This take is so helpful. I'm still going to keep being a feminist, but like you, I believe in EQUALITY, not favor for women. Everyone should have an equal role in the workplace and at home. These gender issues you described are still, sadly, prominent in a lot of cultures.
well i thought most men and women like people of their own races, which i see everyday lol i guess i was wrong according to this? or i missed the point? Most White guys don't prefer Asians over whites. Besides i do agree some White girls act like they prefer MOC when they don't in reality they just do it to get attention from White boys.
THIS! I have no idea why a culture would evolve this way, but it obviously did. And it's got to stop. Thank you for pointing out what may be the single most contributing factor to racial ills in this country today. If I had a magic wand, I'd erase this cultural meme from the face of the planet. It's not about race, people; it's about culture.
Your point about black men and women is interesting. In the broader scale, we're looking at a future where there are going to be more white-collar women than men.
Are women (of any race) in general going to be willing to date or marry a man who makes less money than them? Will a white-collar woman date a blue-collar man?
What's going to happen at that point? What should happen at that point?
This is very much a cultural thing. Cultures are the thing that divide us, not race or gender. We need to understand that in America there are so many cultures it's hard to remember that they exist because they are relegated to small communities instead of the major ideology of Western society.
There are many cultures in America that can coexist and others that have no place in the continuation of this country.
I can agree with you in a lot of your observations. Sadly a lot of people are responsible for their lives, crying woe is me instead of doing something about it. I live in the UK and you get people her who didn't bother at school so leave with no qualifications and get upset because they cannot get a decent paying jobs so end up living on the state. But instead of living within their means end up having a lot of kids just making things worse. Then they blame other people for their plight !!!
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Wow, that was the most frank and accurate discussion of those topics from that particular perspective I have ever encountered.
"If a girl in my ethnicity was 300 pounds overweight and said she was beautiful, she would be beaten back into shape. We also have to work harder to be considered beautiful than other ethnicity of girls. "
Umm... okay. Considering what a huge percent of black girls seem drastically overweight I kind of doubt that.
I do think blacks would legit be better off if the USA banned interracial sex/dating/marriage.
@zagor black women are the least likely to wed. Combine that with interracial dating and a neo imperlistic white beauty standard, and you have a very white supremacist dating system and damages black family formation and marriage.
Well hot damn girl. This was an amazing read. I agree completely. It is time for each of us to be responsible for our own actions, attitudes, and treatment of others. Well done.
Sensible, mature and real analysis. Way to go, your Take is a must read to everyone in this site. Thank you.
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you're generalizing racial communities based on things you see and hear. Really though, you're just hanging around crappy people that dont share your values. Anybody can be a bad person and treat someone else poorly. Plus, you're taking what the media pushes to heart. And lets be honest, the media doesn't play as big of a role in our lives as it used to. Its very distrusting.
"essentially the women are expected to play the role of the man and woman, but the men have no responsibilities."
100% horse shit. Stopped reading after this incredibly retarded line. Women have zero responsibilities. You aren't even expected to be held accountable for your own sexual activities. If you regretted it, rape.
Well I would prefer to date women within my own race because I want a family and I'd prefer my children to be the same race.
I don't feel people to date outside their race are doing wrong or injustice. I just personally don't want it for me.
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I am a highly educated black man who has been trashed by many black women. My friends (other highly educated black men) speak about this frequently. However, I have had positive relationships with black women as well. It must simply be human nature to judge a book by its cover.
not that bad analysis. I just want to add: white girls: just not adore black guys because of their longer penis size. See also their character and other features.
Maybe black girls should stop having babies who will not have a father involved in their lives; you can't disavow responsibility for that problem.
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100% agree, unpopular opinion here but I do wish people would stop being so overly confident and thinking they are the best, but not constantly complain about being ugly.
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This take is so helpful. I'm still going to keep being a feminist, but like you, I believe in EQUALITY, not favor for women. Everyone should have an equal role in the workplace and at home. These gender issues you described are still, sadly, prominent in a lot of cultures.
well i thought most men and women like people of their own races, which i see everyday lol i guess i was wrong according to this? or i missed the point? Most White guys don't prefer Asians over whites. Besides i do agree some White girls act like they prefer MOC when they don't in reality they just do it to get attention from White boys.
THIS! I have no idea why a culture would evolve this way, but it obviously did. And it's got to stop. Thank you for pointing out what may be the single most contributing factor to racial ills in this country today. If I had a magic wand, I'd erase this cultural meme from the face of the planet. It's not about race, people; it's about culture.
Your point about black men and women is interesting. In the broader scale, we're looking at a future where there are going to be more white-collar women than men.
Are women (of any race) in general going to be willing to date or marry a man who makes less money than them? Will a white-collar woman date a blue-collar man?
What's going to happen at that point? What should happen at that point?
This is very much a cultural thing. Cultures are the thing that divide us, not race or gender. We need to understand that in America there are so many cultures it's hard to remember that they exist because they are relegated to small communities instead of the major ideology of Western society.
There are many cultures in America that can coexist and others that have no place in the continuation of this country.
I can agree with you in a lot of your observations. Sadly a lot of people are responsible for their lives, crying woe is me instead of doing something about it. I live in the UK and you get people her who didn't bother at school so leave with no qualifications and get upset because they cannot get a decent paying jobs so end up living on the state. But instead of living within their means end up having a lot of kids just making things worse. Then they blame other people for their plight !!!
Wow, that was the most frank and accurate discussion of those topics from that particular perspective I have ever encountered.
"If a girl in my ethnicity was 300 pounds overweight and said she was beautiful, she would be beaten back into shape. We also have to work harder to be considered beautiful than other ethnicity of girls. "
Umm... okay. Considering what a huge percent of black girls seem drastically overweight I kind of doubt that.
I do think blacks would legit be better off if the USA banned interracial sex/dating/marriage.
Like it did in many places before 1960?
@zagor go look up black marriage rates in the usa and illegitimacy rates for 1950 and 2015. Its a large difference.
I don't think the breakdown in black marriage rates is substantially related to interracial marriage.
@zagor black women are the least likely to wed. Combine that with interracial dating and a neo imperlistic white beauty standard, and you have a very white supremacist dating system and damages black family formation and marriage.
Marriage in the black community isn't down because black men are marrying white women, it's down because they're not marrying, period.
@zagor dont be so racist. 😂
Is that the buzzword of the day? Why not "cuck" or one of the other terms the brilliant people here throw around?
Well hot damn girl. This was an amazing read. I agree completely. It is time for each of us to be responsible for our own actions, attitudes, and treatment of others. Well done.
Sensible, mature and real analysis. Way to go, your Take is a must read to everyone in this site. Thank you.
you're generalizing racial communities based on things you see and hear. Really though, you're just hanging around crappy people that dont share your values. Anybody can be a bad person and treat someone else poorly. Plus, you're taking what the media pushes to heart. And lets be honest, the media doesn't play as big of a role in our lives as it used to. Its very distrusting.
"essentially the women are expected to play the role of the man and woman, but the men have no responsibilities."
100% horse shit. Stopped reading after this incredibly retarded line. Women have zero responsibilities. You aren't even expected to be held accountable for your own sexual activities. If you regretted it, rape.
Well I would prefer to date women within my own race because I want a family and I'd prefer my children to be the same race.
I don't feel people to date outside their race are doing wrong or injustice. I just personally don't want it for me.
I am a highly educated black man who has been trashed by many black women. My friends (other highly educated black men) speak about this frequently. However, I have had positive relationships with black women as well. It must simply be human nature to judge a book by its cover.
Hmmm well written. But i can't agree with any of it.. personally, i've never felt *disadvantaged* in dating because of my race.
not that bad analysis. I just want to add: white girls: just not adore black guys because of their longer penis size. See also their character and other features.
Cute take but I am not a victim. I’m aware black women in America do seem to be given a hard time though 🤷🏾♀️
Maybe black girls should stop having babies who will not have a father involved in their lives; you can't disavow responsibility for that problem.
100% agree, unpopular opinion here but I do wish people would stop being so overly confident and thinking they are the best, but not constantly complain about being ugly.
"she would be beaten back into shape"
... and what is exactly wrong with that? It's better to be in shape than not to.