They know they didn't treat me well, but they just don't want to take the consequences of it and they didn't see this coming.
Instead of just ignoring these guys, I tend to get myself worked up about the situation, because I don't want them to just move on and act like I'm a drama queen, while I feel hurt.
So how can I best handle this?
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You ARE acting like a drama queen. If a guy or anyone else treats you in a disrespectful manner, tell them right then & there. Do not wait & let it fester like a pus-filled sore. They may not know that they did something wrong, especially if you didn't say anything. Giving someone the "silent treatment" or "cold shoulder" is just juvenile and does not accomplish anything. It makes matters worse. Do you really think that it teaches them anything? No! As you said, it only serves to get you worked up & make you look like a drama queen, or I'm sure, they think a b*tch. (I hate that word!)
So next time, speak up for yourself, in the same respectful manner that you want to be treated in, and tell him that you do not appreciate _______, and you do not want that to happen again because it makes you feel ____________. Then just be quiet & listen, wait for them to say something. See if they "get it." They usually do, if you say it calm, cool & directly without accusatory words.
Try it, I think you will get better results & you will be treated the way you want to be treated. Good luck.