To All the Bitter and Lonely Men Out There: Nobody Owes You a Thing! (Page 2)
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You failed miserably at trying to write something inspirational and instructive from the viewpoint of a man. Its one thing for a woman to take on a male pseudonym to avoid stigma, but it's quite another to use it as a deception to manipulate people into acting how you want them to.
❤️ Same with women to men.
I’d been sexually abused as a child and around a lot of other mean men in my family and grew up with a ton of baggage that kept multiplying. It takes courage to see your own issues, even when they aren’t your own fault & work through the anger & disappointment at the world. Best wishes.
You do realize that you could f*ck hookers right?
And good looking ones at that. Just wear a condom.
Or, if that feels too risky, grab some ass at a strip club.
I haven't done the hooker thing, but thats because i still feel like i got options and knowing that i slept with hookers would destroy my chances with a lot of women.
I have grabbed ass at strip clubs tough...
Its somewhat satisfying
The truth is you can be ugly and have a girl; you just need to have power, money or fame. You need to be ambitious and yet exciting enough. Is it worth it to change who you are to satisfy the expectations of someone else? All this for ejaculation and “company” of someone who will leave you anyway?
Good on you for doing some soul searching and letting that hate and negativity go. It's no good to hold onto to stuff like that. And it takes a lot to look in the mirror and address yourself as the problem. I say keep digging and finding out more about yourself. Keep cutting off the negative and piling on the positive and watching the changes. Good luck to you!
I'm single, never done it, haven't been on a date in 14 years, and honestly I don't really care that much about it. I have too many other interests keeping me busy to even worry about not having a girlfriend. That isn't to say I don't want a girlfriend, because I definitely do. But I'm just not going out of my way to find one, as I said I'm too busy and not a very social person.
In the city I live in, if you aren't a social butterfly your chances of finding and keeping a girlfriend are low. So anyway as for right, I'm fine being single and if I eventually bump into a really geeky gamer girl who shares my interests. Then awesome, but until then, I'm fine single.
I skimmed through your wall of text. Yes nobody owes me a damn thing. Likewise I don't owe anyone a damn thing either. Also that's a terrible mentality to have to think people owe you something. Do good and don't expect anything in return and don't take stuff personal. Sometimes people are just being kind.
Your inspiring! Honestly though try a dating agency they really help people find each other. And here's a virtual hug, there's definitely a girl out there somewhere for you. I mean there's like 7 billion people on the planet so the chances are very high.
I love seeing all the salty guys gathering here.
In real life, these salty internet boys are the ones who think buying a woman a drink entitles them to her vagina. Lovely to see them all congregating here.
Lol another young girl on G@G who think she knows everything
There is no entitlement in the Cosoms. Humans delude themselves.
@TheUglyMan Ah, another ignorant man who thinks years equal wisdom.
@Valiant Years equal experience, and experience equals wisdom, regardless of years.
@Jon_25 years don’t equal wisdom, but experience does. I’ve met 25 year olds wiser then 50 year olds.
You're completely right. But honestly, it takes a really blind person to not have picked up ANY wisdom after 50 years of experiences. I mean, life happens to everyone-- some more than others-- but still it happens. The older you are, the more experienced you are, regardless of wether someone half your age has had the same shit happen to them as well, and then some. Unless you just close your eyes, you're gonna learn SOME things as the years go by. That's just a fact of life. More years= more experience. The more experience the more likely to be wise. But it's up to them wether they turn that experience into wisdom or not.
@Jon_25 yeah, exactly. My point here was the guy trying to discredit my statement by pointing out my age was ignorant, and not very wise.
Not entirely. I mean, you're the one who said "these salty internet guys are the ones who think buying a woman a drink entitles them to her vagina." And if that's not ignorant I don't know what is (jk I've heard tons worse). But seriously. That's a big blanket statement. I don't agree with everything he said, and I sure as hell don't think that. You came off sounding like an arrogant, ignorant little girl. I doubt you really are one, but that's what your comment sounded like for sure. That's what got his reaction.
@Jon_25 well yeah of course it did
On a Take like this you can’t write anything serious (though I do mean the second part, I despise those men at bars who think buying a woman a drink entitled them to sex). In complete honesty I really was purposefully goading blue anons.
I don't see why you can't write anything serious here. Other people clearly wrote seriously. If you're goading them don't try and stop them from goading back, turnabout is fair play.
Ya those guys suck, but not every guy who dislikes a post is like that.
@Jon_25 I just didn’t really take this article that seriously, hence the not serious reply. And no not every blue downvoter is like that, it just happens that a majority of men who disagree with this Take are als of the belief they’re entitled.
That may be the case, I don't know, but them disliking this never automatically* mean they think they're entitled, (and not every man who thinks he's entitled will treat a girl like crap, although it's much more likely).
It's fine that you don't take it seriously. Nobody's forcing you to. Just keep in mind that people who do take it seriously are gonna take your comment seriously, and be ready to back off if you aren't really serious about it.
@Jon_25 I know people will take this rather serious, I think it’s kinda humorous. Thanks for the respectful conversation though, nice to see people online who don’t get fired up and insensible quickly.
No problem, just don't go overboard with things and make mortal enemies if you can help it.
We're not all like that
@VaIiant Let's not forget about their standards. I laugh every time I read their preferences especially in terms of height, weight, features, skin tone, hair color. I mean yes no one should settle but don't complain about being single and not getting any dates.
@desidoll Baha way to hit the nail right on the head.
“Uhh I’m a 5’8, 240 pound man... my ideal woman? Blonde, smoking hot body, huge boobs”
I had a female get upset at the club one time because I wouldn't buy her a drink lol, should I generalize and say all women think they're entitled to free drinks in the club because they're female?
@EvilPimp not all, but probably most.
I love to see all the salty femiextremists gathering here. nice to see the only feminazi appeaser is the @asker though, Nice to see men unite like this against femiextremists and their appeasers and neurophobics
@EvilPimp Very good
just an excuse for sponging females to get free drinks all night. then complain they are raped.
@martinxcv : stop drinking and going to bars. Fixt
@Ahsthen Dumb thing to say. So i should stop drinking and going to pub because women sponge. No how about either don't buy women free drinks all night or women stop sponging or complaining they are raped when they freeload all night.
@martinxcv : it means stop being a shitberg and the flies won't be attracted to you. Doh.
@martinxcv you sound like a troll.
It takes a woman to label someone a troll for disgreeing with them.
@martinxcv I mean the stuff you’re saying, not the disagreement.
@Valiant: he's what Ken Wilber calls one of those 'you can't tell me what to do!' -ers. Although, depending on the context, most people are...
Well, it's good to know you're working through that. For me, I'm in a place these days where I'm not sure if I even want to be in any more relationships not because I think women should owe me something but because I'm not sure if I can reconcile with and tolerate many women's mindsets and attitudes about life, what they think is important, and even their own outlooks on men. I believe this is how a lot of other guys are feeling too.
Simpler: entertain those who meet your emotional criteria. Shitcan the rest.
@Ahsthen Also true.
This doesn't help me whatsoever haha. I'm still a virgin and I've never hated girls. Everyone is free to make their own choices just as I am free to make my own. I want to be physically attracted to my partner and for them to possess certain personality traits. Obviously they have things they desire as well. I've always been genuinely nice... like I don't have to try. It's just in my nature. Feel free to call me arrogant. I also think I have a decent figure. Not buff, but pretty toned. And yet... there's something about me that just doesn't quite do it for girls. Maybe I'm dull. Maybe it's my financial stability and independence or social status. I don't know. I mean I'm not ever gonna stop being a nice person or change myself, but I can't help but feel bitter about me being girl repellent. Sometimes I feel I should just give up on love, focus on me and go hermit somewhere. Good pep talk though bud.
Although I’m glad you don’t think women are evil anymore, I don’t understand how you think that will improve your chances of finding a girlfriend. I’m not saying you need to lose weight or be good-looking either, though, because there are many fat and ugly men that have girlfriends.
First, your chances will be higher if you go for someone similar or worse than you (in all aspects). Second, you need to find out how to talk to women in a way that makes them excited about you. Women love a good communicator (verbal and nonverbal), and many men don’t know how to do this right. Third, it’s good to have something about you that stands out from the rest, that way even if you’re average in everything else, it can be happily overlooked.
LMFAO This is hilarious.
And disgusting.
This society that tells men to settle for less while encouraging women to shoot for the stars is TOXIC and NEEDS TO STOP!
Can't believe someone is trying to tell to tell a fellow human being to
"go for someone similar or worse than you (in all aspects)."
Would YOU want that for yourself?
@L0NEWLF I think she is talking about a starting point for him, not necessarily the girl of his dreams. Learning to socialize with females is not always natural to some, it sometimes takes practice. Why not start with a fat ugly girl that needs attention and sex too? Build some confidence. Get laid, possibly get a blow job. Do a few dates. Do you know what that can do for his ego? Then, if he wants to move up the food chain, at least he has some experience and confidence to build on. Baby steps.
@L0NEWLF she's got some good points. One of the very few honest women here on this take.
@L0NEWLF Very good comment, the hypocrisy with these femiextremists is astounding. And how arrogant of her as well.
Hating is a female is not good. But hating men is not good too.
#Feminism and #Metoo have started from equality movement to men hating so now they are facing the consequences.
Its science, every action has equal and opposite reaction.
So if you hate men and manipulate men then you're going to get that hate back. Its all science and spiritual people call it karma.
I dont know whats so much fuss about it.
Feminism was never started to go where it has gone now.
And now we have metoo movement aswell. I mean wtf. It ain't supposed to be like that.
Thats the reason why you see so many angry men in comments. And thats exactly the reason why movements like mgtow are growing so rapidly.
Good luck on your journey.
I'm glad you wrote this - there are a lot of people on here (and not only guys) who could learn a lot from it.
Time flies, and they're wasting the best years of their lives being bitter.
He's still getting no pussy.
@TheUglyMan so you refer a woman as *pussy* or that's all what you care about.
@desidoll no that's not what I mean. The point is his results with women remain the same.
@JimRSmith couldn’t have said it better myself 👍🏻
You must be incredibly strong and intelligent to have realized this on your own. This is amazing, and I'm honestly really impressed with your ability to reconcile and realize that women aren't in the wrong.. Wow!
Great take. I’m 28, not a Virgin, and I’ve had my fair share of dating and flings but still have not had a proper relationship or girlfriend and can sorta relate.
I’ve definitely been envious and maybe bitter of my friends who are in relationships or married, maybe not because of the person they were with but the fact that they don’t have to “play the game” anymore and have something stable if that makes any sense.
I realized that I’ve been lookingin the wrong places like online dating and using that as my only tool, which is a bad idea.
That being said, I had to take a break from dating because I was going on too many dates where the girls would be flaky or someone I wasn’t attracted to.
I think I’d rather be single than be in a toxic relationship or just settle just for the sake of being in a relationship.
You date someone because you actually like the person, not because it’s expected of you.
You're great! Way to take responsibility for your life! You also don't sound ugly at all compared to a lot of guys here. :)
Lol all the misogynists rated me down, they know they're ugly :)
its the same amount of guys downvoting everything xD
How exactly can someone "sound" ugly? Can you "see" someone loud too?
How do you know all the guys downvoting this opinion are misogynists?
Oh hey, mind if I jump in here? Just looking for a quick clarification:
What do you mean by "misogynistic"? I always hear it used, but no one ever explains what they mean by it.
@Jon_25 Misogynist = Having a different opinion.
Depends on who you ask, but my take is anyone who actively fights against the idea that women and men both need to be treated equally. For example, women being in a "man's" job by merits or not emasculating men who chose to parent. Haters gon' hate, @Astria!
@Truthatanycost Haha that's what I was starting to think. Most people don't use it distinctively.
@NobodySpecial427 that makes sense, but then why does disliking this post make people misogynistic? This is about a guy dealing with a problem he had that did involve women, but nobody's saying he should still hate women that i can tell. Correct me if I'm wrong, but i haven't heard any guys downing women here. Just the MyTaker. So then why are they misogynists?
@Jon_25 It really shouldn't. Maybe the dislikes were just having a bad day and didn't take it so well, or something else we don't know about. Hell, it could be the dreaded "m" word rearing it's head. Barring that, was the orignal comment all that bad?
This guy's actively working to be happy, so I really don't get all the down votes on the supportive comments *shrugs*
@NobodySpecial427 No not at all, I was just curious what you meant misogynist to mean, and how these guys would fit that word. Thanks for clarifying. :)
@VaIiant
Lol pathetic. :D
@Unit1 Ugly minds, ugly character.
@TheUglyMan I know :)
@Jon_25 =women haters
@Truthatanycos You're a misogynist
@Jon_25 @NobodySpecial427
There is no reason to dislike this, it advocate taking responsibility for your life instead of hating on and blaming women. I think that's obvious.
I was just going to let this comment pass, but you begged me to give you my down vote - so here it is...
@NobodySpecial427 His approach towards women is all wrong. This politically correct touchy feely shit will get a guy put into the friendzone so fast it will make your head spin. He needs to man up, and to forget about getting in touch with his feminine side.
Childish response by a femiextremist to men rightfully disgreeing with her comment. And branding men who disagree with you misogynists. You are a misandrist and a neurophobe.
@martinxcv
If you think you know me from one comment, you're extremely stupid. :)
Astria... if someone is bitter and lonely enough they will create new accounts to downvote you 😂 by the way how's mr bunny?
@betaTester are you one of those? her bunny throws piles of turds on your whey pancakes
Non of that shit will work and you are anon so your opinion means nothing.
Im 27 and a lonely loser but I have enough dignity to be straight and not a feminist.
Oh by the way listening to womens sex positivity and listening to how much they are screwing other guys means they friendzoned your fat ass and made you their cucky friend and you deserve it.
Society to Men: "You're not entitled to love."
Society to Women: "There's someone out there for you, everyone deserves to find true love!"
Seems fair.
The first statement should apply to women just as much, I agree.
While also telling men that they're losers if they can't easily get a girlfriend/date at the drop of a hat.
@Shadow44 calling them ugly, freaks, creeps, weirdos etc.
@martinxcv Exactly especially "creeps" when they're not being creepy. Though creep comes more from a guy showing his interest.