I see this as such a common question/topic and it's truly such a hard thing to go through. This can be vice versa for relationships, doesn't just aim at boyfriend! :)
The real thing is, don't stop your boyfriend from having his friends. Stopping his from having female friends isn't the correct way to do things because he'll most like be annoyed that you are trying to control his friendships. But in saying that, it's alright to be insecure about him having them as friends. It's very natural to have that feeling because your boyfriend is obviously putting his attention to someone else.. especially that it's a girl.
1. Care
You're obviously attracted to him and care and no women ever wants to lose their man to another girl. However it is your responsibility to know when to draw the line. That the level of your jealousy/competitiveness doesn't actually affect your relationship.
2. Communication
The easiest way to understand your feelings is talking to him. He's your boyfriend at the end of the day and the support of him through communication can help you and also make him aware of how you're feeling. You can't just think he should know what you're feeling, you might have such a comfortable and easy going relationship that he doesn't realize that what he's doing is making you feel bad and that's not his fault either. Just be honest about how you feel and if he cares about you he will listen and he'll be understanding. However don't think this means you can tell him to stop talking to them and expect him to stay away from them. If it's a certain girl you're worrying about, ask yourself : Do you trust your boyfriend? Do you feel she's a threat in your relationship? Do you notice him flirt with her even when he knows how you feel? Are you lacking confidence?
3. Take Control
Probably the worst thing to do is starting the blaming game. Since you can't control, say for example the girls behaviour or boyfriend behaviour, take control on your own life. That way you have the authority to control how you feel and nothing anyone else can do, aside from your boyfriend cheating, can affect your relationship (just an example.) You don't need to give any girl the satisfaction by playing up to her games. If you have trust in your partner, then show how solid your relationship is.
4. Friendship
A fear you may have is feeling jealous that he might leave you for one of them. Don't be a stranger, work your way to getting to know them. If it's his friend, it doesn't mean you can't get to know them either. Invite her to come over for a meal or something. Hang out as a group with you and your man or even a group of friends.
5. Give it a chance
Act like yourself when you're around her, don't be a jealous girlfriend with your wall up. Get to know his friends also.
However, in saying all this, it is such a hard thing to deal with. Jealousy and even self confidence plays such a huge role and it is a very hard thing to handle. But it is the same vice versa, if you have guy friends, you're guy might be feeling the same thing. At the end of the day, this is all a very natural feeling. Easiest thing I recommend is to just get to know the friends, nothing says you can't get to know who your significant other hangs out with! :)
Hope this helps some people! Try putting yourself in their shoes and that way it can help to see the way you're acting towards it :)
Comment if there's other ways you've dealt with it :)
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