It used to not be possible to get divorced… until death do us part meant something. It’s too dangerous to chase and too unstable to last anymore.
@VanillaSalt Marriage is not dangerous. People who fail to honor their commitments are dangerous.
Woman are dangerous. The pursuit of marriage is perilous. The cost of failure is years.
@VanillaSalt The fact that you got burned in a divorce doesn't mean it is a bad idea for everyone.
The fact some kids shot himself with his dads gun don’t mean it’s a good idea to have s a gun lock… that was your logic right there.
@VanillaSalt The "logic" in your last comment escapes me, and 'm really not dense. No, the fact that you got burned in a divorce doesn't mean it is a bad idea for everyone.
If your neighbors kid shouts himself then you take precautions to avoid that either by not buying a gun or getting a gun lock or by not having a kid. If you know a woman can screw you in divorce then it’s a god reason for ALL men to protect themselves.
@VanillaSalt Your house COULD catch on fire and burn up tonight. Are you ready for the fire when it happens?
I got a fire extinguisher… a fire alarm. 911… so ya I’m ready.
@VanillaSalt Exactly right!
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Then ask the mothers what they were thinking when they were part of the 80% of divorces filed by women…
I wonder if that changes after you get divorced.
@VanillaSalt Hopefully it never has to come to that...
But odds are it will. 51% divorce rates don’t leave me hopeful. With the rate of divorce and continuing mistreatment of men in the system don’t expect many men to settle down. And when they do understand you’ll probably have to settle to get one. Not even the one you want. And one more number for you. 80% of divorce are filed by women.
@VanillaSalt But if I have to settle for a man I don't want, wouldn't that just make divorce even more likely? 🤔Anyway 51% isn't THAT bad, all it means is that people should be selecting their partners more carefully. Avoid marrying deadbeats, addicts/alcoholics, and abusive people.But if it really came down to it, and no decent man would be willing to marry me, then I'll just be a single mom. Having kids are almost a must to me because they are basically going to be my social security when I'm too old to take care of myself.
look I don’t mean this rude… your and ignorant child. Being a single mother isn’t something to strive for… it’s a disgrace. The odds aren’t just high but insanely high you don’t even know what being an adult is yet. You can keep your syrupy off being s successful business woman and your mother being an amazing single mom because it’s irrelevant. What you are now is most likely not what you will be in 10 years. What you want will not be the same. Your whole career is likely to change. How could you possibly know you’ll be as amazing of a parent as your single mother… I could support a family of 4 on my income but do you know how much I have to work to do that? Do you know the cost of daycare? Both financially and emotionally and developmentally on your children? I just buried my mother and my banks tapped out and I just locked my keys in my car 2 hours ago… how you going to deal with that situation? You might have to break your window open just to pick your kids up from daycare… one month of spending smart and I’ve got money in the bank you don’t have that with children.No responsible adult would say they’ll just be a single parent.
@VanillaSalt I'm not striving to be a single mom, I'm just saying that this probably is the last resort if I can't find someone to marry. Do you know how much nursing homes cost? Like $8,000 per month! I'm not proud of the idea, but what else do you expect me to do? I'm thinking about the future here.There's ways that I might be able to reduce the stress. I have siblings. My older sister already knows she won't be getting married and possibly wants to adopt. Maybe we can both just start our own foster family together, I dunno.The single mom outcome is not desirable, and I know that. Either way, it beats spending my adult life married to some deadbeat man-child or alcoholic wife beater just because that's the only type of man willing to settle down.
The average cost of a child from age 0-18 is approximately 1 million… per kid… it’s cheaper at 8k/month. Also your assuming every man you feel is unworthy is a wife beater or an alcoholic cheater. So what’s your answer for the odd man out like me never cheated, don’t hurt women, don’t drink, do drugs, or smoke, work 60-90 hrs a week… the men women skip isn’t because their wife beaters the men women skip are the ones who ain’t hot enough or don’t have game or they don’t have the right job…Also do you think men are going to want to settle with women being so #killallmen #believeallwomen… what is it with women thinking when I say settle I mean accept a 1… I mean that 2 in looks might be a 10 in heart or in finances. And I don’t say settle because men don’t need to aim better. I say settle because you ain’t Julia roberts… you can’t land the hot man, with lots of money, who’s a good man and respects women… they don’t exist or their already married.
@VanillaSalt If you divide those 18 years, the average cost of a child is actually around $5000 per month. Cut that in half if you have a partner to share your expenses with. On top of that, teens can get a part time job and contribute, reducing the cost. Not to mention, retired people usually have less money to spend, so 8k/month for them would be huge! If you ask me, I'd rather invest my money into a loving family instead of dying in a lonely long term care facility.Believe it or not, most women settle for average looking men with zero issue. I don't speak for all women, but all I ask for in terms of looks is that he has a normal face, is as tall as or taller than me (5'4), takes care of his body, and isn't fat/doesn't have a dad bod. Most men can fit this criteria. I don't know why you are unable to have success though, if the guy in your picture is you then you look pretty good to me. Maybe your problem is with your personality? Or perhaps you are only going after women who aren't looking for someone like you? I can't answer your question because I don't know you and I'm still inexperienced with relationships, so I'm just as clueless as you are 😅And yeah, you should NOT settle down with a misandrist #KAM woman that doesn't respect men, in the same way I will NOT settle with a MGTOW misogynist man that doesn't respect women. Those people are just trouble all in one package.
Hey I take offense to that I’m mgtow… over the last few years I’ve grown to recognize not only the on sidedness of marriage but the dangers or women.
I assume you didn't get what you wanted in this regard? May I ask why?
@JustMe62 I wanted to stay a virgin until marriage.
@JustMe62 I recently been sexually assaulted so I lost hope now.
Sorry to hear this. There certainly are creeps in this world. I hope you will be ok. Maybe you can t=still find it.
@JustMe62 Thank you so much I pray everyday I hope God answers me one day.
@VanillaSalt What did you just say?
@JustMe62 I tend to ignore that guy he's some creepy person who always comments under my posts.
Your mom cheated on your dad?
no. only mu cousin and my aunts were cheated on
Well at the rate we’re going odds are higher IF you get married you’ll get divorced.
Why are you so negative
It’s negative to state statistics? I mean I AM negative but I didn’t realize my comment was this time lmao.
@VanillaSalt Okay cool and just so you know I wasn't attacking you. I like you hear different opinions so if I came across that's way I apologize
You sure you didn’t read it again and realize I was right?
@VanillaSalt Yeah that too! 😂
Divorce is 50% + of marriages.
@VanillaSalt I know some parts of the world have some terrible statistics, but not everywhere, and I've not been through that particular mill yet so I can afford to be optimistic.
In the states it’s 51% and in the UK is even worse.
@VanillaSalt I hear it's better in the UK, not worse, and it's also better in the middle classes than the working classes.
In the UK sexual harassment against a woman (not man) is treated as a hate crime. The same side in Australia sees leering as sexual harassment. What happens when the 2 combine? Hate crime for looking at a woman lol.
And divorce = lost kids cheating wife and financially destroyed for the next 18 years.
@VanillaSalt: I don't see life from your negative and sour point of view.
You keep admiring the birds your going to trip on your own feet.