Well the first part is at odds with the title. All of the people you described are unhappy.
If you're longing for something you don't have. If you're not in the moment enjoying your life, you're not 'happy'. They may not be depressed, they may even be content, but for sure they're not happy.
This makes no sense. I feel people cheat out of a character flaw. A lot of people who claim to be happy just married a safe partner who they might or might not like just because he or she is a good person.
I feel that you should only date people who you're actually attracted to...
And that still stands. I also want to say that this is a very good Take and thoughtfully written, more so than most people are willing to give this subject. Life is not always black and white.
You are making a philosophy of this. People who cheat are always worthless pieces of shit and THAT is the only true reason why somebody cheats. There is no other. And everybody can make a mistake and waste time on a person like that. We are human beings, we make mistakes. Whats important is that the moment you find out you got the wrong person you completely remove them from your life for good.
Well said and I agree, cheating ain't as simple as people make it seem. I believe cheating is a thing that will eventually happen in a relationship and when it does happen, it's better to rise above, communicate, even comprise and find a way to keep the relationship
Happy people don't cheat, but content people with impulse control issues do. I wish people would stop saying that happy people cheat. If happy people cheated, why would people still be married when they get into retirement homes?
If they're happy and fulfilled in their relationship, they're not going to cheat. Plus, only shitty people cheat, rather than end the relationship like a decent person would do.
Decent people can be driven to do terrible things. It's not an excuse. If you went and did it, that's bad, but I strongly don't think only "good" people don't cheat and only "bad" people cheat. That's an oversimplification that doesn't hold true under scrutiny.
Love is accepting the other person as they are at all times. if you love someone who cheats, then that's just the truth. If the love is real, then the love endures.
It's only cheating if you have an exclusive relationship. A non-exclusive (open) renders the whole question moot and allows you to skip the negative emotions like betrayal and jealousy. If you don't define it as "cheating", then there's no bad...
I keep saying this, everyone cheats, all it takes are the right circumstances and the right opportunity. As long as it's only about sex, i couldn't care less.
I don't believe in shit happens. That's an excuse when people don't understand the events that lead to the incident. Look at accidents: investigators can trace the event that lead to it, and find who is actually at fault, which can involve a whole mess of people.
I think someone who says shit happens when it comes to cheating falls in the "lack of character" box. lol.
Oh don't be one sided about happy people. It makes you seem like jealous you can't find happiness. Maybe that's just under your circumstances and you probably get attracted by depressed guys.
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Good question. If I were with a girl who told me she was happy... and cheated anyway, I would never speak to her again in life...
Easy to argue this, too easy in fact, if it was really that simple then we just would ostracize all of them and we wouldn't have any more of them in our society. People fucking cheat. We've accepted that fact already, why is it so hard to just consider that they're people as well with thought processes and emotions as well? They're not just caricatures who we can pin with a giant BAD sign. Sure, it's easier that way, but that doesn't solve anything and will only allow them and yourself to suffer these woes in the future.
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Well the first part is at odds with the title. All of the people you described are unhappy.
If you're longing for something you don't have. If you're not in the moment enjoying your life, you're not 'happy'. They may not be depressed, they may even be content, but for sure they're not happy.
This makes no sense. I feel people cheat out of a character flaw. A lot of people who claim to be happy just married a safe partner who they might or might not like just because he or she is a good person.
I feel that you should only date people who you're actually attracted to...
Well, personally, I'd say The Term "Cheating" Is Erroneous and Foolish, and No One Should Use It ↗
And that still stands. I also want to say that this is a very good Take and thoughtfully written, more so than most people are willing to give this subject. Life is not always black and white.
You are making a philosophy of this. People who cheat are always worthless pieces of shit and THAT is the only true reason why somebody cheats. There is no other. And everybody can make a mistake and waste time on a person like that. We are human beings, we make mistakes. Whats important is that the moment you find out you got the wrong person you completely remove them from your life for good.
Well said and I agree, cheating ain't as simple as people make it seem. I believe cheating is a thing that will eventually happen in a relationship and when it does happen, it's better to rise above, communicate, even comprise and find a way to keep the relationship
Happy people don't cheat, but content people with impulse control issues do. I wish people would stop saying that happy people cheat. If happy people cheated, why would people still be married when they get into retirement homes?
If they're happy and fulfilled in their relationship, they're not going to cheat. Plus, only shitty people cheat, rather than end the relationship like a decent person would do.
Decent people can be driven to do terrible things. It's not an excuse. If you went and did it, that's bad, but I strongly don't think only "good" people don't cheat and only "bad" people cheat. That's an oversimplification that doesn't hold true under scrutiny.
Love is accepting the other person as they are at all times. if you love someone who cheats, then that's just the truth. If the love is real, then the love endures.
It's only cheating if you have an exclusive relationship. A non-exclusive (open) renders the whole question moot and allows you to skip the negative emotions like betrayal and jealousy. If you don't define it as "cheating", then there's no bad...
Open relationships... for the win! Need more sex--do this. Jealousy could happen, but it's less likely if you're poly and need sexual freedom!
I keep saying this, everyone cheats, all it takes are the right circumstances and the right opportunity. As long as it's only about sex, i couldn't care less.
Your take reads like a transcript of a TED talk.
... that I've watched.
Nice! Send me the talk?
www.ted.com/.../esther_perel_rethinking_infidelity_a_talk_for_anyone_who_has_ever_loved
Dull marriages, shitty partner, rich, good looking, high sex drive and maybe they aren't monogamous as thought to be.
I think happy people don't cheat, there shouldn't be any reason to...
but if your unhappy talk to your spouse before you cheat
More like break up with your spouse before you cheat.
@ImJustCurious13 that too as well :)
Why Happy People Cheat?
Simple: They are not happy.
nothing about humans is simple
It is and it isn't.
Not only lack of character or unhappiness cause betrayal. Shit happens.
Thanks for reading.
I don't believe in shit happens. That's an excuse when people don't understand the events that lead to the incident.
Look at accidents: investigators can trace the event that lead to it, and find who is actually at fault, which can involve a whole mess of people.
I think someone who says shit happens when it comes to cheating falls in the "lack of character" box. lol.
I cheat on my boyfriend by giving my ass to other boyz
LOL. that just kinda funny to me.. I know a girl that i did that with many times
@BronzedAdonis
We all know that sweetie LOL
Thanks for reading.
Oh don't be one sided about happy people. It makes you seem like jealous you can't find happiness. Maybe that's just under your circumstances and you probably get attracted by depressed guys.
Good question. If I were with a girl who told me she was happy... and cheated anyway, I would never speak to her again in life...
I cheating on my girlfriend so I could teach her some new tricks.
Why happy people cheat:
Because they are selfish scumbags
Easy to argue this, too easy in fact, if it was really that simple then we just would ostracize all of them and we wouldn't have any more of them in our society. People fucking cheat. We've accepted that fact already, why is it so hard to just consider that they're people as well with thought processes and emotions as well? They're not just caricatures who we can pin with a giant BAD sign. Sure, it's easier that way, but that doesn't solve anything and will only allow them and yourself to suffer these woes in the future.