What does it mean when a girl says "You're not my type"
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Honestly, just by reading this question and your 'about me,' I thought you seemed like an interesting and intelligent individual. I will admit though that you really aren't my type physically but I would still like to go on a date with you based on your interests (if I was single that is). Nut hey... I usually date guys who I find intriguing not by how hot he is.
Don't listen to the woman who says your game is lacking. Unless your objective is to bed multiple women, your game isn't an issue.
She's clearly projecting onto you what she's all about.
The best way to meet women, IME, is to be around enough women, in your social circle, and have a good time being yourself and living your life.
Women will see that, and someone will want a piece of that.
i think that statement is based on looks most of the time.
if I say that to a guy his 1st appearance matters a whole lot, I look him up and down. and his attitude and how he asks me out comes 2nd.
i am the type of girl that I am willing to date a guy if I am single and he comes off as a gentle man. but if he is ghetto, thuggish, wanabe tough guy, or says something stupid I won't budge.
1 example (going off topic) this one guy, so cute I wouldve said yes...but I gave him a no because he asked to use my phone, that made me raise an eyebrow, or use it...on the phone he was talking to a woman and it sound like he was making an order or some sort. I got back my phone and he tried to hit on me.
i was thinking, you asking to use my phone and you wana go out to dinner? are you gona forget your wallet too? I just listened to him..i asked if it was his girlfriend on phone and he said no, he just had to take care of business, to me that meant drugs and it was a hell no in my book too many red flags.
i did look at your pics and your profile and I would agree your are average but I think you would do better if the girl got to know you 1st. that way you she can't base too much off looks alone
Most of the time its just a simple no cloaked in a few words that cause a lot of puzzelement. That's okay though because if she took the time to say that then that means she was trying to spare your feelings, which leads to the fact that they have some repsect for you and that you have succesfully made a bond with her. This in conclusion means that you obvioulsy have a good personality and from what I see yes you look fine. Just get out some more and find the right one.
When 'I' say someone is not my type I include personality factors as well as the physical.
A man can 'look' however fine, sexy, handsome or good he wants to but if our personalties can't gel or he just doesn't have the personality type I'm looking for then he might as well be non-existent because I can't do it.
Now, of course he has to appeasing to my eyes ( not by what other women want but what 'I' want) but looks fade, your soul core never does.
'You' on the other hand are attractive, as a matter of fact you remind me a good bit of Taye Diggs in " Stella Got Her Groove Back", you're good looking...funny face on your avi but I could see you as a model.
Anyway, it's quite like you said though, everyone has their preferences.
When a girl say's "not my type", this usually a disconnect between "physical attraction" and "personality" (interests, dress style, how you look in your pictures; girls analyze ALL of that stuff!).
You have one, but not the other.
Since this is on a dating site, it's probably lack of physical attraction overall.
P.S. As a fellow black male, the fact that you're black may turn some females off (even BLACK females!) because of you being black. Sad but true. :-X
it means "i don't see us together". plain and simple. so you just got friend zoned.
it always starts with the physical features considering its online. then personality, then what you have in common, if there's any chemistry... but usually its mostly physical. don't take it to heart. you are not ugly. its just that you are meeting the wrong kind of girls. keep exploring and good luck
dude you look totally fine - I'd say you're more attractive than average
if you look for a girl outside of your ethnicity like Asian or whatever, naturally the "rejection ratio" is going to shoot up, but it is a numbers and patience game
Online dating is definitely about the looks first, then height and income second. That's why no one without a picture is even looked at. Most likely she is not physically attracted to you. If it isn't that, then she went beyond the photo and didn't like something in the profile, most likely the height or income. This is why I don't bother with online dating because I cannot honestly say I am 5'10" and make $150,000 a year (The 99% can't say the latter anyway, those women are corporatist and therefore not my type anyway). and I don't take good photos, although I don't think my current avatar is that bad...I can't even smile right, it comes out (unintentionally) as a "creepy grin".
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Not my type is the perfect excuse, you can't argue about taste, so you just have to accept. It's like saying: it's not you, it's me.
You are not my type, nothing you did wrong there, I just have other preferences, it's not you it's me.
You know, that's a tricky question.
I've never personally said that because I don't want to hurt anyone's feelings... and there are better ways to say you're not interested than using that phrase.
But, way of saying you're not interested aside, I think it depends on the girl saying it.
Girls who care a lot about image would base it mostly on appearance.
Girls who get to know you first and discover personality traits would base it on both.
I mean, you've got to be attractive to HER *every girl has different tastes though, so it's not black and white* while also having personality traits she connects with.
So, although it's not the answer your looking for, it really just depends on the person saying it.
In my opinion, anyone who says "You're not my type" after just looking at you is a waste of time anyways, even if you *were* their type :)
Beauty isn't always skin deep, cliche but true.
Easy. It means, I'm not physically attracted to you. Translation: You didn't pass the eye test dude. Happens to everyone.
Bro mang you'll find the chocolate love one day just be yourself and god will reward you with an equal personality
It means that she I looking for something better looking
You're not my type is a much more polite way of saying "I don't find you attractive"
She's just not attracted to you. It could be either physically or mentally.
it mean simple that your not what she's looking for at them moment ...she might change her mind later... you never know.
weird you're not ugly, when a women says that it means she doesent like you :P
She' s not into you, but that could change. With time.
I think it can be either or.
She's not interested in looks and personality
In my experience, she just means no... sorry :(
It could be both. Usually the personality. The way they dress, wear their hair. It could be anything, or a number of things. See what the guys look like, act like, that go with the females that you like. There's your answer.
From your profile you seem like a lovely, genuine guy, and attractive too. Just keep going with it, you'll find someone soon for sure. A lot of girls say 'you're not my type' when they aren't interested, it generally doesn't mean anything specific. Just be yourself, and good luck with it :)
It usually means they think your ugly, its the sad truth. Women are bigger liars then men, their the ones who are always bitching and complaining there's no nice guys, but when then come along they don't want nothing to do with them. At least us guys don't hide the fact we're into big breast, ass's etc. Women on the other hand play the dumb card.
It has to do more with looks
It means that she is not attracted to you.
It might even be solely about your looks. I could also be assumptions about your personality/character.
I wouldn't worry too much because at the end of the day you're some girl's type. It shouldn't matter if you're not a lot of girls' type unless your goal is to get as many chicks as possible.
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I have to ask, what ethnicity are you going towards most the time? I know it's the 21st century and we all want to believe racism is dead, hell America has a black president right? Truth is though, I know waaaaaay too many women that won't date outside their own ethnicity. (If you need proof, go onto a dating site like okcupid, and look at how many women answered the question "Would you want your partner to be the same ethnicity as you" as a "yes", and further more rated a response of "no" as unacceptable. I was sort of appalled by the sheer amount that considered the question very important.) I mean, looking at your pictures I don't peg you as the type (physically speaking) to be seriously hindered in that area. You're not out of shape, you're not disfigured or have an oddly asymmetrical face/features. You have a little bit of an Omar Epps resemblance if I were to compare you to a celebrity.
The "you're not my type" thing is definitely related to physical attributes, but the problem is you don't seem unattractive. Just giving my two cents. I'm sure people will say I'm wrong and that I'm being a presumptuous a**hole, etc. etc. but the fact is, I still see a lot of racism today and if you happen to be asking out a bunch of women outside your race this might actually be a factor, for at least some of them.
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it's a nice way of saying "I think you're ugly and wouldn't f*ck you for a million dollars."
It means she doesn't think y ou guys are good together. I wouldn't dwell on this too much, I woud just move move
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