How do you feel about B*D. S. M or any other kinks?

Question

I personally love it and I don't think anyone should be ashamed of it.

How do you feel about B*D. S. M or any other kinks?

love it!

I don't know enough about it.

It's not for me.

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Answer 1

ChrisMaster69 | 518 opinions shared on Other topic.

Guru

I’ve been in to it for about 20 years.

it’s a lifestyle more than what you get in porn or movies.

there used to an online forum called Informed Consent, it was a great place for BDSM people, however they now concentrate more on political and social acceptance of those that do BDSM and the words themselves.

Those 4 letters are also a huge dumping ground of kinks and every one assumes, it’s tying someone up and spanking them etc.

whereas the reality is far deeper and the bonds between a D/s are often far deeper then with a vanilla couple,

the other think is most people have a fantasy, fetish or kink.

one of the things I believe in is not to kink / fetish shame.

The social scene is also great, and often a good laugh chatting in pub with like minded people at munches etc,

Melamore

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100% percent agree! For me bdsm can also be very romantic with the right person, and it's also more of a lifestyle for me. I wish more people were educated on it that way us kinksters wouldn't get so much hate for it but at the end of the day I'm doing what makes me happy. Period. :)
ChrisMaster69

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@Melamore yes fully agree not only romantic but the level of trust is far greater than a vanilla couple will likely have.

That and the emotional connection.

It’s incredibly badly represented, you have some guy saying yeah I’m in to BDSM, I give it to her hard and spank her ass

It’s like yeah okay whatever,
Melamore

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Haha 😂 yes. You build a trust like no other with bdsm, and I'm happy that I'm open minded and educated enough on it so that I actually enjoy it.
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ChrisMaster69

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@Melamore also to me there is an important distinction between lifestyle and bedroom Dom’s.

It’s also not a case of being greedy and using all the letters 😂
Melamore

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I want all of the letters 😂😂😂 haha
ChrisMaster69

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@Melamore reading down some of the replies, they don’t really understand it.

Porn and 50 Shades has a lot to answer for lol
Melamore

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Right! Haha, I don't even bother replying to that rude one. 😂
ChrisMaster69

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@Melamore 😂😂😂 I knowlol
ChrisMaster69

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@Melamore thank you most appreciated

Answer 2

Melamore

100% percent agree! For me bdsm can also be very romantic with the right person, and it's also more of a lifestyle for me. I wish more people were educated on it that way us kinksters wouldn't get so much hate for it but at the end of the day I'm doing what makes me happy. Period. :)

Answer 3

ChrisMaster69

@Melamore yes fully agree not only romantic but the level of trust is far greater than a vanilla couple will likely have.

That and the emotional connection.

It’s incredibly badly represented, you have some guy saying yeah I’m in to BDSM, I give it to her hard and spank her ass

It’s like yeah okay whatever,

Answer 4

Melamore

Haha 😂 yes. You build a trust like no other with bdsm, and I'm happy that I'm open minded and educated enough on it so that I actually enjoy it.

Answer 5

ChrisMaster69

@Melamore also to me there is an important distinction between lifestyle and bedroom Dom’s.

It’s also not a case of being greedy and using all the letters 😂

Answer 6

Melamore

I want all of the letters 😂😂😂 haha

Answer 7

ChrisMaster69

@Melamore reading down some of the replies, they don’t really understand it.

Porn and 50 Shades has a lot to answer for lol

Answer 8

Melamore

Right! Haha, I don't even bother replying to that rude one. 😂

Answer 9

ChrisMaster69

@Melamore 😂😂😂 I knowlol

Answer 10

ChrisMaster69

@Melamore thank you most appreciated

Answer 11

hellionthesagereborn | 780 opinions shared on Other topic.

Guru

Depends. I don't mind bondage, I do mind the S&M part though. I'm into dominating but more about the teasing rather then the more violent parts i. e. tie her up and edge her rather then tie her up and whip her.

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Kelly6 | 777 opinions shared on Other topic.

Guru

Love it

Answer 13

JackofSpades | 348 opinions shared on Other topic.

Explorer

I find bondage and dom/sub roleplay stuff really hot.

I don't understand the appeal of the whole humiliation or inflicting/experiencing pain thing tho, and it really turns me off.

I may be willing to play around with it for the right girl, but for the most part it's a you do you kinda thing.

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Leavesbound | 241 opinions shared on Other topic.

Yoda

Let's just say that vanilla is not my favorite flavor :)

Melamore

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Same, why limit yourself to one flavor? Haha

Answer 15

Melamore

Same, why limit yourself to one flavor? Haha

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The_Maphio | 234 opinions shared on Other topic.

Explorer

NOt much of my stuff except for the bondage aspects. Tied up sex is awesome, but the rest of the D/s stuff is pretty weird to me.

Answer 17

Goatmeal

Xper 2

I actually really loathe people who are into BDSM. In my experience, they tend to be rude, arrogant, unintelligent normies. The kind of couples you would meet at a biker bar or Trump rally. The women are usually fat and arrogant, the men are usually big, dim-witted brutes.

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888theGreat | 1K opinions shared on Other topic.

Yoda

abuse and lust, not love. Leads to death sometimes. Also deviant behavior

Melamore

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Bdsm should always be done with consent, and that is not abuse. However if someone is actually not asking for consent when it comes to bdsm or sex in general that is 100% rape, and abuse.

There is a big difference. When it comes to bdsm it can definitely be loving, or it could just be sexual it depends on each couple. In my experience I felt very loved with my dominant partner played with me. He never did anything that he knew would bother me which isn't much, haha, but I felt 100% safe at all times with him, and afterwards we cuddle and talk about love. 😊😊😊
888theGreat

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If you say so

Answer 19

Melamore

Bdsm should always be done with consent, and that is not abuse. However if someone is actually not asking for consent when it comes to bdsm or sex in general that is 100% rape, and abuse.

There is a big difference. When it comes to bdsm it can definitely be loving, or it could just be sexual it depends on each couple. In my experience I felt very loved with my dominant partner played with me. He never did anything that he knew would bother me which isn't much, haha, but I felt 100% safe at all times with him, and afterwards we cuddle and talk about love. 😊😊😊

Answer 20

888theGreat

If you say so

Answer 21

clampfan101 | 4.6K opinions shared on Other topic.

Master

BDSM doesn’t look like my thing, but I’d be willing to try it. (Although I’d be willing to try almost anything at least once with my future wife.)

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Massageman | 2.1K opinions shared on Other topic.

Master

Well, let's call this a "soft A", but just a touch toward the "B".

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Joshua0213 | 194 opinions shared on Other topic.

Xper 6

I've never tried it but sounds like it could be fun

Answer 24

2ndTryatThis

Xper 6

Literally my first sexual experience and to this date my favorite way to start things out

Answer 25

WhiteWolf69

Xper 5

I do enjoy bondage very much. Light bondage. It is a lot of fun and a turn on

Answer 26

Nick245

Xper 5

Bdsm is quite interesting

Melamore

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It is, and there is so much more to it than meets the eyes. For some people its a way of life while for others its simply a fun sex experience. nothing wrong with either. :)

Answer 27

Melamore

It is, and there is so much more to it than meets the eyes. For some people its a way of life while for others its simply a fun sex experience. nothing wrong with either. :)

Answer 28

Anonymous

But why someone ashamed for what they love?

Melamore

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I agree that no one should be ashamed of it, however others who may not know anything about b. d. s. M may assume it's a bad thing and shame others who enjoy it. I know from personal experiences but I never let it bother me. :)
Opinion Owner

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In porn or practically?

Answer 29

Melamore

I agree that no one should be ashamed of it, however others who may not know anything about b. d. s. M may assume it's a bad thing and shame others who enjoy it. I know from personal experiences but I never let it bother me. :)

Answer 30

Opinion Owner

In porn or practically?

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Wise4myage | 1.1K opinions shared on Other topic.

Master

C. I never saw the appeal of BDSM.

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GingerGuy | 1.6K opinions shared on Other topic.

Master

C - not into it personally, but to each their own.

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SenseiSeptred | 145 opinions shared on Other topic.

Xper 7

I still need to educate myself on this one.

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Malono | 98 opinions shared on Other topic.

Xper 5

I like the hardest BDSM

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Shihab91 | 96 opinions shared on Other topic.

Xper 6

Within limits yes sure

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Luckycharms12 | 186 opinions shared on Other topic.

Yoda

Of course life being kinky

Answer 37

krin_m | 245 opinions shared on Other topic.

Explorer

I'm a Dom, of course I love it.

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Iron_Man | 14.6K opinions shared on Other topic.

Master

What are your kinks

Answer 39

Fuentes | 1.4K opinions shared on Other topic.

Guru

Not interested

Answer 40

CrypticViper | 73 opinions shared on Other topic.

Xper 5

I love it.

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ItsMeItsMe1989 | 209 opinions shared on Other topic.

Xper 7

Think it's too much

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oldermale | 188 opinions shared on Other topic.

Yoda

Love it..

Answer 43

Texasguy99

Xper 5

I’m in

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JesseJayNeak | 457 opinions shared on Other topic.

Explorer

Not my cup of tea

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