We're lead to believe by modern relationship experts that being possessive and dominant towards your partner are bad things. They are not.
I love it when my boyfriend acts possessive towards me, like when he strictly told me to not to talk to a guy, because he gets vibe from him that he's into me. When he was taking me out for lunch with his friends, he told me to not wear a top which he thought showed too much.
Any relationship 'expert' would immediately go berserk and say "oh my god, he's abusive, dump him!". I say otherwise.
My boyfriend told me not to do these things because he obviously cares about me. He doesn't want me to be ogled at and objectified. He doesn't want me to give wrong signals to that guy who is apparently into me.
You may say, but aren't you a grown adult to decide your own good? I am. But my boyfriend knows how other men think. I don't. Which is why he's guiding me through. My boyfriend is older than me, so there's age experience.
In bed he's completely in charge and oh my. That is the biggest turn on for me. He just pins me down and has his way with me. He gives me love bites in different places. He whispers how I'm only his and his, how lucky he is to have me in his life.
Before this, I dated a guy who was, frankly what we call a 'soyboy'. He never acted dominant towards me, was always like "its your choice, do whatever you want". I always felt something was missing. I didn't feel loved and cherished.
With my boyfriend though, I feel loved. I am a woman who doesn't take shit otherwise. When I'm at school and work, I have my strong woman mode on. I don't take anything lying down, have things done, protect myself. But when I'm with my boyfriend, I can shed that strong woman mode and be his sweet submissive girlfriend. Be protected by him. Let him take control. It makes me feel feminine.
You see, I feel that women in general are not wired to take control. They can take control of need be, but they can't keep it going for long. They need to relax a bit and get out of that shell of strong woman once in a while.
But the way things are going where people are made to act against their nature... I'm worried. A guy taking control in relationship is deemed as toxic masculinity. A girl who loves being submissive is victim.
I just want to share this to show how there are women out there who do like being dominated.
Being dominated by someone requires a lot of trust. You have to trust that your guy wants good for you and won't hurt you Its key for being in such relationship. You need to be strong to let other person take control.
I hope these people realise that men and women are inherently different and the relationship dynamics should be accordingly.
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