So I am writing this not to make anyone feel bad but kind of out of curiosity. Why is it that young people are so fearful of marriage and staying away from the concept? I am 19 years old and I have been on many dating sites just to explore and my curiosity always gets the better of me. I have noticed that most of the guys I talk to say they just want to have fun. Now, I understand that they most likely would like to settle down later, but why not at a younger age? Is it society or what is it? It’s not just guys. It’s everybody.
There seems to be the thinking that you have to have your job all situated and have lived your life before you find a serious man or woman to settle down with. Why can’t we date to find that spouse and have fun with them and work on our careers as well? Who knows, they may even help further your career.
One of my closest friends is also 19 and at this time engaged. Everybody seems so shocked. They say that those two have not even begun their lives to know if they should get married or not. First of all, they have definitely begun their lives and have been living it. Second of all, why can’t they live their life together? Whoa an epiphany!!! Together?!!?!? What does this word mean??? Yeah that is how society seems to roll. Why are we constantly fighting our ways to become successful all by ourselves? Society says that to have it all, you need to first be all and my dear that to them means be all by your very lonely self. Then once you have it all, add somebody to the picture, aka your future spouse.
I just think it’s so frustrating that people are trying so hard to live up to something when in the end it’s not about how much money or how established you are. It’s about the people you loved and the people that you carried during all those life moments. No amount of money is worth a single person. So why is it that society would rather you be alone and a billionaire than poor and with a happy wife and lots of kids? By the way, lots of kids is not for everyone. Don’t get me wrong.
People can be successful and rich yet still have a partner and a loving family at a young age. I’m not dissing anybody if that’s you. I’m just saying. Stop worrying so much on having fun in life. Find meaning in life!!! Not just doing whatever feels good or the next thing that catches your eye. Be young and enjoy your youth, but don’t play around. Life isn’t a joke. If you think it is, then you might as well throw this article down the toilet because not one thing I said will make sense to you. Live your life fully and chase the love of your life. Don’t waste time getting drunk or having sex with the dude sitting next to you at the bar. I don’t know, maybe join a sports league or something. Meet people. Find passion in beautiful things. If you hope to marry someday, work on yourself and spend your time around potential spouses. Work hard on your career but don’t let it take over your life or you’ll wake up one day and realize you’re alone while all your best friends have grandbabies by then.