NOt much of my stuff except for the bondage aspects. Tied up sex is awesome, but the rest of the D/s stuff is pretty weird to me.React
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- abuse and lust, not love. Leads to death sometimes. Also deviant behaviorReact
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Bdsm should always be done with consent, and that is not abuse. However if someone is actually not asking for consent when it comes to bdsm or sex in general that is 100% rape, and abuse.
There is a big difference. When it comes to bdsm it can definitely be loving, or it could just be sexual it depends on each couple. In my experience I felt very loved with my dominant partner played with me. He never did anything that he knew would bother me which isn't much, haha, but I felt 100% safe at all times with him, and afterwards we cuddle and talk about love. 😊😊😊
- BDSM doesn’t look like my thing, but I’d be willing to try it. (Although I’d be willing to try almost anything at least once with my future wife.)React
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- Well, let's call this a "soft A", but just a touch toward the "B".React
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- I've never tried it but sounds like it could be funReact
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- Literally my first sexual experience and to this date my favorite way to start things outReact
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- I do enjoy bondage very much. Light bondage. It is a lot of fun and a turn onReact
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- C - not into it personally, but to each their own.React
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- C. I never saw the appeal of BDSM.React
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- Anonymous1 yBut why someone ashamed for what they love?React
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I agree that no one should be ashamed of it, however others who may not know anything about b. d. s. M may assume it's a bad thing and shame others who enjoy it. I know from personal experiences but I never let it bother me. :)
- I still need to educate myself on this one.React
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- I like the hardest BDSMReact
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- Of course life being kinkyReact
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- I'm a Dom, of course I love it.React
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- What are your kinksReact
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