Why People in Abusive Relationships Can’t “Just Leave”. (Page 2)
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Also, ypu may just hope it will get better. The person may have not been like that from the beginning so the abusive behaviour looks more like something isolated, especially when they are not doing it daily.
I totally get it.
Well in the end they actually can "just leave"... It's the extreme complication of the effects of leavin, and the human mind the hinder the process.. That's basically what's bein said.. Basically "They can leave, but many times it's just waaay too complicated for it to happen at the right time"..
... Any advice on helping a partner who has had a history of being abused?
TRUST. And PATIENCE.
Well I'll try đ„ I don't know how much time we have left, I think at the end of the day all I will be able to do is remind her how she should be treated by men and stop allowing others to treat her like shit.
Exactly! Just be patient with her.
Yes just keep treating her with kindness â€
I love the way this take is focused on women victims when in reality many women abuse their male partners, not physically but in pretty much every other way but do me get sympathy? Of course not. Women are the only ones allowed to be victims in 2018.
Why do you think it's focused on women? The pictures? Can't you look beyond that?
Still I thought the liberal ideology of 2018 was to be all inclusive? Oh sorry, all inclusive expect for white men. Yeah. What harm is it to add a photo of a male victim? But no it's all propaganda to make men look always wrong.
Dude! It's such a horrible way of looking at things which don't even matter!
So male victims "don't even matter"? Are you kidding me?
Victims MATTER. Male or Female. The pain, the hurt, the emotion... it's all same for both the sexes. And, I don't think I've ever mentioned that the abuser is a male always... I've kept it strictly to both the sexes... You'll talk about the pictures... I didn't even put a thought to what pictures I'm using. That's what I found on Google. And also, the pictures don't matter.
I had a relationship where everything I thought or wanted was wrong unless my partner agreed with it, and pointing out anything that was obviously wrong in their behaviour was pointless because... everything I thought or wanted was wrong unless my partner agreed with it.
Shit, I lived the Big Bang Theory.
Why don't they just leave?
Why don't they just get a job?
Why don't they just work harder?
Why don't they just quit the drugs/drinking?
Why don't they just get better friends?
Why don't they just eat less and exercise?
Human empathy often leaves a lot to be desired in many aspects of life
Solutions seem simple to the outsider who does not care to comprehend the totality of someone's situation
It is so easy to be perfect flawless individuals so why don't we all just do that?
I didn't left my abusive relationship on time, because of blind love and hope that people can be good. ... big mistake, but happy that its over.
Thank God!
Men usually go after a type of woman who is in need of love, possibly a little inexperienced in reading men. Only to fall into the mans trap , he's usually possessive jealous the only way is his. But the frightening part I find these women love them they get beat up , end up in A, E make excuses for his actions and go back to him to start al over again. They only get out of this situation is in a body bag ,, SAD...
They can leave, but it is not easy, and its hard to be motivated enough to escape when your self worth is driven into the ground.
However, objectively, if there is no threat of bodily harm, then it is a person's choice to stay. A choice I will not empathize with.
Physical abuse, if you know anyone experiencing this, please call the authorities, no matter if it destroys your friendship with them, they'll realize it was best later.
Not to mention that many abusers choose to victimize women who are economically disadvantaged, and may further control finances, so that getting out also means having no money to live, and that's not really a good option either.
Great Take.
I've never been in an abusive relationship, but I have friends who have, and so many people simplify the problem by glibly asking "Why don't you just leave?"
As you've said so well, it's not always that simple.
Why are all the pictures making the female the victim. You know the domestic violence is about even among the sexes right?
Ik. And that's what I found online.
The myTake is for both genders, the writing clearly shows that. Stop being butthurt about things that don't matter.
@CubsterShura I don't think it's butt-hurt with all the misinformation out there.
I think it does matter that it goes both ways and there are abusive women as well. But I agree, it's not a "competition".
This is very good and informative for all of us.
Thank you for this take 😊
Thank YOU for your opinion :)
Really good MyTake, this is so so needed. And nothing in this can't be said enough
Thanks :)
That is why when you get the first sign of a bad boyfriend , leave don't stay cause itll only get worse
@Nina12346 In my country the men need to be even more careful about this because there's no one to stand up for abused men.
@Dchrls78104 I for one will definitely stand up for someone , I hate violence and especially bullies.
Exactly!! Mine forced me to be with him and go through a pregnancy with him, and now I definitely can't leave.
This is sad. Not angrily or jokingly sad, but honestly, tear-inducingly sad.
Reminds me of another take where someone claimed, the more they hit you, the more they love you haha.
I wouldn't look for logic in this. There is none to be found.
Abuse is terrible all you can try to do is attempt to convince them to leave, maybe call the cops if you manage to catch it but other than that its up to them
Stockholm Syndrome.
Some people love the power they gives them to be beaten and have something over their mates.
Quit being sexist it happens to men too