I Cheated and it Was NOT an Accident (Page 2)
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I would say finally someone speaks truth and I know you are trying to move on by owning the shit. I know confessing will make it little bit heart-breaking but also say sorry to the man.
What's done is done but try to improve his situation about it.
This happened about five years ago, so hopefully things have gotten better on his end.
I told him I was sorry but that doesn't fix anything or change the fact that it happened.
Thank you for the comment.
You cannot cheat by accident but, yes, it can be a mistake. Sometimes our emotions cloud our judgement, like when we say things out of anger that we don't really mean. People make mistakes.
The only person, that can make a mistake like that is a 1-month old human baby or a wildlife animal because they don't know any better.
If you can understand rape, molest, sex, condoms, then there is a 100% chance that you know what cheating is.
So it can't be a mistake, you just did it.
The best thing a cheater do is admit what they caused, no mistakes, no accidents, and just STFU be better than that and live life.
I’ll have to agree that we all make mistakes.
@Ljd213 totally agree with you 👍🏼
@Ljd213 A mistake and an accident are completely different things, so yes, it can be a mistake.
Well, people that believe that it is a mistake and does it will clearly need to stay in with a psychiatrist due to being not being mentally developed enough to see what they are causing to others.
@Ljd213 then i guess every person alive needs that because we all make mistakes. Except you. Apparently, you're perfect and don't make mistakes.
Oh, I am perfect now?, Did I say this?, Well thank you for saying that.
Also, since you are comparing cheating with a bunch of other mistakes. Let me divert this to violence
People, committing terrorist acts hurting innocent lives, just like cheating hurting innocent lives.
Would you say people that intentionally pull the trigger to take or harm someone life was a mistake, just like someone who intentionally put their sex parts into someone else that will harm a loved one's life?
It's not a mistake, just a newly created habit or fun hobby
@Ljd213 Once again, you are linking a mistake to an accident, which are completely different things. An accident is never intentional. That's why it's an accident. Regardless of how it happens, it was not intended.
An a mistake is when you are misguided and do something based on that judgement. A high school student that abandons her friends to be "cool" and then regrets it later, that is a mistake. They knew what they were doing, as you say, and meant to do it, so it's not an accident, but that decision, that judgement call was influenced by something else. They are misguided and realize that afterwards.
Look up the definition of a mistake and an accident. Two completely different things.
I did look it up and you didn't answer my question.
Also, here is what I can say
Having the THOUGHT of cheating on someone is a mistake.
Committing the act isn't a mistake, it was intentional
You hurt others because of your fun new hobby was a MISTAKE on THEIR part for trusting you, which then you NOW believe that this was the case when you DIDN'T BEFORE you committed the act.
It's because of the BOND you with the person that you messed up, letting him/her affect you for who you help you believe that this was a MISTAKE, when before you were alone and had your own thought process and believing that this will be OKAY :).
Hearing "It was a mistake" from a cheater makes them sound useless, worthless, hopeless, meaningless, superficial, and weak. Someone who can be easily manipulated.
Just taking the cheater title, growing above it, sounds like more as If I am actually talking to a human being who wants to stop their actions that harm others.
@Ljd213 Everything we do, unless it's unintentional, an accident, is intentional. Doesn't meant it's not a mistake. What part of that aren't you processing? You can want to be right all you want, you can argue your point all you want, but there is no logic in it. Mistakes apply to everything but cheating, It's intentional. Completely intentional. Yes, it is, that is why it's not an accident. It doesn't matter what bond you have, doesn't matter how bad you hurt someone. If you looked up the definition of both then I've already been proven right because that's what a mistake, by definition, is. None of what you mentioned changes anything. It's just you saying that a mistake is a mistake, unless it's cheating. When it comes to cheating, there are no mistakes.
I don't want to continue more with this, and also you still haven't answered my question about violence. You just blow it off.
A few things to add:
I can imagine if you had a child, that was molested and the molester came up to you AFTER he/she JUST got caught and said, "It was a mistake, it just felt right and good"
I bet you be like, "Oh, its okay buddy :). Everyone makes mistakes"
I got nothing else to say.
Amazing take. I'm not excusing cheating but I've noticed a lot of women use the "it was a mistake" line in particular. I'm glad you gave a very objective view of cheating - refreshing!
Well, if you wanted to do it then what's the question? Either don't get in a relationship and screw randomers or get in a realtionship and keep your legs together; failing that breakup with person before you do cheat
i agree entirely with everything you said up until the last paragraph.
certainly in my two instances i agree i had to leave but i think every situation can be different and some instances of cheating don't necessarily demand a break up
"but it was a nasty relationship, he wasn't a good guy "
Irrelevant and it's not an excuse. Just break up in that case.
"I tried to leave, MANY times"
If you remained with him, apparently you didn't.
How do you accidently cheat on someone. What, you were both naked and you slipped and your pussy landed on his erect dick?
I agree with you. There is no such thing as cheating accidently.
What circumstances made you that you couldn't leave why tolerate his bullcrap, I still don't feel for you because you could of left instead of cheating NO EXCUSES
Well, there is no reason for me to go into detail about why I couldn't leave, you've just stated no excuses which leads me back to the part where I said "I take full responsibility for my actions"
Also, at no point did I ask for anyone's sympathy.
I think she is just rationalizing her actions. She knows they are wrong, but she is attempting to understand why she made them. It's a toxic relationship where both of them didn't want to walk away. Maybe they like it that way because it makes them feel alive and better about their insecurities? Some people enjoy fighting with their lovers because they enjoy getting the upper hand to feel dominant. Everyone has their own methods of dealing with insecurity and these types of people exist.
I am still not changing my opinion, I still feel you could of left instead of cheating just because you could... Hopefully you know you're scum
Good thing your opinion of me doesn't matter at all. I'm so pleased to have you and so many other absolutely perfect people judging me. 😊
MyTake Owner,
If you truly didn't feel bad about how your relationships are, you wouldn't be ashamed and post this as anonymous.
Are you sure you even consider cheating as a something bad? It seems you might only view it as wrong when it's done to you.
The 'accident' is usually under estimating the effect of alcohol or drugs in my opinion.
It isn't judicially accepted for driving but it's socially accepted concerning sex. Hence cheating ACCIDENTALLY...
Now this is something, that we barely see. A cheater saying, that cheating cannot be an accident. News indeed!
This is why I love being single. I think I'll start taking this again
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and continue embracing my singlehood.
what dat
@caligirl03 Ahhh. Glad you are asking.
This is a red pill.
Which allows the consumer to see the reality and the truths. The opposite of it being the blue pill (living in the blissful illusions and dreams, which aren't true).
See girls and boys cheat on each other. Not all of them do but cheating is sort of a popular trend but a shameful one it seems.
Hence it is better to stay single and untouched than being screwed over in betrayal.
It makes living the single life an experience, a journey. Makes it good to be single.
I don't know what I'm supposed to do with this information. it did make me feel good because I've never been in a horrible relationship that made me wanna cheat.
At least you're admitting it's not an accident. Good
There is no excuse for cheating. This is the ultimate deal breaker. The second I learn you cheated, you're out, and dead to me.
I agree 👍
"I won't give you the whole sob story behind why I cheated but it was a nasty relationship, he wasn't a good guy and cheating was the only way I could cope."
"cheating was the only way I could cope."
How does that work?
It isn't important for the take.
It is. Your admittance is overshadowed by some kind of lack of malice. This changed the whole tone from "I am a scoundrel" to "This was a cry for help."
But you can keep it to yourself for certain. I was more curious than concerned I admit.
Multiple times I admitted I was wrong. The story behind why I felt the need to do it would have just been me rationalizing why I did what I did.
I wasn't out to cast blame elsewhere. I know what I did was wrong, no matter what he may have done first to push me there.
Not to mention, "the sob story" isn't one I'm ready to share. It still is difficult for me to deal with now and it was all between eight and five years ago.
A few people were curious but even if you knew all the details, it's not an excuse to cheat.
It isn't a matter of excuses. People have this very bilateral sense of the world. The motivation behind why we do what we do is more important than what we do. This glimpse of depth, even in just a sentence, has greatly complicated the world.
The brutal realities of relationships are so well hidden in life. From not being able to leave due to financial needs to being vindicated of person fault through the selfish madness humans sometimes express there's a lot there.
Keep your story. I don't want it anymore. These people are plenty entertained by simple black and white lines.
I'll go.
Since you know the answer why put it out there? Is this to get 'sympathy' or validation that somehow you were justified in BETRAYING someone you claimed you love or cared about? If so why bother, you already have your conscience to guide your feelings of guilt, but it didn't stop you from doing it. The person your S/O and you may have had problems, but being a adult is about either resolving or choosing not to resolve the problems (moving on from the relationship), cheating is simply a cowards way of excusing themselves to face the problems and fix them or to leave the relationship in a mature manner. You said you've been cheated on, you seem to know at least on a surface level that it wasn't right, but who cares right? You don't, weakness and degree of character has been shown to yourself and the world... now you need to gleam what you will from it... I won't offer any advice... why, because you're the person who betrayed someone, why would I help? I won't, cheers. Learn at least come
I hate cheaters, but at least you're not trying to make excuses for it, so I can't help but respect that.
truth.
only need to add: there are people who cheat cause it's some kind of kink or fetish to them
great take
>He wasn't a good guy
>I tried to leave many times
There it is, the lie is spotted. I could say many things about you but I'll get a message by gag saying my opinion has been removed, since this is favourite safe space for snowflakes.
What part was a lie exactly?
The part where I said he wasn't a good guy and that I tried to leave many times?
Did you know him?
No, you didn't.
Do you know anything about my relationship?
No, you don't know that either.
Your opinion of me doesn't matter especially seeing as you think you know me when you definitely don't have a clue about me.
Cheating is never an accident. It is always an intentional act, and the cheater is always 100% responsible for their actions, even as a drunk woman.
Cheating is ALWAYS a choice. Let's not be ridiculous.
Great my take for the last section. People need to know that someone cheats isn't an accident.