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Look he's way to comfy and you've already excepted that he doesn't have to work hard for your attention by allowing the situation to go this way. If things are meant to be then you would not only be able to talk about your feeling/ wants but he would ask and be more in tune with you. If we as women "follow the rules" and make ourselves clear from the beginning threw our actions (ex: first time you hang out alone will have to be him at least taking you out for drinks or if you don't drink him asking you out in a form of a way.. Not you meeting up with him later in the night or vice a versa). If you only except being treated a certain way he will be more tuned into you and will treat you better (not all guys will stick around but it's more about finding a good guy then getting stuck on changing a soso guy). In your case I would distance yourself and see if he comes after you, and refuse to meet up with him anywhere other than a restaurant and not at his house.. If he asks you to hang out (and at least a day in advance) tell him that you really want to try "NAME OF RESTAURANT" near him.. If he says ohh I already have dinner plans then say ohh well then call me when you want to make plans and don't have conflicting ones and hang up. Let him come after you, it's frustrating but the truth is that men technically are animals and animals like to hunt, there's no fun in a lion chasing a submissive/ passive aggressive zebra. Guys I use to "date" started to get to comfy and didn't realize who they were dealing with... So I let them know verbally that I don't play games and if they aren't going to treat me the way I deserve to be treated then we can always be friends.. Putting them in the friend zone is great because they now respect you more and you've thrown them a positive surprise and they usually will try to be more then friends but the ball is back in your court.