No, I don't mean a debate, I mean an actual argument you would have with family, friends, strangers, ect...
But me, I want to be a fireman, I do try my best to be respectful, I love dressing up as much as the next gal, believe me, dresses are one of my favorite things, but I like guns, knives, I desperately want to learn archery.
I have a very, very dirty sense of humor when I want to, I love telling sexist jokes, and I usually say what's on my mind, unfortunately. I know what tactfulness is but it seems like I don't always know when to use it. I'm a very blunt and straightforward person, I like to get straight to the point.
Yet, I want to grow up and learn to be a bit more mature. I know this is something that comes with time, but it only comes with time if you are practicing it.
I'm not sure exactly what I need to be practicing. I can't be a lady all the time, not with my career choices, I have to be able to tell someone to get back, get out of the way and be I have to be tough. But I won't be doing that all the time.
I read that part of being a lady is being well rounded. I have an intense desire to learn many languages, learn calligraphy, do some MMA training just for fun, ride horses, help people, give gifts just because, be a good friend and much much more.
I have an intense desire to learn, so what does it take to be a Lady when it calls for it? What kind of small gestures should you be doing and practicing?
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Being a lady is an overall sense of class that is more than skin-deep. I.e. you act classy and take the high road as opposed to let stupid arguments and acts of others drag you down to their level.
It takes a mother load of confidence and inner calm as it involves leaving a lot of lesser people to believe they have "won" something - whereas you worry about the big picture.
You're a lady not for someone else to notice that and say that about you, but because that is who you are and for you there'd be no other way - you pick between a lady and a pretentious / conniving pig and you stay that course, basically.