You thought that this relationship was going to last for sure. You had your dress picked out that you saw in a window when you were in downtown with him. Surely this couldn’t possibly end? But it did.
You were so lucky to have her. She made your day bright every single day. You thought you would have many years with her. Maybe even go on crazy vacations down the road. Surely this couldn’t possibly end? But it did.
So now you’re single!?! What to do….
1. Evaluate the situation.
Everybody’s situations are completely different. Only you can judge what the right thing to do is. Was the relationship could enough that you want to work to fix it? If you think that you could fix it and you really want to, then go for it! Just don’t live in denial. The sooner you admit it’s over, the faster you can recover.
2. Don’t Communicate with Your Ex.
This may be super hard, and I totally understand. You know what? Just give your phone to your best friend. I guarantee they won’t give it back to you because they don’t want you to talk to your ex either. You need the GPS? Google directions before you leave your house. Easy as that.
3. Bring Closure.
You can do this by writing a letter saying goodbye. You can do this by going to your old spot and saying good bye out loud. It sounds hard, but you’ll feel your heart lighten.
4. Enjoy Your Singleness!!!
This is by far my favorite part. Being single is a whole lot of fun. I know society makes you feel worthless without a boyfriend or girlfriend, but there is a lot you can do now. For example, you could dive into your career more. You can post crazy fun pictures on Instagram and not hear about it being too much and having to take it down. You can have more fun with your buddies or your girlfriends. Make a list of things you really want to do and freaking do them all!
5. Lean on Your Friends.
Your friends will always be there for you. You will get sad I can tell you that for sure. Call them and talk to them. Hang out with them. They will be more than happy to ease your pain.
6. Believe.
You need to believe that things get broken so that better things can fall into place. She or he may have been your everything. But just imagine, someday you will meet somebody that thinks you are their everything as well. Now that’s something worth being single for right now. So, stop crying over somebody that doesn’t belong to you. Start getting excited about the one that’s dying to find you!!!
7. Don’t Give Up.
I think the number one thing I see all over websites and social media is people saying they are worthless or something sad because they still haven’t found “the one” or they haven’t found even a girlfriend or boyfriend. Please don’t measure your worth on that. Just go back to my point number four and number six. Keep going on your journey and keep believing. They are so many people in the world. We are not meant to be alone.
8. If You’re Struggling...
I could write another long post on this subject. Never change yourself so you can find someone. Now, there are many things you can change about yourself, but don’t change who you are. For example, maybe you aren’t getting girls because you smell, so put on some deodorant and maybe some delicious smelling axe. Another example, maybe you are super shy, and you don’t talk. Work on that slowly while you’re single so that you can find some hot dude. Being single is amazing because you can grow individually in things you always wanted. I used to be incredibly shy. Therefore, I purposely threw myself in social situations until I got comfortable. You can do that too.
Lot’s of good things can come out of being single. Make that list and go crazy! Who knows? You may meet someone when you’re only in the middle of the list. Have them join you.
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