I see a lot of questions on here about whether or not it's ok for your boyfriend or your girlfriend to hangout with the opposite sex. I'm torn by this.
On one hand I think it's perfectly ok for my boyfriend to hang out with his female friends (which he has a lot of, being from a culture where this is very normal) alone or with a group IF
1. They've been friends longer then him and I have been together.
2. If he tells me about it and isn't being sneaky.
3. If it's not alone at his or her house.
Now, 99% of the time, my boyfriend will ask me to join, so this makes me feel even more comfortable with him hanging out with his female friends in the future alone. However, I think it is different in every relationship and every situation. If my boyfriend happened to meet a girl while being out with his buddies one night and came home saying he met a new friend and was going to go hang out with her, then I might have a problem with it because to me that is asking for trouble.
You don't know the girl so you may as well call it a date seeing as you're going to be "getting to know each other". I'm always so hot and cold about this subject. And I find myself having to talk myself out of an emotional breakdown when I get a text from my boyfriend saying "hey babe, I told [insert females name here] if meet her for drinks tonight", like I said that text will most likely include "do you want to come with me?" So at the end of the day I just have to remind myself that I trust my man, he's a very social person, he's not sneaky, he always includes me, so I really have nothing to worry about.
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Good Take,
I agree with you 100% with open and honest communication. Its even more important that he is involving you into his life to meet his friends regardless if they are m/f. = building trust and getting to know him better.
On the other hand, being the girlfriend, you are open to meet and respect his friends. Thats how relationships work. If he meets a new f. friend. and all excited about her. its his responsibility to make sure you are free and all of you guys meet as friends.
Thats how it was with me and my ex. husband.
my ex. boyfriend. a whole diff. story and thats the main reason relstaionships don't work. it creates lies, jealous, and other complications and lead to ending of a potential good realitionship.
Hell no. Only girl friends he needs is me his sister and his mother.
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