This is the story of how I met "The One"
No, actually this is the story of my life.
Because I haven't met "The One".
But I think I may be getting closer.
My first ex was like a fairytale. He was the handsome prince that swept me off my feet. At that time I was still a prude. Then he cheated.
My second ex was also a prince, though he was a frog. I mean, I don't need a handsome one anymore. Just someone who is loyal. And he was loyal. I loved him despite not being attracted. In fact, I kind of let go being a prude. But I still can't let him pop my cherry. Then he left, because he really wanted that cherry.
My third ex, I gave him my cherry. Thought that would make him stay. I wanted him to give me the grand happy ending, a wedding, but he's not ready yet. Wasn't prepared to have kids yet. But now living in with someone else.
My fourth, not an ex, was a random guy I hooked up with. I thought maybe all I need was sex. Already tired of relationships. He said he loved making love to me but not too eager talking with me afterwards. Ghosted me.
At this point in my life, all I need is someone to want me, and still keep wanting me.
My fifth, the current one is a guy who likes talking with me. He is naughty, something that wasn't new to me. Haven't met him personally. Wants to hook up with me once he gets here. Wants a child from me. Wants me to fulfill all his sexual fantasies. Someone who is afraid of getting married because he was cheated by his fiancee.
And you know what? I actually think he's the one. And you know why? If I hadn't experienced all the relationships that didn't workout, and if I was still the same person I was from the beginning, this last one won't actually work. But surprisingly, it does!
I can give myself now fully, no holding back. I actually think marriage is not an end goal. And I shouldn't pressure a guy to marry me because if he really wants to, he will.
He is someone who understands me. Someone who can relate to me. Someone whose past also led him to me.
Because we are all shaped by our past to be the person the right one actually needs.
And if this turn out not to be my last one, at least I know I'm one step closer.
Do you now realize that we choose our next relationship based on how the last one turned out?
And to all the people who's afraid to try again, know that the pain is temporary but it's worth risking your heart because deep down you know someone is out there for you, and you won't get there if you don't even try.
So go ahead, love, make mistakes, because that's what life is all about.
Love if what life is all about.
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